Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking, Psychology

3 Steps to End LONELINESS

When we have a problem and feel as though our life is falling apart, our tendency is to “escape” from the miserable state that we’re at- and most often than not, we resolve to the quick fixes that are also self-destructive at some point: We drink. We party like hell in the company of people who more or less do not care about what’s going on with your life. We take drugs to forget or have sex with strangers. But guess what– the next day, YOUR PROBLEM IS STILL THERE because these quick fixes are not really the solutions but a temporary escape from your reality.

Just recently, I was able to listen attentively to Jason Mraz’ song “Three Things” and I thought, Wow! This is exactly how we should deal with the downsides in our lives.

 

“Number one, I cry my eyes out and dry up my heart.”

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Yes, crying is a cathartic release. It purges us of our massive feeling of loneliness. I personally believe that it is important to first empty ourselves with the heartaches before we could move on.

 

“The second thing I do… say my thank-you’s for each and every moment of my life. I go where I know the love is and let it fill me up inside…”

Not many of us realize but it is also important to contemplate on our lives. We get to analyze what went well and what went wrong…being said that, we should not fix our focus only the to the bad experience and the bad feeling that it brings- but more importantly, what lesson do we get from it.

friendsSurrounding ourselves with the people who cares for us also helps us get through the difficulties of life. If we are alone and we are lonely, we get lonelier because we do not have another person to encourage us and share the burden. Other people may not necessarily provide the solutions, but they give us the emotional support that is much needed. They strengthen us by letting us feel loved and valued.

 

“The third thing that I do…I pause, I take a breath,…and I let that chapter end.”

pastWe should let go of the failures and hurts in our past, and move on with our lives. Contrary to what others believe in, your past do not determine your future. You future is determined by the choices that you make…and it is your choice to be happy. SO CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY.

 

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Date Written: May 30, 2016

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Posted in Inspirational, Personal, writing

Who I am and Why I’m here

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Hi. I’m Nina. I have a 4-year old daughter who drives me crazy most of the time- but she is my life and I really love her! I have a smart husband (who is actually good-looking too!). And I have a great job. So why am I here in front of my laptop typing when I should be napping, or taking a break from my”busy” life?

One time, my husband and I were watching TED talks in YouTube (a thing that is becoming a habit of ours) and there’s this one guy who really inspired me to start doing one of the things that I love to do… which is to write. He said, “If money is not an issue, what is it that you would be doing right “… “I say you do it now.

When I think about it more, I realize that perhaps he is right. A lot of us get stuck on a job that we do not like; or pretend about being okay with our work (telling ourselves…at least I get to pay the bill…) and we go on with our day to day mundane activity thinking at the back of our minds that someday, we’ll get to do what we love to do.

But in reality, there is really NO someday. If we are really passionate about something, we have to MAKE the time for it… and there is no better time than NOW. I have to stop convincing myself that “I’ll have plenty of time to write later… that for now this other thing works“…because guess what, I might end up telling myself “It’s too late for me to do this now” or “I’m too old to pursue this at this point.

I really admire those people who  pursued their passion, who simply did what they LOVE to do, not thinking about the money or the fame…yet everything else fell in their favor. I remember Jason Mraz- a two-time Grammy award winner- saying on one of his interviews that his mom would try to send him to college, and his dad would always get him good jobs but then he would quit them and try to go back into music. In my personal opinion, I do not think that it was his goal to be an award-winning artist. He only did what he love to do. And I believe he found his life-purpose in music.

I am a firm believer that God gave each of us special gifts and talents that we can utilize to achieve our purpose in life. And I choose to believe that if we utilize them to serve and honor Him thru other people, we can be genuinely happy.

I love to write and I want to connect with other people thru my writing. I want to inspire and be inspired at the same time. I believe that in this way, I’ll find purpose and meaning to my life. This is why I write NOW.:)


Written: May 25, 2016