“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” – Carol Burnett
Sometimes, life likes to play difficult for us. There are times when we feel we are always struggling. There are times when we feel we’re always failing, or letting other people down. There are also times when we think we’re doing the right thing, but feel otherwise. And there are those times when we wish the world would stop for a while and just let us breathe (or if you’re like me, you wish you could just magically disappear for a certain period of time until everything is great again!)
Well, that is life- at least a part of it is. But we CAN make it better. We CAN make US feel better.
I would like to share with you seven things that I am trying to live by when I decided to live my life in a more mindful way.
- Know your self before you can accept and love yourself.
- Forgiveness is not for the person you give it to. It is a gift to yourself.
- Gratefulness is what makes a person happy, not the other way around.
- Always prioritize people over material things. Material things give instant gratification, but healthy loving relationships give lasting satisfaction and fulfillment.
- It is okay to get angry, but always choose to love others and yourself.
- Failure doesn’t mean you’re a loser. It means you are trying and learning.
- No matter how big your problems may seem to be, always remember that you have a bigger GOD! 🙂
Lighten up! Life can be good.
“You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.”- Joel Osteen
When you will find yourself in a problem situation, remember to remind yourself of these:
- You’ve been through worse.
Think of the greatest adversity you have ever encountered in your life and how you were able to get through it. You may be amazed to discover that you have had survived tougher and rougher situations.
- This is just a bad day, not a bad life.
Just because things are going wrong this time doesn’t mean that life is no longer good. You can cry over your problems, but do not forget the other good things that are going well in your life too. This is the best time to count your blessings.
- Change your Paradigm.
Instead of whining about the bad situation, focus on how this experience would make you a better person. What is it trying to teach you? How will you respond?
- Keep Calm.
Anxiety and stress would only magnify the problem in your own perception. It makes the problem bigger than it really is. So do not stress out and calm yourself. Remember that a problem ALWAYS has a solution. Otherwise, it is not a problem.
- You are in control.
You cannot choose how to feel; BUT you can always choose how to respond.Do not let the situation control you. Be in control of the situation.
Smile even when in trouble, happiness will find you! 🙂
Date Written: July 15, 2016
I was on my way to work. I needed to be in the office at least an hour earlier because there was a pre-shift meeting that I had to attend to. So for the very first time, I scheduled a ride, and to my unexpected surprise it arrived 19 minutes late. Somewhere along the way, I got stuck on a heavy traffic. I felt as if I was having my own version of “series of unfortunate events”. It is as if circumstances were testing my patience. I started to feel pissed off. But I calmed myself.
Instead of feeling bad and regretting my decision in scheduling a ride, and feeling nervous and stressed out whenever I saw the heavy traffic- I chose to relax and told myself, “It’s okay.” Why? Because obviously, there is NOTHING that I could do about the situation.
HOWEVER, I can choose to do something useful for the “extra” time that the traffic seems to be giving me. So I closed my eyes and used the time to pray and just talk to God… and when I am finished and still not in my destination, I brought out my cellphone next and read articles from other blogs. I enjoyed myself reading so much that I did not even notice that we have finally arrived to my office building. And guess what? I was not late. 🙂
If I have allowed myself, I could have just stayed to be on a bad mood,feeling pissed and stressed out all throughout the travel time- which in the end would have been useless and unreasonable at all!
The next time you feel like your world is being torn apart, pause a moment and ask yourself, is it really?
Don’t let little unfortunate things ruin your beautiful day. Keep small problems as they are…small. 🙂
Have a great day everyone!
“Every Problem has a Solution. If it doesn’t have, then it is NOT a Problem. Don’t worry too much!”
A BIG Thank You to mdw for letting me borrow one of his beautiful photos again. You can check his amazing photography at mdw photo art and mdw photo art 2.