Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking

Improve Your Life: Decide & Commit!

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”- Tony Robbins

Some people wants to be more successful perhaps in their relationships or careers; other people wants to be wealthier or healthier…but do you wonder why most of us only keep “dreaming” and not exactly live these wants? My belief is that we often fail to realize what we want in our lives because we lack the power to commit to whatever we intend our life would be.

Do you believe that where you are exactly in your life right now is brought about by the decisions that you’ve made in the past? Have you ever wondered how you’ve arrived with those decisions? Are they in sync with your values and based on what are more important to you?

I know a person who wants to strengthen her relationship with her family. She wants to have more quality time with her husband, and she wants to have more bonding time with her daughter. She also wants to improve her health by exercising and becoming more fit. She knows that it will make her happy if she could do these things.

However, this person works night shift for a multi-billion company. She needs to sleep during the day, so she won’t have a problem keeping awake at night. But it’s impossible for her to have a bonding time with her daughter if she sleeps the whole day, so she would need to sacrifice “sleeping hours” and “me time” just so she could spend a few hours of play time and study time with her. But there’s a problem, since she lacks sleep, she also lacks patience and it’s very easy for her to lose temper.

Moreover, since her husband works during the day, she and he don’t get to spend much time together during the week days. There’s even times when they don’t get to see each other. What’s more, since she often gets stressed out with work, and do not get enough sleep, she ends up not having the energy or enthusiasm and time to do much needed exercise.

To cut the story short- this person re-evaluated her life and priorities. She had to decide which are more important to her- is it family or career? is it love and relationship or work and status? is it health or money?

She made a decision based on what she values more and that’s it. Sooner than later, she rendered her resignation and that is one of the best decisions she’d ever made!

Was she afraid or this major change? Of course she is! But she knows that if you want to make a bold change and get more in your life, you need to step up and beat the fear! Do you think this person is happier now? ABSOLUTELY. Not only is she happier but also her husband and daughter! How do I know? Because this person I am talking about is ME! 🙂 Yep, I am now a proud full-time mom and wifey, and part-time with any other stuff I get myself involved with!

My point is this- if you want to improve an aspect in your life but there are things that prevent you from doing it- you have to make a decision, and commit to act on it. How you decide is up to you. As for me, I have this 3 questions that require a solid YES.

  1. Will I be happy?
  2. Will it allow growth and make me a better person?
  3. Will it be good for the people who matters to me?

 

May God bless your life!

NinaSig

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A Happy Story #7- A Baby Coming Soon!

Hello Everyone!

We received a happy news from one of our fellow blogger.

Thank you Ms. Fran for sharing with us your joy of expecting an additional member of your family. A baby is indeed a blessing! 🙂


Sharer: Ms. Fran
Website: blackgirldownme

My happiness story is more good news, than a story!

I recently found out I’m going to be a grandmother and I’m totally happy!😍

At first I was a little sad, because I felt my son was too young. With that being said, all I can think about is getting ready for our new addition!!! My heart is melting already.


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Are You Kind At Home?

“No act of kindness no matter how small is ever wasted.”- Aesop

Have you noticed how sometimes,we are nicer to other people than to our family? How often are we more accommodating to our visitors than to our spouses? Why is it that we are more courteous and patient to our bosses than we are to our parents? How come that we speak more gently to colleagues than to our children? This is sad, but it is a reality.

But this can change.

We can start in our own home, with our own family. If our children will grow in an environment where respect and kindness to family members are valued, it will penetrate their being. It will become a part of them.

Why don’t we go back to the basics? Here are some of the important ones that we often neglect or forget.

  • Say the 3 magic words: “I’m Sorry”, “Thank You”, and “I love you”.

Immediately apologize when you hurt someone. Who will not forgive you when you just go ahead and say “I made a mistake, and I’m sorry” then hug them right away?

Be grateful for the service that you get even if what they’re doing are already expected of them. Thank your mom for cooking for you. Thank your dad for driving you to school. Thank your spouse for taking care of your needs. Saying thank you is letting them know they are appreciated and recognized.

Don’t ever get tired of saying I love you and hug at least once a day!… this is a cliche that will always work!

  • Communicate and Talk.

When’s the last time you dated your parents or siblings? When’s the last time you had a heart to heart talk with your children? Be involve in the lives of your family members by knowing what’s going on.

  • Offer to Help or Assist.

When’s the last time we offered to do a house chore that is supposed to be done by someone else?

  • Be generous with Compliments, not with complaints.

Highlight the positives! According to psychology studies, if we want a positive behavior to continue, we can reinforce it with positive motivation- that’s the benefit of giving praises!

  • Do not compare; but Encourage rather.

Comparing a person to another especially if he/she is on the losing end is just a mean thing to do. It crushes down his/her spirit. We should be helping in building healthy self-esteem by providing words of encouragements and affirmation.

We should show kindness in our home everyday, and then extend that kindness outside. When we do, well…just imagine what could happen. ☺

Wishing you all a happy life,

nina-feb1

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A Happy Story #4- “Thank You”

I love Sundays. It is our family day.

I remember this one time when we’re on the road…
My hubby was driving and I was at the backseat with my daughter. When it’s only the 3 of us, I like staying at the backseat with my little girl so that I could touch her and look at her when we chat.

Like always, she talks a lot. She talks about the things that she sees around, she talks about the billboards that she sees along the way, and whatever things that cross her mind.

When she gets tired, she lays her head on my arms or lap. One time she did that, I kissed her head. And then she said, “Mommy, thank you for kissing me.”

That moment is one of the happiest moments in my life- knowing that my daughter appreciates how I show my love and care for her. I still get a little emotional sometimes whenever I remember that incident.

How many of us take the time to say “Thank You” for the love and care that we get from family, friends, or colleagues? Sometimes, it is easy to forget- especially if it is “expected” of them or when “we’re used to” being treated as such.

But you know what, it’s a wonderful feeling to be thanked and appreciated. 🙂

I hope to share your story next time. See below how.
Have a great weekend everyone! Remember to bond with people today, and not with technology!

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A Happy Story# 5- “Making Magic”

Sharer: Jennie-  A Teacher’s Reflection

Hello Everyone!

I am delighted to share with you today a happy story from one of my favorite bloggers, Jennie. I hope that you will enjoy her story as much as I did!

Thank you Jennie for sharing us a piece of your happiness thru your true to life magical story! 🙂


Each year I host a party for children and their families, and every year it creates magic– not the storybook or pretend magic, but something very real.

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Families gather with their children when school closes and have a pizza party on the playground.  That event alone is incredibly exciting for young children.  This year the weather was warm for New England, approaching 70 degrees.  It was also foggy.  Perfect for what was about to happen!

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We carved pumpkins into Jack-O-Lanterns.  That took quite a while; plenty of time for families to get to know each other, and plenty of time for each child and family to spend time together, doing something really fun.  Yet, it was far more than fun.

Darkness descended and transformed carving pumpkins into another world of wonder and splendor.  Imagine what it must be like for a child to be at school in the dark.  When we stopped to look at all the Jack-O-Lanterns, everyone felt a great shift to somethingmagical.  This is what I wrote to families:

Tonight was a magical evening.  Pizza dinner at school is pretty cool; yet carving a pumpkin with your family is a memory builder.  We so enjoyed all the activity and excitement with each family.  As the sun was setting, arranging all the jack-o-lanterns on the stone wall was filled with anticipation.  Sitting together in a circle with our jack-o-lanterns and singing songs, as it became dark, was… perfect.  Truly, it was a moment in time, the kind that leaves you with a feeling deep in your chest, yet you cannot find words to explain it.  You just know that it is special.  Often it is the little moments that are the most important and the best of all.  Thank you for being there.

We gathered all together in a big circle.  Jack-O-Lanterns were lit.  Children were snuggled with their families.  We sang the Jack-O-Lantern song, twice.  The excitement of the singing the song in the dark was magical, indeed.

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Yes, it was a moment that leaves you with a feeling deep in your chest, one that is difficult to explain, yet you know is special.  It is magic!

Jennie


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Life is good when there is Love

“Where there is Love, there is Life”- Mahatma Ghandi

There are many things in life that I simply love.

I love reading a good book… I love listening to soothing music… I love coloring my book… I love drinking coffee… I love cooking for my family… I love my movie dates and dinners with hubby… I love stargazing and cloud-watching with my daughter… I love hugs and flowers… I love going out of town…I love a lot more other things…

BUT I made a discovery and found out another thing that I love which for is really sweet and gives me so much more satisfaction. It is something that really melts my heart and you would not guess what it is.

I love combing my mom’s hair.

Yes, it’s downright simple happiness for me.

As I gently comb my mom’s hair, I feel nothing but great love and respect for her. I know more than 30 years ago, she was the one combing my hair with such great care.

My mom loves me and my 3 other siblings very much and I know she does up until now that we have our own family. Her love and care for us never ceased. In fact, she also shows the same affection to her grandkids and treat our spouses like her own children.

So every time I do an act of service for her, my heart delights on it- every second of it!

Whenever we get the chance to be together as family, I realize how my mom and my dad are also getting older… That’s a reality that I can do nothing about. I can’t freeze time and wish that we could all just stay as we are at this present time. No- that is impossible. BUT LIFE IS GOOD.

Life is good because we have a technology that allow us to see each other as if we’re in the same place. Everyday they get to see their grandkids grow up. No matter the distance, we can be there for each other when we need to. We do not feel that we’re alone.

Life is good simply because every day is an opportunity to make people in our lives happy. Every day, I get the chance to tell them that I love them. Life is good because there is LOVE.

nina-feb

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The Beauty of Living in Simplicity

“The people who keep their lifestyle natural as much as possible to the decency level meet quite often in life a beautiful person.” – Anuj Somany

Let me tell you a real life story of someone I know who is very famous and successful.
His dad was an assistant VP on a humongous company, and yet he did not grow up pampered and spoiled as most rich kids are. His parents lived a life of simplicity- they did not live in a mansion nor owned luxury cars. Theirs is just a typical medium-size home and a Toyota car of more than 10 years old.

In his elementary days, he was taught to commute going to and from school. And he looks forward to every Sunday because that is the only time they are allowed to drink Coke. He also did not own a lot of toys- but then once a week, he and his dad visited the mall and there he would see all the toys that he loved and he would imagine that he owned all of them. He and his dad would also always try to look for something that they could give her mom when they go home.

Now, you would think that he was deprived, but you know what, you’ll be surprised to know that he never felt that way. Because he was always treated with much care and love. He need not do anything to get attention from his parents.

Everyday, he and his dad would jog together on their garage… and then he would sit on his dad’s lap and they talk about anything in the world. After dinner, he and his dad would sit beside each other and read their favorite comics until it’s time for bed. After praying as a family, he would see his parents in their bedroom- where his dad was seated on his chair, and her mom standing behind him, massaging his back while the they talked about how their day was.

This is the beauty of living in simplicity. Imagine if his parents chose to live in a more luxurious manner. His dad would then have to work overtime to pay off the bills- he would get too tired everyday to even spend time talking to his boy and wife every night. He might also be haggard and ill-tempered brought about by stress. And his mom would perhaps even need to find work to help with the finances.

Who would then jog with this poor boy everyday? and talk to him and answer his unending questions about the world? and who would then read comic books with him? and go hanging out to the mall with him? … and would he be the successful person he is today both in his career and family, if his childhood experience would have been different?

I hope his story moves you. It definitely inspired me. Let’s not forget that how we choose to live our life does not only affect our own happiness, but also the happiness of the people that we love! 🙂

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