Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Relationships

Oldies but Goodies!

Hello Everyone,

This week is a very busy week for me. It’s my daughter’s quarter exam week at school, my mom’s here with us for a visit, and it’s the time at work again when I have to do my month-end reports…

Anyways, I still don’t want to leave you guys with nothing on my blog. So here are some of my older posts (written during my first months of blogging) that I would like to share with you again especially that it fits my theme for this month of February. Enjoy!…and I am still  interested on what think of the posts 🙂

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Posted in Life & Wellness, Relationships

5 Rules for a Happier Relationships

“We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.”- John Lennon

One of the things that makes a good life is having happy and healthy relationships with other people. But like all other good things in life, happy relationships are not worked out overnight. They need to be tended in order to flourish.

Here are my rules for a happier relationships:

1. Always Prioritize People Over Anything Else.

There was a time when some of our friends were going abroad to work, and they were encouraging us to do the same. But my husband refused saying that it is more important for him to be with family and spend time with family than to earn more money away from family.

This is what I mean when I say prioritize people. Sometimes, we may think that it is a difficult choice. But let me give you a scenario- imagine yourself on your deathbed, would you rather have with you your material possessions or the people who love and care for you?

2. Be Slow to Anger; and Be Quick to Forgive.

When we’re angry, we can do or say things that we do not mean and will regret eventually. We can apologize, but as they say, the damage has been done. This is why it is important to be slow to anger.

We have to accept the fact that people are not perfect and so are we. There will always be times when they will hurt us, or WE HURT THEM. But we should always remember one important thing- that we love them more! So be quick to say sorry and to forgive, and always remind ourselves to forget!

3. Show People they are Appreciated.

How many of us take the time to say “thank you” for the love and care that we get from family, friends, or colleagues? Sometimes, it is easy to forget- especially if it is “expected” of them or when “we’re used to” being treated as such. But you know what, it’s a wonderful feeling to be thanked and appreciated. Besides, don’t you think it’s more sensible to let people know that you appreciate them while they can still acknowledge it and be happy about it?

4. Set Special Time Together to Bond-Play and have fun!

If we want to build strong foundation for relationships, we need to be intentional in setting an exclusive time for bonding. It does not need to be an expensive experience. You can actually still do things that you can enjoy and have fun without spending a lot!

A simple picnic at your backyard, a movie-night with the whole family, random visits to friends or in-laws, a stroll at night with our spouses or partners, manicure-pedicure with our daughter and sports game with our son are just few of the things that we can do.

5. Hug More, Kiss More, and (say I Love You More!).

Hugging and kissing are gestures that when done appropriately are very uplifting. Sometimes, they are even more effective and speaks louder than words. They could mean “I love you”, “I care for you”, “You’re special”, “I’m happy for you”, “I’m here for you”, “You’re amazing”, “You make me proud”, “You’ll get through this”… and so much more!

And who would not want to hear “I love you” everyday? 🙂

As I always say, relationships matter. People are special and you are special. So let’s start treating each other as one.

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Posted in Life & Wellness, Personal, Positive Thinking, Relationships

A Day for Reflection

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” ― Robert Brault

Instead of focusing on the things that I can do to prepare for this upcoming week, this time I would like to go “backwards” and start my week by reflecting on the things that happened last week.

THINGS THAT I AM GRATEFUL FOR:

  • Having to spend the weekend with more family. My dad came to visit and so we get to spend the weekend with him, with my sister and her family, and my brother and his girlfriend. My parents live at another city and we only see each other during Holiday Vacations. I appreciate that they come here to us and visit their grandchildren whenever they can. They have not missed any birthday celebration for their grand kids. 🙂
  • Having a wonderful and sweet daughter. My brother in-law and his wife lost their first-born child 6 days after he was born. He had a hypoplastic left heart syndrome and his survival rate was very low. This experience made me more appreciative of my  4-year old daughter.  Being a toddler, Gaby could be a little too clingy, stubborn, too playful, and annoying. There are times when I lose my temper with her, but I realize that I’d rather have her that way- always active, happy, very playful and stubborn- rather than being too quiet or sad, or needing special caring. I am blessed that she is healthy, beautiful and smart!
  • Having a faithful husband. I know some people who engages in extra-marital affairs and some with failed marriages. Some of them are my friends. I am grateful that me and my husband have been together for almost 8 years without having to deal with extra-marital affair issues. I am happy that my husband is very expressive of his thoughts- he lets me know when something about me bothers him, or if there is something about him that I NEED TO KNOW. I am also grateful that our weekend is “family day.”

THINGS THAT I COULD HAVE DONE BETTER:

  • I missed jogging this week ( and the previous week) 😦 Unlike my husband who plays basketball and exercises regularly, for me, exercising is something that I really need to work on. He even bought me a rubber shoes to use for jogging this week!
  • The way I handled stress at work last week. There’s too much work, too little time, and every thing is due… I had to cover for an office mate who was out sick for 2 days and so I had to set aside my reports and some other tasks. It was very difficult to catch up, and I was a little grumpy!
  • I should not have stayed very late in the office. It was Gaby’s first week in school and I was coming home late. I didn’t have time and energy to study or with her, and I easily got annoyed with her because I was too tired from work.

SOMETHING FOR MYSELF:

It’s nice to reward ourselves for things that we like every once in a while.

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Last weekend, I bought this unusual notebook with tin cover. I like its red-yellow butterfly picture, and its different pages. I intend to use this for writing haikus, sketching and  drawing, and for writing random stuffs or ideas for my blog.

MY CHALLENGE FOR MYSELF AND FOR YOU THIS WEEK:

Do something for yourself that you will thank yourself for in the future.

Your turn now…how was your week? I would love to hear your stories. 🙂

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Date Written: July 18, 2016

Posted in Happy Thoughts, writing

Haiku # 2- PEOPLE

A wonderful day
Beautiful people around
I am loving life!

I was inspired by Debbie of forgivingjournal to write this Haiku today.

I dedicate it to all my friends- old and new- in the blogging community who continue to be my sources of inspiration and happiness.

The featured image for this post are drawings of my daughter in my cellphone note! 🙂 My art work contribution would be the “frame”.

Wishing you all a happy life,

Nina 🙂


Date Written: July 13, 2016

 

Posted in Life & Wellness, Psychology, Relationships

Weekend Bonding

Hi Everyone!

It is almost weekend… I know this is usually the time to relax, unwind, and be a coach-potato but I recommend you consider the following for a change.

  •  Spend at least 30 minutes or one hour to have real conversation with your child/children (or parents if you are the child). Let them know that you are there for them. Everyone needs to be noticed, whether we admit it or not, so spending some alone-time doing mom-daughter or dad-son thing would affirm that they do exist in your world =)
  • Pay a surprise visit to a family member or friend whom you haven’t seen for a while (or give them a surprise-call). Time to reconnect!
  • Go out and have real fun together with your friends- talk and pay attention. Instead of asking “How are you?”, you ask “How are you really doing?”. Show that you are interested in them.
  • Allot time for health-care. Take a early jog when you wake-up; meditate  or spend some quiet time alone thinking about the good things that had happen during the week and the good things that you want to happen; listen and dance to your favorite music or read a book.
    Want some more tips? Read my other blog-  “The Importance of Self-Care”

I really hope that you will enjoy sharing your time with the people that you love and care for this weekend! Stay happy everyone! =)


Date Written: June 17, 2016

 

Posted in Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking, Relationships

Change People. Make them Better.

Our job is to connect to people, to interact with them in a way that leaves them better than we found them, more able to get where they’d like to go.”- Seth Godin

Talk to people and make them smile. Cheer them up.
Be a friend who lends a hand. Or a listener who lends an ear.
Offer help. Give sound advise. Or just be quiet, listen and pay attention.
Share your smile. Give them hugs.
Show that you care. Give your time.
Make them feel they are important by being available for them.

It doesn’t matter how big or small your act is.
You never know what a simple “how are you” or pat on the back can do.

So just go ahead & make that move, and leave people on a better state than when you found them! 🙂

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Written on: June 13, 2016