How To Live “Lighter”

 

“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” – Carol Burnett

Sometimes, life likes to play difficult for us. There are times when we feel we are always struggling. There are times when we feel we’re always failing, or letting other people down. There are also times when we think we’re doing the right thing, but feel otherwise. And there are those times when we wish the world would stop for a while and just let us breathe (or if you’re like me, you wish you could just magically disappear for a certain period of time until everything is great again!)

Well, that is life- at least a part of it is. But we CAN make it better. We CAN make US feel better.

I would like to share with you seven things that I am trying to live by when I decided to live my life in a more mindful way.

1. Know your self before you can accept and love yourself.
2. Forgiveness is not for the person you give it to. It is a gift to yourself.
3. Gratefulness is what makes a person happy, not the other way around.
4. Always prioritize people over material things. Material things give instant gratification, but healthy loving relationships give lasting satisfaction and fulfillment.
5. It is okay to get angry, but always choose to love others and yourself.
6. Failure doesn’t mean you’re a loser. It means you are trying and learning.
7. No matter how big your problems may seem to be, always remember that you have a bigger GOD! 🙂

Lighten up! Life can be good.

Work with what You’ve Got!

“Have you ever felt trapped in circumstances, then discovered that the only trap was your own lack of vision, lack of courage, or failure to see that you had better options?” ― Nick Vujicic, Life Without Limits

Some people wait for things to happen. Others complain why things happen, while there are also a number who wonder why things happen. My favorite are the people who make things happen.

I believe that most of us want to succeed in life. Be it in our career, health, or relationships. Never have I met a person who admitted to me that he or she wants to fail. We all want the good stuffs. We all want to be happy and satisfied. Unfortunately, not all who wants will have it.

We all know that the key ingredients to success are (1) to ask and to believe that it will happen and (2) to work for it. The first is easy, BUT number 2 is where we often fail.

You see, some people would easily give up when they think that they do not have the needed resources such as enough money, skills, knowledge or education, the right people, the right time, etc… The problem is that most of us forget that we could work with what we have, because we are often focused on what we do not have.

If you want to be fit- don’t wait ’til you’ve got the money to enroll on a gym or to buy that expensive equipment. You’ve got your feet, so you should go start walking or jogging.

If you want a great relationship- you don’t need to be grand or to have lots of money to satisfy your love ones. You’ve got time, so give them your time! Have inexpensive dates and give your undivided attention to your spouses/partners, family, or friends.

Don’t make your goals complicated by setting difficult “means” to achieve them. Simplify your life, and you’ll be amaze of the difference it will make. Be grateful for what you have- they could be more than what you perceive them to be!

 

 

 

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Be an Inverse Paranoid!

“…and I think to myself, what a wonderful world!”- Louis Armstrong

A paranoid person is someone who feels extremely nervous, always fearful and worried because he believes that other people do not like him. He believes that people will only hurt him, take advantage of him and put him down. He sees the world is plotting to do him harm.

An Inverse Paranoid on the other hand is someone who believes that the world is conspiring to do him good. He believes that the world is full of goodness! That people are supportive and loving. He believes that bad things are disguised opportunities. He believes that challenges are there to enrich him and make him a better person.

Happy People are optimistic and grateful people. If you want to be happy, be an Inverse Paranoid and start focusing on the blessings in life! 🙂

Note: If you want to know more about the Inverse Paranoid, read The Success Principles by Jack Canfield.

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Date Written: August 14, 2016

It’s Not Hard to be Happy after all!

“There were two ways to be happy: Improve your reality or lower your expectations.” – Jodi Picoult

Many people are so unhappy because their perception of Happiness is that it is something big. It is so big that they need to really work hard for it in order to achieve it. For instance, they believe that they will be happy if they get promoted on their jobs, if they will have more money, if they become more famous or successful, etc.

Most of us fail to realize that happiness do not have to be about the big things. It could be found even in small pleasures… Think of the joy you feel whenever your kids hug you… Remember how it feels when your partner kisses and embraces you as a sign of love. Think of the delicious meal that your mother cooks you everyday… The laughter shared with your friends…Think of how lucky you are that nobody is hating you now…

How about the fact that you have a shelter and get to eat complete meals, or that you are healthy and not counting your days on earth?…Aren’t you glad that you have the ability to see wonderful things, or listen to beautiful music or that you are able to express your thoughts?

My friends, happiness is not about the big things. As Ann Brashers puts it, “…Maybe it (happiness) was about stringing together a bunch of small pleasures.”

Appreciate what you have in your life, and I guarantee you will live happier. 🙂

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Date Written: June 22, 2016