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Let’s Plant Life Seeds!- Seed#2:RELATIONSHIPS

There are 5 things things in life that we know are important, but do not treat with much importance. You see, simply knowing is useless until what we know is applied and manifested in our behavior or actions.

Let me give you 2 simple facts:

1. OUR TIME ON EARTH IS LIMITED. The average life expectancy of a person is 78.8 years according to CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention)

2. WHAT YOU PLANT IN YOUR EARLY YEARS, YOU WILL REAP IN YOUR LATER YEARS.

Some people would see our life as a book, and we’re the authors.
For this time, I want us to picture our life as a garden and we’re the gardeners planting the seeds that we will reap later in our life.

Today, let’s talk about the second seed- RELATIONSHIPS. 🙂

relationship-seed“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”- Ephesians 4:2 

 

There are 3 important relationships in our life: Our relationship with our Self. Our relationship with Others. And our relationship to God. IF we’re doing great on all these 3 relationships, I believe  100% that we can truly be happy.

  • Relationship with your Self. 

According to Rick Warren, the author of Purpose Driven Life, there are 2 things that prevents us from reaching our highest potential. Number one is wishing that we are somebody else (perhaps the person that you admire or envy); and number two is people-pleasing (to the extent that we do things that we may not really like to do but do anyways in order to be accepted). Both of these are destructive because it prevents us from accepting our selves as we are!

When you look at the person in the mirror, who do you see?

Do you see the failure or the fighter that keeps going no matter how many times he fell?

Do you see the ugly because you do not fit to the norms of society or the unique person who is confident in his own kind of beautiful?

Do you see the prideful being who cannot let go of past hurts or the forgiving loving person who choose to believe that there is still goodness in others despite negative past experiences?

Be careful what you seed you are nourishing to your self. You become who you think you are. Make your “I AM” positive.

  • Relationship with your Others. 

Do you want to know how you impact your family or friends? Why not try this simple test. Ask yourself: When you’re around them, do they become happier or gloomier or no change at all?

When I like a person, I light up when they’re around me. I feel much happier, I feel inspired, I feel like the best in me comes out.

When I don’t like a person, I don’t hang out with him for too long. Otherwise, I feel like all the positive energies in me are being sapped out and my monster tendency is slowly coming out!

Now there are also times when I’m around people who do not affect me much. They may be around or not and I won’t care- my world continues to revolve.

Obviously, we all want to have that positive impact to others. We all want to be desirable because we affect them in such a way that they become their best. Just like how it is stated in Proverbs 27:17, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

But how are we as spouses, partners, parents, sons & daughters, and friends? Do we communicate in a positive tone? Do we deliberately set time to bond and enjoy each others’ company? Do we give enough encouragement and affirmation? Do we give more than we get? Do we seek more to listen and understand rather than set rules and so be it? Are we trusted and reliable friends or are we just friends when we can benefit from the friendship? Do you prioritize people or material things?

We all want to be successful, but it’s also important to consider who you will be celebrating your life’s successes with! Nourish your Relationship seeds. You will be grateful for it later in life.

  • Relationship with God. 

I am in my mid-30’s and it is embarrassing for me to admit that I have not read the whole Bible. I know that having a deeper spiritual relationship with God is knowing Him more. And the only way for me to get to know Him is to read other people’s account of Him thru the Scriptures.

Like many others, I know about God, but I did not know Him. I’m still a baby in my walk as a Christian. But I’m trying to have this closer relationship with Him now. I still fail most of the time, God is very patient with me. I delight in knowing that He’s mg Father and He loves me and He’s always just a prayer away. (Isn’t it amazing how we can just talk to Him whenever we want, wherever we want?)

Because I know that God loves me, I can love myself and accept even my undesirable traits.
Because I know that God loves me at my darkest, it is easier for me to love, understand and forgive others.

Get to know God. I know you will like Him a lot! 🙂

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Did you missed the First Seed? Read it here.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Personal, Random Happiness

Have Fun When You Can

You don’t stop having fun when you get old.
You get old when you stop having fun.- Anonymous

When is the last time that you did something that you really enjoyed…something that made you lose track of the time?

I believe that doing something fun is one of the easiest way to show some love for your self. Be it as simple as reading your favorite book or arduous like learning a new skill that you like.

Here are some of the things that I do for fun other than blogging. Yep! This is all me… I’m the one holding the guitar (camera shy), that’s my coloring book in the middle, and my favorite headphone! 🙂

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Here’s one of the songs that I really enjoy listening to. Enjoy! 🙂

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Have fun when you can. Your soul will thank you for it!

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Know Yourself to be Happy

 

“When you know yourself you are empowered. When you accept yourself you are invincible.” ~ Tina Lifford

Do you ever wonder why sometimes, we find ourselves lonely despite our so-called achievements and success? I can think of one reason- because we don’t know who we are. We don’t know what exactly we want in life and we don’t know our purpose. This is why we feel lost and unfulfilled. No wonder even the most successful or wealthy people find themselves being depressed or suicidal.

I strongly believe that to be genuinely happy, we need to know ourselves. We have to figure out what we want so that we can focus and direct our energy and time to that purpose, and not go around wasting another minute of our lives doing the things that don’t give meaning to us.

So why don’t we try to sit down for a while and talk to ourselves as if we are talking to a friend… “What do we like to do?”,  “Can we share that with other people?”, “Would they benefit from it?”,  “Would You benefit from it?”, “Will that make a positive impact in their lives?

If your answer is YES to all these, then start figuring out what can you do NOW in order for you to do what you want to do. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a major step…baby steps are fine, for as long as you are acting on it. Believe me, even the “process” or “journey” itself is enough to change that feeling of loneliness into happiness.

I say good luck to getting to know yourselves and I hope you’ll find joy in discovering your life’s purpose.

Have a happy and meaningful life! =)

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Written: May 26, 2016

Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking

5 Ways to Love Yourself More

“If you don’t love yourself in the right way, you can’t love your neighbor. You can’t be as good as you are supposed to be.”-Joel Osteen

  • I want you to imagine how you would like someone to love you… For sure, you’d want them to accept you whole-heartedly. You’d want them to affirm you, to be proud of your accomplishments, and to push you to continue to grow and be a better person. You’d want them to forgive you and give you another chance. You’d want them to tell you how beautiful a person you are. And definitely, you don’t want them to drag you down with their negativities. Wouldn’t it be nice if there is someone who could do that? What if I tell you there is- and has always been there. Yes, you guess it- I am referring to YOU.

I could give you 3 reasons why we must love ourselves.

  • Because God loves us as His sons and daughters, and we are beautiful in our own unique way.
  • Because we are able to love more, and share the best of our selves when we are at our best .
  • Because we only have one Self- so why not treat it the best we can, right?

Here are 5 Ways that we could love ourselves:

1. Greet yourself with happiness & affection.
When you wake up each day and look in the mirror, smile at the person who’s looking straight back at you. Tell him or her “Gosh, you’re so gorgeous today! You’re going to have a wonderful day and you’ll do great!”
When you put your mindset in a positive state at the start of your day, you’re attracting positive energies and you will most likely feel nicer and experience a good day.

2. Be compassionate with your self.
Don’t be too harsh or critical to your self. If you fail on a certain task, it’s okay (unless somebody else dies because of it, which I highly doubt!). Treat each mistake as lesson to be learned. If right now, all you can see are the negatives in you- switch your lens and review the things that you did right and the things you did that ýmade other people happy.

When I’m starting to hate myself for feeling like I am not being a good mom because I stay late in the office, I do a flashback and recall the other good things that I did or do- like teaching and guiding Gaby in her assignments, spending some time playing and just having fun with her before I put her to sleep in the afternoon, cooking her new meals, etc… This is not a way to justify a certain action but rather, it’s being mindful of our imperfect human condition and having that understanding with ourselves.

According to science research, “Self-compassionate people are better able to accept who they are regardless of the degree of praise they receive from others. In addition, people who are high in self-compassion are no more likely to be narcissistic than people low in self-compassion.”

3. Nurture your self & your need.
Nurturing ourselves means taking care of ourselves by attending to our needs, in order to be healthy in the different aspects of our well-being.
For instance, if your body is shouting for help physically- then make the effort to exercise, get 8 hours sleep & drink plenty of water. If your mind keeps bothering you because it needs upgrading- then learn new skills or improve what you already know. Enroll or have someone teach you to do things that you are passionate about. If your soul is crying for help- seek to have a deeper relationship with God, meditate, love and serve other people, show more kindness to others.

4. Set your boundaries.
Don’t let emotional vampires take advantage of you and drag you down in their spiraling hole of negativities. As much as possible, avoid surrounding yourself with people who constantly whine, people who are best in blaming others or situations, and people who cannot take accountability. Be with the ones with lighter dispositions and those who you would like yourself to be associated with. As the old saying goes, “birds of the same feathers flock together.”

Learn to say No. It is not your job to say yes to every favor asked of you. Know that not because everybody else do it does it mean that you have to. Just remember that whenever you say Yes to others, you are not saying No to yourself.

5. Invest yourself in happy relationships.
Are your relationships giving you ùpositive influence? They should be providing you a sense of self-worth, self-fulfillment, and self-assurance. Involve yourself in happy relationships that allow you to be you without being judged. Choose to be in relationships where you and the others in it are growing in love!

Make it your business to love your Self first. I agree with the person who  said that “you are so worth your time and attention“. Besides, it will be easier for you to love others and for others to love you when you do love your own Self. 🙂

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Happy Thanksgiving!

“Gratitude can transform common days into Thanksgiving, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.”- William Arthur Ward

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays because it reminds me of how blessed I am in my life. When I switch on my “focus on the good stuffs” mode, I realize how there are so many things that I should be grateful for.

Here are some of the things that I’m really thankful for:
  • Relationships. It gives me opportunity to love, to care, to be kind, and to think of others aside from my self. My relationship with others is what makes me human. It gives me infinite joy to share love and goodness with other people- be it my family, friends, co-workers, or acquaintances.
  • Time. I’m grateful for the time I have to spend with my favorite people in the world. I’m grateful for the time I could use to do the things that I love to do like write on my blog or play my guitar. I’m thankful for the time that I could spend for myself- the time to meditate, to read, or the time to just be alone and do nothing.
  • Trials. I’m thankful for the problems, the trying times, and even for the failures that I encounter in life. Because of trials, we get to know our strengths, and we get to test our patience and perseverance.  I know they give pain, headaches and heartaches, but it’s what makes us stronger, wiser, and better people.
  • Myself. I thank myself for making me realize that I could be happy by being me. When I listen to myself, it tells me my heart’s desires. It tells me what I need to do to improve my well-being in all the different aspects of my life. And it also tells me when I need to take a break or to stop!
  • The simple things that gives me much pleasure. Music. Flowers. Coffee. The clouds and the stars in the sky. The smell of the trees. The sound of the birds. A walk. Good conversations. Laugh for my mistakes. And for a delicious meal!
How about you?
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Here’s my take-away quote for Thanksgiving- something that we can ponder on.
“Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving. ~ W. T. Purkiser”
…and REMEMBER:
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Design Your Future

“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.”- Tony Robbins

There are some people who fail to be successful because they don’t know what they want. And there are also some successful people who are not happy because they succeeded on the “wrong field”- and what I mean by that is they are successful, but not on THAT thing that they are supposed to be successful at.

So how do we know what we want? How do we figure out where we should be successful at? How do we live a Successful AND Happy life?

The answer is simple. YOU HAVE TO DESIGN YOUR LIFE.

Easier said than done. I know. But read again. I said the answer is simple, I didn’t say it’s easy.

You see, like any other plans that we have made into a reality, that is how we design our life too.- we conceive ideas, carefully think of the steps that we have to do to achieve them, and putting those steps into action.- The only difference is we’re looking at it in a bigger picture this time. It’s more difficult, but I honestly feel that it is more exciting too!

Many of us are so busy surviving and just making a living, but that is not our purpose in life. Who we become and what we can give in this life is up to us. We must ignite that drive to take full responsibility and control of our lives. We have to be passionate with life and know that it is more than just surviving or acquiring things. Successful and happy living is knowing who we are, loving what we do, and being able to share something to the world.

In your quiet times, meditate on your life. Picture your future self- NOT base on where you are now, but base it on how you would like it to be. Where is your life’s direction?

  • Think of the things that gives you happiness and satisfaction just by merely doing it. This is where you need to focus your time and energy because this is your “field”.
  • Write down your action plans and goals. How can you be better at this/these area/areas? What do you need to do? Who are the people that you need to involve. Identify your mini-goals and greater goals and make sure that these goals inspire  you.
  • Cultivate your values. What are your beliefs and morals? It is important that they aligned with the steps that you’re going to carry out in pursuit of your goals.

I personally believe that God did not put us on earth simply to survive. We are here to experience a good and fulfilling life. If there is something or an area in your life that is off or not working, now is the right time to decide to change it!

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A Blog Worth Sharing # 6- Zen and the Art of Everyday Living

Hello Everyone!

The blog that I am sharing with you today is one of the most helpful blogs I’ve encountered, especially when it comes to living mindfully and peacefully. The author, Richard Grumberg, has a very clear and easy to understand approach in his writings. I strongly recommend that you visit his blog… AND for the poetic bloggers, you may also like his other blog  575 Haiku Place.

Thank you Richard for teaching us the art of everyday living! Your amazing blog is truly inspirational and helpful.

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BLOG NAME: Zen and the Art of Everyday Living
POST TITLE: The Path of Wisdom: Parenting the Inner Child

“Whether or not you believe in the concept of an ‘inner child’ (and no less a Zen Master than Thich Nhat Hanh is a strong proponent of it), we all know that just about every time we set out do something that will require any appreciable effort, our feelings will inevitably scream out, “I don’t want to! I don’t want to! Let’s just do that tomorrow!”

Conversely, any time we are tempted to do something that we know we shouldn’t do, our feelings will cry out, “But I want to! I want to! Do it! Do it! Do it!” Those feelings make up a large part of our inner child.

This is why I believe that parenting our inner child, which is predisposed to avoiding pain and seeking pleasure, is one of the greatest skills any human being can develop if they want to successfully do just about anything involving any appreciable effort.”

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