Posted in Happy Thoughts, writing

Haiku # 3- “CRUSH”

HER:
He’s looking at me
I act as if I don’t know
But my heart beats loud

HIM:
I’m staring at her
She pretends not to notice
But I know she knows

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Date Written: July 21, 2016

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Posted in Inspirational, Positive Thinking

What I learned from Children

I would define CHILDREN as the happiest creatures in the world. Oh, don’t you just envy their enthusiasm and high-spirits!

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In my pondering, I realize that there are really some great things that we can learn from them- the actual simple reasons why they are always happy.

Here we go…

#1: Children love unconditionally.

They don’t have any hidden motives or agenda. They don’t say “I love you IF you are…”, or “I love you WHEN you…”…they just simply love for the mere fact of loving someone.

I remember one time when my daughter, Gaby told me that she loves me. I asked her why and I was astonished with her response: “Because I am happy with you.” My heart just melts with joy every time I remember that.

#2: Children apologize and forgive easily.

Unlike adults, children don’t hold grudges. They get angry and fight, but they make up easily and then forget about what happened– as if it never happened at all. There’s no wonder why most adults are bitter– ’cause we usually fool ourselves by forgiving but not forgetting.

#3: Children live in the present moment.

They don’t worry about tomorrow, nor dwell in the past. They are enjoying living the PRESENT! On the contrary, most adults can’t let go of their past experiences and they are always busy planning about the future and they missed out the opportunities that the present hold.

#4: Children don’t complicate things.

Things are simple for them. There are no “gray areas”. They only know the Right & Wrong. and the Good & Bad– not the “somewhat right” or “wrong only if…”

#5: They laugh their hearts out and they have fun a lot!

#6: They are easily pleased and find joy in simple things.

Just compare the response that you get when you give a candy or ice cream to a child and to an adult. 🙂

#7:  They don’t lie about how they feel.

Children let you know when they are upset or happy. They do not hide their emotions. Now when you ask an adult if there is something wrong, what is the common response? Most often than not, they say “I’m Fine” even if they’re not. So the negative emotions or feelings dwells in their hearts until the time when they would just explode!

#8: Children love being hugged and kissed a lot; and they are generous in giving hugs and kisses!

#9: Children are curious and loves to learn new things.

It boosts their self-esteem when they get to learn something, and this gives them happiness. Unfortunately, most adults have the tendency to become complacent and idle.

#10: Children know what they like and they don’t like.

If you ask a child what he or she wants, you get an answer right away… why is it that when we ask ourselves what we want, it is as if we’re answering a trigonometry equation?

Now, who says only adults can teach? 🙂

(Photo Credits: cliparts.co, parentingwithunderstanding.com)


Date Written: May 26, 2016

Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking

Let’s Plant Life Seeds!- Seed#2:RELATIONSHIPS

There are 5 things things in life that we know are important, but do not treat with much importance. You see, simply knowing is useless until what we know is applied and manifested in our behavior or actions.

Let me give you 2 simple facts:

1. OUR TIME ON EARTH IS LIMITED. The average life expectancy of a person is 78.8 years according to CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention)

2. WHAT YOU PLANT IN YOUR EARLY YEARS, YOU WILL REAP IN YOUR LATER YEARS.

Some people would see our life as a book, and we’re the authors.
For this time, I want us to picture our life as a garden and we’re the gardeners planting the seeds that we will reap later in our life.

Today, let’s talk about the second seed- RELATIONSHIPS. 🙂

relationship-seed“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”- Ephesians 4:2 

 

There are 3 important relationships in our life: Our relationship with our Self. Our relationship with Others. And our relationship to God. IF we’re doing great on all these 3 relationships, I believe  100% that we can truly be happy.

  • Relationship with your Self. 

According to Rick Warren, the author of Purpose Driven Life, there are 2 things that prevents us from reaching our highest potential. Number one is wishing that we are somebody else (perhaps the person that you admire or envy); and number two is people-pleasing (to the extent that we do things that we may not really like to do but do anyways in order to be accepted). Both of these are destructive because it prevents us from accepting our selves as we are!

When you look at the person in the mirror, who do you see?

Do you see the failure or the fighter that keeps going no matter how many times he fell?

Do you see the ugly because you do not fit to the norms of society or the unique person who is confident in his own kind of beautiful?

Do you see the prideful being who cannot let go of past hurts or the forgiving loving person who choose to believe that there is still goodness in others despite negative past experiences?

Be careful what you seed you are nourishing to your self. You become who you think you are. Make your “I AM” positive.

  • Relationship with your Others. 

Do you want to know how you impact your family or friends? Why not try this simple test. Ask yourself: When you’re around them, do they become happier or gloomier or no change at all?

When I like a person, I light up when they’re around me. I feel much happier, I feel inspired, I feel like the best in me comes out.

When I don’t like a person, I don’t hang out with him for too long. Otherwise, I feel like all the positive energies in me are being sapped out and my monster tendency is slowly coming out!

Now there are also times when I’m around people who do not affect me much. They may be around or not and I won’t care- my world continues to revolve.

Obviously, we all want to have that positive impact to others. We all want to be desirable because we affect them in such a way that they become their best. Just like how it is stated in Proverbs 27:17, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

But how are we as spouses, partners, parents, sons & daughters, and friends? Do we communicate in a positive tone? Do we deliberately set time to bond and enjoy each others’ company? Do we give enough encouragement and affirmation? Do we give more than we get? Do we seek more to listen and understand rather than set rules and so be it? Are we trusted and reliable friends or are we just friends when we can benefit from the friendship? Do you prioritize people or material things?

We all want to be successful, but it’s also important to consider who you will be celebrating your life’s successes with! Nourish your Relationship seeds. You will be grateful for it later in life.

  • Relationship with God. 

I am in my mid-30’s and it is embarrassing for me to admit that I have not read the whole Bible. I know that having a deeper spiritual relationship with God is knowing Him more. And the only way for me to get to know Him is to read other people’s account of Him thru the Scriptures.

Like many others, I know about God, but I did not know Him. I’m still a baby in my walk as a Christian. But I’m trying to have this closer relationship with Him now. I still fail most of the time, God is very patient with me. I delight in knowing that He’s mg Father and He loves me and He’s always just a prayer away. (Isn’t it amazing how we can just talk to Him whenever we want, wherever we want?)

Because I know that God loves me, I can love myself and accept even my undesirable traits.
Because I know that God loves me at my darkest, it is easier for me to love, understand and forgive others.

Get to know God. I know you will like Him a lot! 🙂

nina-feb

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Did you missed the First Seed? Read it here.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking

Can We Love the Unlovable?

Can we love the people who hate us?
Can we show affection and compassion to the people who hurt and curse us?
Can we be kind to the person  who’d be the first to celebrate when we’re dead?
Can we really love the unlovable?

The answer is NO. If it will only be for our own effort, I don’t believe that there would be a single person who’d openly say  “Yes, I love the person who makes my life miserable!”

The truth is, it is our faith in God that will enable us to love radically.

Jesus’ greatest challenge to us is to love our enemies. To do good to those who hate us. To bless those who curse us. And to pray for those who mistreat us. (Luke 6:27)

Perhaps, our mind is now saying “Sure. Easier said than done.”

BUT Jesus did not just gave us this command. He did not just say, love and forgive those who mistreat you. He also taught us HOW.

According to the Scriptures in Luke 6:38, ” Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

The way that I understand this, it is telling us that how we treat people will eventually help change the way that they treat us. If I become nicer to the person who is mean to me, perhaps there would be a greater likelihood that he or she too will become a little nicer to me, when he or she will see that I am sincere. If I treat them with kindness without any pretensions every time we have an encounter, I think it is not impossible for them to have a change of hearts toward me.

I have learned that sometimes our physiology affects our psychology. It is like the principle of “mind over matter” except that this is pertaining to our feelings following our actions.

If we keep doing loving gestures and  acts of kindness to people who treats us otherwise, sooner or later we will develop the feeling of love for them.

Of course this is not automatic. It does not happen overnight. And if you’ve read my previous posts this month, I cannot stress enough the fact that Love is a decision, a choice, and commitment.

I dare you to challenge God. Why don’t you do what He says and let us know how it’ll turn out! 🙂

nina-feb

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Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Personal, Random Happiness

Have Fun When You Can

You don’t stop having fun when you get old.
You get old when you stop having fun.- Anonymous

When is the last time that you did something that you really enjoyed…something that made you lose track of the time?

I believe that doing something fun is one of the easiest way to show some love for your self. Be it as simple as reading your favorite book or arduous like learning a new skill that you like.

Here are some of the things that I do for fun other than blogging. Yep! This is all me… I’m the one holding the guitar (camera shy), that’s my coloring book in the middle, and my favorite headphone! 🙂

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Here’s one of the songs that I really enjoy listening to. Enjoy! 🙂

(Video taken from YouTube)

Have fun when you can. Your soul will thank you for it!

nina-feb

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