“Make it your life purpose to do one good thing to one person every single day, and you’ll never live a meaningless life.”
“Make it your life purpose to do one good thing to one person every single day, and you’ll never live a meaningless life.”
Here is another story of what a little act of kindness can do to a person. 🙂
Thank you Tanvi for sharing with us your beautiful conversation with your maid. It is truly a good reminder to be kind to people in all walks of life.
POOJA AUNTY! She is our maid.
She comes twice a day, ring the bell (regardless of whether the door is closed or open), takes off her shoes and enter the house addressing my mum, “Didi hum aa gaye!” (regardless of whether my mom is listening to her or not), does her work, finishes the small glass of tea and two biscuits/rusks served to her, and then leave the house addressing my mum again,” Didi hum jaa rahe hain!” (Regardless of whether my mum is listening or not).
One day I interrupted and asked her why she is addressing my mum whenever she enters or leaves the house. Her response, “To ensure that I am entering and exiting your house with your consent- being on the safe side from any questionable finger, because it is very easy to push the needy or a deprived person into the pit of suspicion and blames.”
I tried to assure her saying that “It’s been years that you’ve been working for us and we trust you. You have seen us grow. Your fear cannot happen in our house.” She nodded her head in agreement and shared one of her many bitter life experiences.
A week ago her small grandson was seriously ill, and was admitted to a hospital. But the doctor refused to continue with his treatment until they could fully pay the hospital fee (Rs.1000). She didn’t have enough money and so she sent her young daughter to one family that she has served for 16 years and trusted the most.
The girl knocked and waited for someone to open the door for 2 hours, however, no one is opening and she only heard the people whispering from inside. So she left hopeless and with heavy heart.
They were forced to leave the hospital with the patient as they were not able to arrange the fee. The next day, when Aunty went to the same house asking for an answer, they lied and blamed her daughter saying that she didn’t go there and that she must have gone somewhere else.
Aunty was highly disappointed with their excuse. It was a matter of rs.1000 only. She was also asked to leave her work and get lost! Her 16 years of dedication, hard work, honesty, and prestige was all gone for Rs.1000. Thankfully, his grandson was able to recover and she got a helping hand from someone else. But she learned a lesson for her life, she stated.
We very often become ignorant towards the people who serve as our backbone. They work to make our life easy, but we sometimes take them for granted. We just forget that they are human too, with beating heart and working brain, and also get hurt with our inhuman behavior.
We don’t bother to share their sorrow, their pain, believing they don’t have these emotions. Why? Because we are paying them? But they are paying us back with their hard work and dedication to make our life smooth and easy, despite the challenges that they face every day.
I felt happy when Aunty told me this: “I feel good when someone calls me Aunty, or addresses me with words like “Aap”, or whenever someone bothers to ask about how my family is doing?”
Sometimes it is very easy to make someone feel happy about their life, by just simple human gestures or little acts of kindness (which often do not cost us anything). Sadly, I have noticed is very hard to practice these days.
Show concern, affection, and respect towards the people who are working day-night for you. It will fuel them to do their duty with more energy, love, and dignity which is their equal right.
“No act of kindness no matter how small is ever wasted.”- Aesop
Have you noticed how sometimes,we are nicer to other people than to our family? How often are we more accommodating to our visitors than to our spouses? Why is it that we are more courteous and patient to our bosses than we are to our parents? How come that we speak more gently to colleagues than to our children? This is sad, but it is a reality.
But this can change.
We can start in our own home, with our own family. If our children will grow in an environment where respect and kindness to family members are valued, it will penetrate their being. It will become a part of them.
Why don’t we go back to the basics? Here are some of the important ones that we often neglect or forget.
Immediately apologize when you hurt someone. Who will not forgive you when you just go ahead and say “I made a mistake, and I’m sorry” then hug them right away?
Be grateful for the service that you get even if what they’re doing are already expected of them. Thank your mom for cooking for you. Thank your dad for driving you to school. Thank your spouse for taking care of your needs. Saying thank you is letting them know they are appreciated and recognized.
Don’t ever get tired of saying I love you and hug at least once a day!… this is a cliche that will always work!
When’s the last time you dated your parents or siblings? When’s the last time you had a heart to heart talk with your children? Be involve in the lives of your family members by knowing what’s going on.
When’s the last time we offered to do a house chore that is supposed to be done by someone else?
Highlight the positives! According to psychology studies, if we want a positive behavior to continue, we can reinforce it with positive motivation- that’s the benefit of giving praises!
Comparing a person to another especially if he/she is on the losing end is just a mean thing to do. It crushes down his/her spirit. We should be helping in building healthy self-esteem by providing words of encouragements and affirmation.
We should show kindness in our home everyday, and then extend that kindness outside. When we do, well…just imagine what could happen. ☺
Wishing you all a happy life,
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”- Leo Buscaglia
Why don’t we start this week by spreading good vibes? Let’s try these simple and very easy steps on how we can share a bit of happiness to someone else’s day today.
1. Smile. 🙂
Sharing your good natured smile would tell others that you are a caring person. It can brighten up anybody’s otherwise cloudy day. Besides, smiling is one of the best beauty remedies. Anyone who wears a smile becomes more good-looking! 🙂
2.Take time to compliment.
A genuine compliment shows that you pay attention to other people’s efforts and strength. Who would not appreciate one? Just be careful that you are not giving false flattery.
It’s also nice to just listen from people. When they share great news, celebrate with them. Avoid the urge to share your own good news right away. Let them enjoy “their” moment.
If someone vents out frustrations, he or she may not necessarily be looking for advice, but just need someone to listen. So just listen. They will surely appreciate it.
4. Hug or Give a Pat on the Back.
These gestures when done appropriately is uplifting and could really boost the spirit. Sometimes, touch is even more effective than words.
5. Do a good deed.
As simple as opening a door for someone, picking up someone’s pen or book, or offering to make the coffee could already put a smile on someone else’s face.
As William Hazlitt said, “A gentle word, a kind look, a good-natured smile can work wonders and accomplish miracles.” So let’s go ahead and start making wonders! 🙂
Date Written: July 25, 2016
One easy way to feel good is to make someone else feel good or better. Your SMILE and COMPLIMENT today may go a long way…
“Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.”– Parker Palmer
Some people think it’s selfish to love yourself and to take care of yourself before others.
I’ll tell you why it’s not, and it’s pretty simple: WE CAN ONLY GIVE THE BEST OF OURSELVES WHEN WE ARE IN OUR BEST.
If we always give love, without taking some, we’ll eventually ran out of love to give.
If we keep being kind, without experiencing some, we’ll eventually tire of being kind.
If we always look out for others, and forget to lookout for ourselves, sooner or later we will be the one in danger.
Imagine that you have a “goodness vessel” in you, and you get all the love and care that you give out to others from this vessel. If this vessel is not being refilled, it will eventually ran out.
So does this mean that we do nice things to others so that they do the same to us then? Do we give love so people will love us back? Do we need to be kind so people will be kind to us? Then our vessel will be refilled?
The answer is NO. Not necessarily. Because we ourselves can love and be kind to our own selves.
After a day’s work, before you retreat for the evening, or during the first hour of the day, you can actually switch to your “Me Time” mode. Do things that gives you happiness because it invigorates your soul. You can meditate, read a book, visit your garden and smell the flowers, jog, paint, scribble on your journal, cuddle up with your love ones, or drink your favorite coffee or eat ice cream!
Gisele Bundchen said that, “If you are happy, you can give happiness. If you don’t love yourself and if you are unhappy with yourself, you can’t give anything else but that.” I definitely agree with her.
If you love your self, you become happier. And if you are happy, it is easier for people around you to be happy too! As the old song says, “…learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” 🙂
I wish everyone a great week ahead!
“All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence.”- Martin Luther King Jr.
I hope this week has been good to you so far. 🙂
I’ve seen this ad yesterday while playing my music in YouTube, and I am really moved by it. In fact, it makes me wonder…do we really need unpleasant events to happen before we show how or what it is to be humane?
Think about it… when’s the last time you’ve shown genuine sympathy or concern to others? When’s the last time you’ve shown kindness and generosity to strangers? When’s the last time you’ve said encouraging words to a seemingly deppressed soul?
It is sad to think that there are some of us who have this perception that the world is a dangerous place; and in trying to protect ourselves, we become more and more self-centered, and little by little losing our humanity.
It feels good to be able to help and love others. Even sweet and awesome at the same time actually. We are human and we’re meant to be humane. Let’s not forget that!
I hope this video will awaken the humane spirit within you… Take care everyone!
My questions for you today are:
This amazing video that I will share with you has the perfect answers for these questions. I hope that you will enjoy! 🙂
“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”- Aristotle
A lot of people do not believe that someone can really be happy because of some misconceptions. Others believe that the people who claim to be happy are in fact the miserable people in real life. (Ouchy! Does this mean that happy people are fake?) Others also think that happy people are living in “dream-land” or living in their fantasy world. (It is like saying that happiness is not real! If that’s the case, what a sad sad world this is that we’re living in…) And there are others who see happy people as weak people who pretend to be “happy” as a coping mechanism, because they cannot come to terms with the harsh reality of the world. (My goodness! How did this happen?).
I tell you why I believe that someone can truly be happy.
…Because Happy People can be sad, too.
Contrary to the belief that happy people are always on a good disposition, the reality is happy people also experience sadness, hurt, grief or even anger. The only difference is that they welcome these emotions, allow themselves to feel them, but choose not to dwell too much on them. They know when to “let go” of these emotions. They know that they have the power over them, and not the other way around.
…Because Happy People live in the same world where unhappy people live in, only they have different perspectives.
Unhappy people are used to only notice the negative things in life. The happy people choose to focus more on the good things that are happening. They are grateful for what they have that is why they know that they have a lot. They also know that challenges and obstacles happen, but what they see are the opportunities!
…Because Happy People are the Kind and Forgiving people.
For some people, Kindness and Forgiveness are not always easy to give. But being kind and being able to forgive others and ones self are uplifting and relieving. Happy people do not have difficulty in showing kindness and in giving and accepting forgiveness.
So you see, being happy is not an illusion. It’s a matter of perspective. It’s a matter of choice.
I wish everyone a happy week ahead! I hope that you choose to be happy! 🙂
“Be the reason someone smiles today!”- Unknown
Hello Everyone! 🙂
This is the first post for “Something Personal”– a post that is intended to share real personal happy stories with you. As this is my first post, I want it to be “light” and “relate-able”.
Alright, here we go…
I was on a 3-day vacation from work last week. Before I went on leave, I promised my 2 best buds at work that I’m going to treat them coffee at Starbucks when I return as my gesture of gratitude for covering for my work. (Too bad for me, I said it first before checking my remaining money for my weekly allowance budget!)
So, you can probably guess what my dilemma is when I got back to work. If I will treat them, I’ll be short of my allowance for 2-days. Will I keep my promise? What would you do?
Okay, so we went to Starbucks and I bought them their favorite drinks! When I saw the smile on their faces, I was thinking- how easy it will be for me to probably just skip my lunch at work or bring my food to work instead of buying it for the next 2 days! My worried thought instantly transformed to a happy one… 🙂
When I paid and gave my Starbucks card to the barista, we found out that I still haven’t gotten my birthday cake. So we instantly had an additional super yummy chocolate cake for free!…and then, when I got my receipt, I saw that I now have 12 stars which means that I have another free coffee from Starbucks that I can get anytime! Yay!
But that’s not all…3 days after, we’re all surprised to know that our pay day came a little early this time! How’s that? I feel like I just passed a test, and my Angel is winking at me!
Now, it’s your time to share… 🙂
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