What I Want to Be?

“To love and be loved is the greatest happiness of existence.” – Sydney Smith

I’ve recently thought of a goal for myself that I definitely think would help make a huge difference and impact in my life.

I want to be a GREAT LOVER. (Before I go further, let me just make it clear that I didn’t mean that in the physical context.)

Yes. I want to be a great lover- not on my mind. Not on my heart. But on my ACTIONS.

I don’t know about you, but I’ll be honest. I’m one of those people who say “I love you”, but my actions sometimes fall short of the word.

I want to be a great lover to my husband.
This would mean that I should learn to listen more in times of arguments, and control my temper & not burst out “I hate you” every time we fight.
This would mean that I should be more understanding and forgiving of his shortcomings, and less of the “I told so…”
This would mean that I should show him more appreciation and, and I should be more caring to him.

I want to be a great lover to my daughter.
This would mean that I should lessen my disciplining, and be more of an encourager.
This would mean that I should be more available when she needs me and less with “can’t you see I’m doing something?” or “Mommy is busy right now…”
This would mean more play time, more story-telling, more reading together, more bonding moments.

I want to be a great lover to my parents.
Let’s face it, they’re getting older. The more that we should be intentional in spending time with them. I’m lucky I grew up close to my parents and didn’t have any unresolved conflicts with them. But if you are one who’s not in speaking terms with your folks right now, I encourage you to forgive and sort things out. Do that, and let me know if it will not make you feel better.

I want to be a great lover to my siblings.
It’s difficult when you and your siblings have their own family, living their own lives. But I want mine to know and feel that they could always reach out to me by me reaching out to them first.

I want to be a great lover to Other People.
I can do this by being more patient with them, and by always choosing to see the good in them despite the wrong-doings.
I will chose to respect them, to care, and pray for them.

These may seem pretty tough, but I don’t think they’re impossible to do. The key word is to be INTENTIONAL. And the only way to do it is to act like it every single day. So, wish me luck, okay? 🙂

P.S. You might want to do the same and let’s improve at being a great lover together !

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How to be Successful in Achieving Goals

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.” — Andrew Carnegie

We set goals for ourselves. We get excited and enthusiastically do the things to achieve that goal for the first few months (or weeks); then we missed and forget every once in a while; until the occasional forgetting becomes permanently not doing anything to achieve that goal anymore. This is what happens usually, and the reason for most of us not achieving our goals.

So what can we do to avoid falling into this trap? I say we should MARRY OUR GOALS.

• BE COMMITTED. Make our goals a part of who we are by incorporating it to our habits.
• BE FAITHFUL. Our goals should not be something that we can just give up. We should stick to them whether in times of difficulties (or failures) and triumphs.
• BE PASSIONATE ABOUT IT. We should not settle for mediocrity.  We should always strive for improvement in our performance.
• LEARN TO COMPROMISE. We should know how to prioritize. Let go of other stuffs that prevents us from progressing towards the achievement of our goals.
• INVEST TIME AND ENERGY. We reap what we sow. If we do not invest, we can expect nothing in return.

So, when do you want to get married? 🙂

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Date Written: July 29, 2016

Let’s Plant Life Seeds!- Seed#1:DREAM

There are 5 things things in life that we know are important, but do not treat with much importance. You see, simply knowing is useless until what we know is applied and manifested in our behavior or actions.

Let me give you 2 simple facts:

1. OUR TIME ON EARTH IS LIMITED. The average life expectancy of a person is 78.8 years according to CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention)

2. WHAT YOU PLANT IN YOUR EARLY YEARS, YOU WILL REAP IN YOUR LATER YEARS.

Some people would see our life as a book, and we’re the authors.
For this time, I want us to picture our life as a garden and we’re the gardeners planting the seeds that we will reap later in our life.

For today, let’s talk about the first seed that we need to plant and I hope that you will ponder on it like I do. 🙂

“For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you” -Jeremiah 29:11

I want to believe that God did not put us here on earth merely to exist. We have a purpose. And this purpose in embedded to us when we were born. Aren’t you wondering sometimes why people should have different personalities, interests & skills? Unlike other living creatures, we are the only ones who have unique preferences and potentials. Could they be clues to God’s plan for us? Could they be the hints to our purpose?

What is your Dream?
What skills are you good at that you also love doing?
How will you profit and how can you serve others with that dream?

I know I love to write.
And I also think that I have a skill in writing (please let me know otherwise so I’d immediately kill my delusion of becoming a writer right away!)
How will I profit from it? On the financial aspect, I do not know yet- but I know that it makes me happy, it nourishes my soul, it uplifts my spirit, and it also helps with my mental health.

When I started this blog, I planted my dream seed.

I also have a more personal dream. I dream of a happy family.
I want to stay in-love with my husband.
I want to have a closer connection with my daughter.
I want to have a close relationship with our family (our parents & siblings).

And so I plant seeds for this dream. From a simple ritual to making sure to kiss & hug to spending quality time- one on one and as a family.  We’re not a perfect family (believe me when I say we do have our fare share of disagreements and fights) but we  do our best to do daily acts of love and have fun together.

I read from a book that “If you want to keep your family home, make it a happy home.”

What are your dreams and heart’s desires? What do you do or have done to make it your reality?

 

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My One & Only Resolution

Hello everyone!

I hope that you all have a fantastic start of the new year.

I’m pretty sure that some of you have kick-started the year with your new self-resolutions. As for me, there is only one resolution that I am making for myself this year and it is TO OUTDO MYSELF.

... to be more disciplined in doing the tasks that I set myself to do, and believe that I could and will overcome my failures.
… to remember to be more helpful, kind, sensitive & patient to others than I was with them before.

My goal is to be able to answer positively these questions by the end of every week:
“HOW WAS I BETTER TO MYSELF THIS WEEK?”
“HOW WAS I BETTER IN TREATING OTHERS THIS WEEK?

and if I mess up…“WHAT CAN I DO TO BE BETTER NEXT TIME?”

I know that I will stumble along the way, but that is the very reason why I chose to have this resolution- so that I could keep trying and competing to myself until I become the better version of me.

As Simon Sinek wonderfully put it, “You are your competition…That is what ensures you find joy. Because the joy comes not from comparison but from advancement.”

I wish all of you a happy blessed new year!

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