Posted in Life & Wellness, Relationships

It’s all about RELATIONSHIP

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is LOVE.”               – 1 Corinthians 13:13

Do you want a happy life? A life worth living? A life that is enjoyable? A life that is meaningful?… I tell you what. YOU CAN HAVE IT!

How? By nurturing and growing your relationships. Take great care of them more than you care for your expensive car or jewelries. The other areas of your life like your finances or health could suffer, and you could still be happy- I’ve seen poor people who are happy because they have such close family relationships and good friends. I know people who are sick but are happy because they have people who love and care for them…but I’ve never seen or known someone who’s truly happy living alone for himself.

We need people to satisfy our need to feel safe, to feel that we belong, and to build our self-esteem.

Here are 3 things that will help make relationships better:
1. Say “Thank You”- never keep your gratitude to yourself. say it to people who deserve to be thanked. Say thank you for the fun time, for the good meal cooked for you, for the great conversation, for the encouraging word, for the gestures of love…for the simplest or even the corniest reason.

2. Say “I’m Sorry”- apologize when you did something wrong even if it wasn’t intended. Admit your fault and just say sorry that you made a mistake. And sometimes, even if it’s not your fault, you still apologize. People who care more for the person and the relationship apologize first because caring and loving comes first to being righteous. Pride will give you nothing but a cold lonely heart.

3. Say “I love You”- Do not get tired of saying this everyday. Say it to your spouses/partners, children, parents, siblings, friends…fill-up your love tank. No one dies of love-overdose. This is something a person could get as much as he or she wants. And the good thing is that this is FREE. So give as much as you could and it’ll come back to you doubled or tripled!

If you want a happy life, have happy relationships- with God, with others & with yourself! 🙂

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Written on: October 21, 2016

Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking

How To Live “Lighter”

 

“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” – Carol Burnett

Sometimes, life likes to play difficult for us. There are times when we feel we are always struggling. There are times when we feel we’re always failing, or letting other people down. There are also times when we think we’re doing the right thing, but feel otherwise. And there are those times when we wish the world would stop for a while and just let us breathe (or if you’re like me, you wish you could just magically disappear for a certain period of time until everything is great again!)

Well, that is life- at least a part of it is. But we CAN make it better. We CAN make US feel better.

I would like to share with you seven things that I am trying to live by when I decided to live my life in a more mindful way.

  1. Know your self before you can accept and love yourself.
  2. Forgiveness is not for the person you give it to. It is a gift to yourself.
  3. Gratefulness is what makes a person happy, not the other way around.
  4. Always prioritize people over material things. Material things give instant gratification, but healthy loving relationships give lasting satisfaction and fulfillment.
  5. It is okay to get angry, but always choose to love others and yourself.
  6. Failure doesn’t mean you’re a loser. It means you are trying and learning.
  7. No matter how big your problems may seem to be, always remember that you have a bigger GOD! 🙂

Lighten up! Life can be good.

NinaSig

Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking, Relationships

To be Happy, Let Go!

“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”– Deborah Reber

For most people, happiness is achieved by gaining something. It could be a reward, an achievement, a recognition, a relationship, or a pleasant experience. Some of us fail to realize that becoming happy may also mean letting go of things, or to some extent, even people.

Sometimes, it is difficult for us to detach ourselves from people especially if we’ve invested in them, and treated them as friends and family. However in reality, there are people who, instead of being grateful that they are valued and cared for, take advantage of the kindness of others.

It is painful and not easy to let go especially if we care about the person, but this is one thing that we need to learn in order to be happy.

We should set the standard of how we like people to treat us. If we allow them to take advantage of us, they will continue to do so. But if we set boundaries, they will learn to respect us.

Don’t be afraid to be honest and let people know how you feel about them. Don’t be shy to say “No” when you feel that you’re being used and abused. Don’t be scared to lose people in your life if you know in your heart that they do not value you or respect you as a person. You owe it to yourself to not allow other people to drag you down.

Remember that forgiving and understanding others do not mean that we have to tolerate their behavior. If you want to be happy, distance yourself from the people who makes you feel sad. You may be surprised how liberating it will make you feel.

NinaSig

Posted in Blogging, Positive Thinking, Uncategorized

A Blog Worth Sharing #12: MATTERS FOR THE HEART

Hello Everyone!

I am excited to share with you today another admirable blog that I am sure you will really love. Di’s writings are truly moving and inspirational. It makes you reflect on yourself and your life. Her positivity is just infectious and admirable.

Di, thank you for your inspirational blog. It is very soulful and thought-provoking! Simply amazing! 🙂

Matters of the Heart

BLOG NAME: MATTERS FOR THE HEART
POST TITLE: Autumn Leaves and Forgiveness

“So now the time had arrived…

Thank you anxiety, you showed me how to control my fear,
Thank you inadequacy, you showed me I AM enough,
Thank you over-sensitivity, you showed me how to feel for others,
Thank you worry, you showed me greater peace,
Thank you emotions, you showed me to release my fear of vulnerability,
Thank you solitude, you showed me how to listen to my deepest spirit callings,
Thank you pain, you slowed me down long enough for my heart to catch up,
Thank you, ‘too quiet’, you showed me how to listen,
Thank you jealousy, you showed me what’s important to me,
Thank you ‘day-dreamer’, you showed me the possibilities,
Thank you fear, you showed me how to push through my doubts,
Thank you inferiority, you showed me we are all equal, and all worthy of LOVE,
Thank you self-criticism, you showed me the way ahead can only be LOVE for myself.

May we find forgiveness in our lack of unconditional love towards ourselves.”

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Posted in Inspirational, Positive Thinking

What I learned from Children

I would define CHILDREN as the happiest creatures in the world. Oh, don’t you just envy their enthusiasm and high-spirits!

happy children

In my pondering, I realize that there are really some great things that we can learn from them- the actual simple reasons why they are always happy.

Here we go…

#1: Children love unconditionally.

They don’t have any hidden motives or agenda. They don’t say “I love you IF you are…”, or “I love you WHEN you…”…they just simply love for the mere fact of loving someone.

I remember one time when my daughter, Gaby told me that she loves me. I asked her why and I was astonished with her response: “Because I am happy with you.” My heart just melts with joy every time I remember that.

#2: Children apologize and forgive easily.

Unlike adults, children don’t hold grudges. They get angry and fight, but they make up easily and then forget about what happened– as if it never happened at all. There’s no wonder why most adults are bitter– ’cause we usually fool ourselves by forgiving but not forgetting.

#3: Children live in the present moment.

They don’t worry about tomorrow, nor dwell in the past. They are enjoying living the PRESENT! On the contrary, most adults can’t let go of their past experiences and they are always busy planning about the future and they missed out the opportunities that the present hold.

#4: Children don’t complicate things.

Things are simple for them. There are no “gray areas”. They only know the Right & Wrong. and the Good & Bad– not the “somewhat right” or “wrong only if…”

#5: They laugh their hearts out and they have fun a lot!

#6: They are easily pleased and find joy in simple things.

Just compare the response that you get when you give a candy or ice cream to a child and to an adult. 🙂

#7:  They don’t lie about how they feel.

Children let you know when they are upset or happy. They do not hide their emotions. Now when you ask an adult if there is something wrong, what is the common response? Most often than not, they say “I’m Fine” even if they’re not. So the negative emotions or feelings dwells in their hearts until the time when they would just explode!

#8: Children love being hugged and kissed a lot; and they are generous in giving hugs and kisses!

#9: Children are curious and loves to learn new things.

It boosts their self-esteem when they get to learn something, and this gives them happiness. Unfortunately, most adults have the tendency to become complacent and idle.

#10: Children know what they like and they don’t like.

If you ask a child what he or she wants, you get an answer right away… why is it that when we ask ourselves what we want, it is as if we’re answering a trigonometry equation?

Now, who says only adults can teach? 🙂

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Date Written: May 26, 2016

Posted in Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking, Random Happiness

The LOVE Freeware

Hello all!

I hope that everybody is having a fine week so far. I have a video in mind that I wanted to share with you today, but I incidentally came across this one and I really like it- so I decided to share this today instead.

The conversation that you’re about to read or watch is taken from the book of Praveen Verma entitled “Softwares of Positive Thinking.”  I really hope that you’ll  like it and more importantly, I hope that it will move you to assess your life especially your relationships with the people that are close to you.

P.S. The slides are a little fast, so I wrote down the conversation below. Here you go… 🙂

 

God’s Rep: May I help you?

Customer: I have this new program. I’m not very technical, but I think I am ready to install it now. What do I do first?

God’s Rep: The first step is to open your HEART. Have you located your HEART?

Customer: Yes I have, but there are several programs running right now. Is it okay to install while they are running?

God’s Rep: What programs are running?

Customer: Let me see… I have PASTHURT.EXE, LOWESTEEM.EXE. GRUDGE.EXE, and RESENTMENT.COM running right now.

God’s Rep: No problem. LOVE will automatically erase PASTHURT.EXE from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory, but it will no longer disrupt other programs. LOVE will eventually overwrite LOWESTEEM.EXE with a module of it’s own called HIGHESTEEM.EXE. However, you have to completely turn off GRUDGE.EXE and RESENTMENT.COM. Those programs prevent LOVE from being properly installed.

Customer: I don’t know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?

God’s Rep: My pleasure. Go to your Start menu and invoke FORGIVENESS.EXE. Do this as many times as necessary until GRUDGE.EXE and RESENTMENT.COM have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, I’m done. LOVE has started installing itself automatically. Is that normal?

God’s Rep: Yes it is. You should receive a message that says it will reinstall for the life of your HEART. Do you see that message?

Customer: Yes I do. Is it completely installed?

God’s Rep: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other HEART’s in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops. I have an error message already. What should I do?

God’s Rep: What does the message say?

Customer: It says “ERROR 412 PROGRAM NOT RUN ON INTERNAL COMPONENTS.” What does that mean?

God’s Rep: Don’t worry. That’s a common problem. It means that the LOVE program is set-up to run on external HEARTS but has not yet been run on your HEART. It is one of those complicated programming things, but in non-technical terms it means you have to “LOVE” your own machine before it can “LOVE” others.

Customer: So what should I do?

God’s Rep: Can you find the directory called “SELF-ACCEPTANCE”?

Customer: Yes, I have it.

God’s Rep: Excellent, you are getting good at this.

Customer: Thank you… Got it. Hey! My HEART is filling-up with really neat files. SMILE.MPG is playing on my monitor right now, and it shows that WARMTH.COM, PEACE.EXE, and CONTENTMENT.COM are copying themselves all over my HEART!

God’s Rep: Then LOVE is installed and running. You should be able to handle it from here. One more thing before I go.

Customer: Yes?

God’s Rep: LOVE is a freeware. Be sure to give it and its various modules to everybody you meet. They will in turn share it with other people and they will return some really neat modules back to you.

Customer: I will. Thank you for your help.


(Article Credit: “Softwares of Positive Thinking” by Praveen Verma. Video taken from YouTube)

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Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking, Psychology

Live Light. Live Mighty.

Today, I want to share with you 2 great life lessons that I personally believe would make a difference in the way we view life and the world around us, IF only we live by them.

Lesson #1: FORGIVE YOURSELF AND FORGIVE OTHERS

“Forgiveness is the best form of love. It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an even stronger person to forgive.”- Anonymous

Forgive yourself for the wrong choices and decisions you’ve made,  for not being good enough, for not being open, for not trying harder, for not reaching out. Forgive yourself for your failures and for the things that you did not do.

Forgive others for hurting you, for not appreciating you, for taking advantage of you, and for the wrong things done to you.

Not many people realize that when we forgive, we do ourselves favor. Forgiveness liberates us from the negative emotions that consume us. It frees us from anger, hatred and regrets. Forgiveness gives us peace and enables us to move forward.

 

Lesson #2: SEEK SIGNIFICANCE, NOT MATERIAL WEALTH

“Do the things that come from the heart. When you do, you won’t be dissatisfied…”– Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie.
When we die, we cannot bring our wealth with us. Our fame will eventually be forgotten. Our achievements will soon mean nothing. But what we will be remembered for are the things that we did to and for other people. How we made them feel. How we gave a part of ourselves to them.

So invest in people. Share your time. Be concern and compassionate. Nourish and dig deeper your relationships with your friends and family. Make it your purpose to share what you can give to the people around you.

I have not experienced dying, but I know that I would go happy and peacefully when I will have people who loves me in my deathbed. I would not trade that to any treasure in the world.
Choose LOVE over hate.
Choose KINDNESS over greed.
Choose FORGIVENESS over hatred.
Choose to be HAPPY by making the world around you happy. 🙂

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Date Written: June 16, 2016

Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Psychology

Are Happy People REAL?

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”- Aristotle

A lot of people do not believe that someone can really be happy because of some misconceptions. Others believe that the people who claim to be happy are in fact the miserable people in real life. (Ouchy! Does this mean that happy people are fake?) Others also think that happy people are living in “dream-land” or living in their fantasy world. (It is like saying that happiness is not real! If that’s the case, what a sad sad world this is that we’re living in…) And there are others who see happy people as weak people who pretend to be “happy” as a coping mechanism, because they cannot come to terms with the harsh reality of the world. (My goodness! How did this happen?).

I tell you why I believe that someone can truly be happy.

…Because Happy People can be sad, too.

Contrary to the belief that happy people are always on a good disposition, the reality is happy people also experience sadness, hurt, grief or even anger. The only difference is that they welcome these emotions, allow themselves to feel them, but choose not to dwell too much on them. They know when to “let go” of these emotions. They know that they have the power over them, and not the other way around.

…Because Happy People live in the same world where unhappy people live in, only they have different perspectives.

Unhappy people are used to only notice the negative things in life. The happy people choose to focus more on the good things that are happening. They are grateful for what they have that is why they know that they have a lot. They also know that challenges and obstacles happen, but what they see are the opportunities!

…Because Happy People are the Kind and  Forgiving people.

For some people, Kindness and Forgiveness are not always easy to give. But being kind and being able to forgive others and ones self are uplifting and relieving. Happy people do not have difficulty in showing kindness and in giving and accepting forgiveness.

So you see, being happy is not an illusion. It’s a matter of perspective. It’s a matter of choice.

I wish everyone a happy week ahead! I hope that you choose to be happy! 🙂

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Posted in Life & Wellness, Psychology, Relationships

3 Questions for a Happier Family

“What greater thing is there for human souls than to feel that they are joined for life – to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories.” – George Eliot

Hello Everyone!

I know that every one of us desires to have a family where everybody are in a good terms with each other. The thing is no family is ever perfect. Every once in a while, we get mad at each other, we fight, and we say things (we often do not mean) to hurt each other. But the good thing is we can always do something to improve our relationship with everyone in the family.

When you get the chance to sit down and talk to your spouse, partner, children, or siblings today- I would like to encourage  you to ask them these questions (I learned these questions from a conference that I and my hubby attended together):

  1. Is there anything that you need from me that you have not gotten yet? 

  2. Is there anything that I have done to hurt your feelings that I need to apologize for?

  3. What can I do to be a better Spouse/Partner/Mother/Father/Brother/Sister to you?

If we ask these questions more often, and make sure that we act on them, I can guarantee you that it will make a difference in our relationship with our family. 🙂

Happy weekend everyone! Make sure to squeeze in your schedule some quality family time!

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Date Written: July 31, 2016