Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking, Relationships

To be Happy, Let Go!

“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”– Deborah Reber

For most people, happiness is achieved by gaining something. It could be a reward, an achievement, a recognition, a relationship, or a pleasant experience. Some of us fail to realize that becoming happy may also mean letting go of things, or to some extent, even people.

Sometimes, it is difficult for us to detach ourselves from people especially if we’ve invested in them, and treated them as friends and family. However in reality, there are people who, instead of being grateful that they are valued and cared for, take advantage of the kindness of others.

It is painful and not easy to let go especially if we care about the person, but this is one thing that we need to learn in order to be happy.

We should set the standard of how we like people to treat us. If we allow them to take advantage of us, they will continue to do so. But if we set boundaries, they will learn to respect us.

Don’t be afraid to be honest and let people know how you feel about them. Don’t be shy to say “No” when you feel that you’re being used and abused. Don’t be scared to lose people in your life if you know in your heart that they do not value you or respect you as a person. You owe it to yourself to not allow other people to drag you down.

Remember that forgiving and understanding others do not mean that we have to tolerate their behavior. If you want to be happy, distance yourself from the people who makes you feel sad. You may be surprised how liberating it will make you feel.

NinaSig

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Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking, Psychology

3 Steps to End LONELINESS

When we have a problem and feel as though our life is falling apart, our tendency is to “escape” from the miserable state that we’re at- and most often than not, we resolve to the quick fixes that are also self-destructive at some point: We drink. We party like hell in the company of people who more or less do not care about what’s going on with your life. We take drugs to forget or have sex with strangers. But guess what– the next day, YOUR PROBLEM IS STILL THERE because these quick fixes are not really the solutions but a temporary escape from your reality.

Just recently, I was able to listen attentively to Jason Mraz’ song “Three Things” and I thought, Wow! This is exactly how we should deal with the downsides in our lives.

 

“Number one, I cry my eyes out and dry up my heart.”

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Yes, crying is a cathartic release. It purges us of our massive feeling of loneliness. I personally believe that it is important to first empty ourselves with the heartaches before we could move on.

 

“The second thing I do… say my thank-you’s for each and every moment of my life. I go where I know the love is and let it fill me up inside…”

Not many of us realize but it is also important to contemplate on our lives. We get to analyze what went well and what went wrong…being said that, we should not fix our focus only the to the bad experience and the bad feeling that it brings- but more importantly, what lesson do we get from it.

friendsSurrounding ourselves with the people who cares for us also helps us get through the difficulties of life. If we are alone and we are lonely, we get lonelier because we do not have another person to encourage us and share the burden. Other people may not necessarily provide the solutions, but they give us the emotional support that is much needed. They strengthen us by letting us feel loved and valued.

 

“The third thing that I do…I pause, I take a breath,…and I let that chapter end.”

pastWe should let go of the failures and hurts in our past, and move on with our lives. Contrary to what others believe in, your past do not determine your future. You future is determined by the choices that you make…and it is your choice to be happy. SO CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY.

 

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Date Written: May 30, 2016