Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking

Improve Your Life: Decide & Commit!

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”- Tony Robbins

Some people wants to be more successful perhaps in their relationships or careers; other people wants to be wealthier or healthier…but do you wonder why most of us only keep “dreaming” and not exactly live these wants? My belief is that we often fail to realize what we want in our lives because we lack the power to commit to whatever we intend our life would be.

Do you believe that where you are exactly in your life right now is brought about by the decisions that you’ve made in the past? Have you ever wondered how you’ve arrived with those decisions? Are they in sync with your values and based on what are more important to you?

I know a person who wants to strengthen her relationship with her family. She wants to have more quality time with her husband, and she wants to have more bonding time with her daughter. She also wants to improve her health by exercising and becoming more fit. She knows that it will make her happy if she could do these things.

However, this person works night shift for a multi-billion company. She needs to sleep during the day, so she won’t have a problem keeping awake at night. But it’s impossible for her to have a bonding time with her daughter if she sleeps the whole day, so she would need to sacrifice “sleeping hours” and “me time” just so she could spend a few hours of play time and study time with her. But there’s a problem, since she lacks sleep, she also lacks patience and it’s very easy for her to lose temper.

Moreover, since her husband works during the day, she and he don’t get to spend much time together during the week days. There’s even times when they don’t get to see each other. What’s more, since she often gets stressed out with work, and do not get enough sleep, she ends up not having the energy or enthusiasm and time to do much needed exercise.

To cut the story short- this person re-evaluated her life and priorities. She had to decide which are more important to her- is it family or career? is it love and relationship or work and status? is it health or money?

She made a decision based on what she values more and that’s it. Sooner than later, she rendered her resignation and that is one of the best decisions she’d ever made!

Was she afraid or this major change? Of course she is! But she knows that if you want to make a bold change and get more in your life, you need to step up and beat the fear! Do you think this person is happier now? ABSOLUTELY. Not only is she happier but also her husband and daughter! How do I know? Because this person I am talking about is ME! 🙂 Yep, I am now a proud full-time mom and wifey, and part-time with any other stuff I get myself involved with!

My point is this- if you want to improve an aspect in your life but there are things that prevent you from doing it- you have to make a decision, and commit to act on it. How you decide is up to you. As for me, I have this 3 questions that require a solid YES.

  1. Will I be happy?
  2. Will it allow growth and make me a better person?
  3. Will it be good for the people who matters to me?

 

May God bless your life!

NinaSig

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Posted in Life & Wellness, Relationships

It’s all about RELATIONSHIP

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is LOVE.”               – 1 Corinthians 13:13

Do you want a happy life? A life worth living? A life that is enjoyable? A life that is meaningful?… I tell you what. YOU CAN HAVE IT!

How? By nurturing and growing your relationships. Take great care of them more than you care for your expensive car or jewelries. The other areas of your life like your finances or health could suffer, and you could still be happy- I’ve seen poor people who are happy because they have such close family relationships and good friends. I know people who are sick but are happy because they have people who love and care for them…but I’ve never seen or known someone who’s truly happy living alone for himself.

We need people to satisfy our need to feel safe, to feel that we belong, and to build our self-esteem.

Here are 3 things that will help make relationships better:
1. Say “Thank You”- never keep your gratitude to yourself. say it to people who deserve to be thanked. Say thank you for the fun time, for the good meal cooked for you, for the great conversation, for the encouraging word, for the gestures of love…for the simplest or even the corniest reason.

2. Say “I’m Sorry”- apologize when you did something wrong even if it wasn’t intended. Admit your fault and just say sorry that you made a mistake. And sometimes, even if it’s not your fault, you still apologize. People who care more for the person and the relationship apologize first because caring and loving comes first to being righteous. Pride will give you nothing but a cold lonely heart.

3. Say “I love You”- Do not get tired of saying this everyday. Say it to your spouses/partners, children, parents, siblings, friends…fill-up your love tank. No one dies of love-overdose. This is something a person could get as much as he or she wants. And the good thing is that this is FREE. So give as much as you could and it’ll come back to you doubled or tripled!

If you want a happy life, have happy relationships- with God, with others & with yourself! 🙂

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Written on: October 21, 2016

Posted in Life & Wellness, Relationships

What I Want to Be?

To love and be loved is the greatest happiness of existence.” – Sydney Smith

I’ve recently thought of a goal for myself that I definitely think would help make a huge difference and impact in my life.

I want to be a GREAT LOVER. (Before I go further, let me just make it clear that I didn’t mean that in the physical context.)

Yes. I want to be a great lover- not on my mind. Not on my heart. But on my ACTIONS.

I don’t know about you, but I’ll be honest. I’m one of those people who say “I love you”, but my actions sometimes fall short of the word.

I want to be a great lover to my husband.
This would mean that I should learn to listen more in times of arguments, and control my temper & not burst out “I hate you” every time we fight.
This would mean that I should be more understanding and forgiving of his shortcomings, and less of the “I told so…”
This would mean that I should show him more appreciation and, and I should be more caring to him.

I want to be a great lover to my daughter.
This would mean that I should lessen my disciplining, and be more of an encourager.
This would mean that I should be more available when she needs me and less with “can’t you see I’m doing something?” or “Mommy is busy right now…”
This would mean more play time, more story-telling, more reading together, more bonding moments.

I want to be a great lover to my parents.
Let’s face it, they’re getting older. The more that we should be intentional in spending time with them. I’m lucky I grew up close to my parents and didn’t have any unresolved conflicts with them. But if you are one who’s not in speaking terms with your folks right now, I encourage you to forgive and sort things out. Do that, and let me know if it will not make you feel better.

I want to be a great lover to my siblings.
It’s difficult when you and your siblings have their own family, living their own lives. But I want mine to know and feel that they could always reach out to me by me reaching out to them first.

I want to be a great lover to Other People.
I can do this by being more patient with them, and by always choosing to see the good in them despite the wrong-doings.
I will chose to respect them, to care, and pray for them.

These may seem pretty tough, but I don’t think they’re impossible to do. The key word is to be INTENTIONAL. And the only way to do it is to act like it every single day. So, wish me luck, okay? 🙂

P.S. You might want to do the same and let’s improve at being a great lover together !

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Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking, Psychology

Happiness Around the Corner

“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.”- J.R.R. Tolien

HAPPINESS. It is the one thing that almost all of us strive to have.

For some of us, it is very easy to achieve, yet to some it is very difficult- like solving advance trigonometry in 30 seconds!

I want to emphasize that happiness is found in many things. It is us being with the ones we love, it is the smiles that we see from the people we care about, it is us enjoying good times around friends, it is us eating sumptuous meal with our favorite people, it is us listening to good music,  it is us doing what we love the most…

I want to share with you a short video clip from one of the movies that I’ve watched which shows a very good example of happiness. The song that they sung (the lyrics are below) also reminds us to live life at present, and living it the best we could.

I hope that you will find inspiration from the video and the song. Stay happy! 🙂

Don’t look too far. Sometimes, Happiness is just around the corner. 🙂

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Date Written: July 12, 2016
Posted in Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking, Relationships

Let’s Make Wonders!

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”- Leo Buscaglia

Hello Everyone!

Why don’t we start this week by spreading good vibes? Let’s try these simple and very easy steps on how we can share a bit of happiness to someone else’s day today.

1. Smile. 🙂
Sharing your good natured smile would tell others that you are a caring person.  It can brighten up anybody’s otherwise cloudy day. Besides, smiling is one of the best beauty remedies. Anyone who wears a smile becomes more good-looking! 🙂

2.Take time to compliment.
A genuine compliment shows that you pay attention to other people’s efforts and strength. Who would not appreciate one? Just be careful that you are not giving false flattery.

3. Listen.
It’s also nice to just listen from people. When they share great news, celebrate with them. Avoid the urge to share your own good news right away. Let them enjoy “their” moment.
If someone vents out frustrations, he or she may not necessarily be looking for advice, but just need someone to listen. So just listen. They will surely appreciate it.

4. Hug or Give a Pat on the Back.
These gestures when done appropriately is uplifting and could really boost the spirit. Sometimes, touch is even more effective than words.

5. Do a good deed.
As simple as opening a door for someone, picking up someone’s pen or book, or offering to make the coffee could already put a smile on someone else’s face.

As William Hazlitt said, “A gentle word, a kind look, a good-natured smile can work wonders and accomplish miracles.” So let’s go ahead and start making wonders! 🙂

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Date Written: July 25, 2016

Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking

It is OK to say NO!

“When you say ‘Yes’ to Others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to Yourself.”- Paulo Coelho

Usually, we look for things that would make us happy. Sometimes, we forget that another way to be happy is to eliminate the things or reject the people who makes us unhappy.

We put up with people because we consider them friends or they are part of the family. We listen to them whine about their misfortunes, cry over heartbreaks to the nth time, or vent their anger and frustrations. We become the sponge who absorb their negativity.

There are times when we can not reject a favor requested by our boss or a work colleague simply because we are just too shy to say no, or we have this “image” that we want to maintain. There are things that we no longer like to do but keep doing them because they have been considered as traditions, or they have been part of a routine that started ever since no one can even remember!

If we do not learn how to say “No” to the things and to people who stress us out and make us uncomfortable, then we will always find ourselves in an unhappy situation. 

So, the next time someone approaches you to have you do something that you don’t like to do, just take a deep breath and then say NO. Remember that you don’t have to justify your answer for the sake of maintaining a “nice image”. 🙂


Date Written: June 27, 2016

 

 

 

 

Posted in Inspirational, Positive Thinking

What I learned from Children

I would define CHILDREN as the happiest creatures in the world. Oh, don’t you just envy their enthusiasm and high-spirits!

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In my pondering, I realize that there are really some great things that we can learn from them- the actual simple reasons why they are always happy.

Here we go…

#1: Children love unconditionally.

They don’t have any hidden motives or agenda. They don’t say “I love you IF you are…”, or “I love you WHEN you…”…they just simply love for the mere fact of loving someone.

I remember one time when my daughter, Gaby told me that she loves me. I asked her why and I was astonished with her response: “Because I am happy with you.” My heart just melts with joy every time I remember that.

#2: Children apologize and forgive easily.

Unlike adults, children don’t hold grudges. They get angry and fight, but they make up easily and then forget about what happened– as if it never happened at all. There’s no wonder why most adults are bitter– ’cause we usually fool ourselves by forgiving but not forgetting.

#3: Children live in the present moment.

They don’t worry about tomorrow, nor dwell in the past. They are enjoying living the PRESENT! On the contrary, most adults can’t let go of their past experiences and they are always busy planning about the future and they missed out the opportunities that the present hold.

#4: Children don’t complicate things.

Things are simple for them. There are no “gray areas”. They only know the Right & Wrong. and the Good & Bad– not the “somewhat right” or “wrong only if…”

#5: They laugh their hearts out and they have fun a lot!

#6: They are easily pleased and find joy in simple things.

Just compare the response that you get when you give a candy or ice cream to a child and to an adult. 🙂

#7:  They don’t lie about how they feel.

Children let you know when they are upset or happy. They do not hide their emotions. Now when you ask an adult if there is something wrong, what is the common response? Most often than not, they say “I’m Fine” even if they’re not. So the negative emotions or feelings dwells in their hearts until the time when they would just explode!

#8: Children love being hugged and kissed a lot; and they are generous in giving hugs and kisses!

#9: Children are curious and loves to learn new things.

It boosts their self-esteem when they get to learn something, and this gives them happiness. Unfortunately, most adults have the tendency to become complacent and idle.

#10: Children know what they like and they don’t like.

If you ask a child what he or she wants, you get an answer right away… why is it that when we ask ourselves what we want, it is as if we’re answering a trigonometry equation?

Now, who says only adults can teach? 🙂

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Date Written: May 26, 2016

Posted in Life & Wellness, Psychology, Relationships

Relationships Matter

According to studies, one of the things that makes a good life is having good relationship with other people. Being in a warm, loving, and protective relationship does not only make us happier, but it also makes us healthier because it helps prevent us from acquiring chronic diseases that are caused by loneliness and stress.

However, not all relationships are healthy and happy. They could be messy, complicated, or even toxic. Good relationships are not worked out overnight. They need to be tended in order to flourish.

Here are some tips to develop good quality relationships:
1. Communicate– express what you think and feel. Do not assume that other people could read what’s on your mind. Not all people are expert on body language so it’s best to communicate verbally, otherwise you risk being misinterpreted or worse, being unnoticed.

2.Acknowledge– show that you appreciate your partners, children or friends. There is no such thing as silent gratitude. You have to let people know when they did something that made you happy. It will not only reinforce good behavior, but more importantly, they will feel valued and worthy. So catch them at their best and be generous in giving well-deserved praises!

3.Do not Police– Don’t wait for other people to commit mistakes and reprimand like a police officer. If you care about the person, let them be aware of their destructive behavior before it gets worse. This will show them that you care.

4. Accept– Accept that other people are not perfect and so are you. There will always be instances when they could hurt you, or YOU HURT THEM. But always remember that you love them more! So be quick to say sorry and to forgive, and always remind yourself to forget!

5.Be Playful– Do not take things too seriously. When I was in college, I had this mantra for myself: “All problems have solutions. If it doesn’t have a solution, it’s not a problem! So I will not bother…” Learn to laugh at your mistakes and have fun in each other’s company!

People are special. We all need to feel that we are special so let’s start treating each other one! 🙂

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Written on: June 07, 2016

Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking

Can We Love the Unlovable?

Can we love the people who hate us?
Can we show affection and compassion to the people who hurt and curse us?
Can we be kind to the person  who’d be the first to celebrate when we’re dead?
Can we really love the unlovable?

The answer is NO. If it will only be for our own effort, I don’t believe that there would be a single person who’d openly say  “Yes, I love the person who makes my life miserable!”

The truth is, it is our faith in God that will enable us to love radically.

Jesus’ greatest challenge to us is to love our enemies. To do good to those who hate us. To bless those who curse us. And to pray for those who mistreat us. (Luke 6:27)

Perhaps, our mind is now saying “Sure. Easier said than done.”

BUT Jesus did not just gave us this command. He did not just say, love and forgive those who mistreat you. He also taught us HOW.

According to the Scriptures in Luke 6:38, ” Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

The way that I understand this, it is telling us that how we treat people will eventually help change the way that they treat us. If I become nicer to the person who is mean to me, perhaps there would be a greater likelihood that he or she too will become a little nicer to me, when he or she will see that I am sincere. If I treat them with kindness without any pretensions every time we have an encounter, I think it is not impossible for them to have a change of hearts toward me.

I have learned that sometimes our physiology affects our psychology. It is like the principle of “mind over matter” except that this is pertaining to our feelings following our actions.

If we keep doing loving gestures and  acts of kindness to people who treats us otherwise, sooner or later we will develop the feeling of love for them.

Of course this is not automatic. It does not happen overnight. And if you’ve read my previous posts this month, I cannot stress enough the fact that Love is a decision, a choice, and commitment.

I dare you to challenge God. Why don’t you do what He says and let us know how it’ll turn out! 🙂

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