Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking

Let’s Plant Life Seeds!- Seed #5: I AM

There are 5 things things in life that we know are important, but do not treat with much importance. You see, simply knowing is useless until what we know is applied and manifested in our behavior or actions.

Let me give you 2 simple facts:

1. OUR TIME ON EARTH IS LIMITED. The average life expectancy of a person is 78.8 years according to CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention)

2. WHAT YOU PLANT IN YOUR EARLY YEARS, YOU WILL REAP IN YOUR LATER YEARS.

Some people would see our life as a book, and we’re the authors.
For this time, I want us to picture our life as a garden and we’re the gardeners planting the seeds that we will reap later in our life.

Let’s talk about the Seed#5, the last and I believe the most important one- I AM.

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“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”- Psalm 139:14

Let me ask you a question: WHO ARE YOU?

Some people with high self-worth would be able to give fantastic answers to this question. But there are also some people who may give negative answers because of low self-worth.

Let me share with you something that I find really helpful to me. How we see ourselves is very important because it affects how we live our life.

If you are always saying negative things like I am a loser, or I am a mess, or I am a total wreck… you are pushing away all the good things that could possibly happen to you. If this is the mindset that you have, you’re saying “NO” to good things before they even happen. WHY? Because you’re affirming to yourself that you deserve to suffer and do not believe that you can be happy.

I’ll tell you a universal fact. NOBODY IS PERFECT! So instead of looking at yourself based on your failures, flaws and imperfections, focus on your good traits. You may have had your fair share of bad moments or experiences, but they do not defy who you are.

Believe me when I tell you that…

(If you’re a parent) YOU ARE A CARING DAD OR MOM
(If you have a spouse/partner)YOU ARE A LOVING SPOUSE/PARTNER
YOU’RE AN OBEDIENT AND LOVING SON OR DAUGHTER
YOU ARE A DEPENDABLE FRIEND
YOU ARE A KIND & HONEST PERSON
YOU ARE A HARD-WORKING STUDENT OR EMPLOYEE
YOU ARE PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING
YOU ARE FUN
YOU ARE FORGIVING & PEACE-LOVING PERSON
YOU’RE DIFFERENT, BUT CONFIDENT
YOU MAY NOT LOOK LIKE A MODEL, BUT YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
YOU MAY NOT BE A GENIUS, BUT YOU’RE SMART ENOUGH
YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE
YOU ARE WORTHY OF GOOD HEALTH
YOU ARE WORTHY OF FORGIVENESS
YOU ARE WORTHY OF ACCEPTANCE
YOU ARE WORTHY OF BLESSINGS!

If you say “I am lovable”…Love will come looking for you…If you say “I am abundant”, opportunities will come knocking at your door…If you say “I am blessed!”, blessings will be poured unto you.

Friends, we have more power over our bodies and our lives more than we think we have. We have to choose carefully what we say next to our “I AM”. Plant positive seeds for your Self-Worth.

Let me end this post with this lovely quote from Joel Osteen, “It doesn’t matter who likes or doesn’t like you, all that matters is that God likes you. He accepts you. He approves of you.”

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Did you miss the previous Seeds? Read them here.

Posted in Life & Wellness, Relationships

Relationship Drifts

“The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.”- Audrey Hepburn

When we talk about broken or failed relationships, what comes to mind first is that someone probably cheated. And then there are the other reasons such as incompatibility or irreconcilable differences; physical or verbal abuse; possessiveness, jealousy, & trust-issues that lead to fighting, etc.

But I tell you what, there is another MAJOR culprit why relationships fail. I would bet that this one probably have not cross the minds of most of us because unlike the reasons mentioned earlier, this particular one is not obvious. It works like a cancer- you’ll only realize that you have it when you’re already experiencing the damage on the relationship. Most often than not, either it is too late, or it will require a “major treatment” for the relationship to be restored.

This silent relationship-killer I am talking about is called Relationship Drift. It is like people staying on different boats that are slowly being drifted away by the water current. If they don’t exert effort to paddle and stay close together, the boats will be separated away from each other.

The sad thing is that Relationship Drifts don’t just happen overnight. It’s a long on-going process that we fail to notice and it could happen to any relationship. It could be between spouses, parents and children, in-laws, and friends. It’s when we lose spark or interest to one another. This is when conversations are no longer interesting or on a deeper level. It is when we no longer miss the other person. It is when we no longer care what the other person is doing. It is when we no longer care what they think or feel about us. It is when we no longer feel anything or when we become indifferent.

I would like to think that drifts in relationships is brought about by the absence of 3-A’s: Affection, Attention, and Affirmation. And so to avoid it, we need to ensure that we always have these 3-A’s present in our relationships.

  • Affection.
    When we love someone, we have to show them our affection. Love is not just a word or a feeling. There has to be an action. Kissing and hugging are most popular, but there are other ways too. We can give simple gifts, tap on the shoulder, helping out, or even calling or texting just to say you’re thinking of the person or you appreciate something that he or she did for you.
  • Attention.
    Set a time to bond. Try to schedule separate dates with your spouses or partner, children, in-laws and friends. Be mindful of the moment and communicate. Share your thoughts and experiences. Ask how each other is doing, and be interested to not only what’s happening in their lives, but also with their dreams and aspirations. Celebrate a lot- not just birthdays and holidays. Make reasons for celebrations like when your son top the exam or your daughter learned to play a new instrument. Creating moments with your loved ones is what makes a great relationship.
  • Affirmation.
    We need to show encouragement and support when needed. Even if we don’t feel like doing it, we have to let people feel and believe that we will always be here for them. The lack of assurance that you will be there no matter what cripples relationships. Being said that, let’s try hard not to judge but be understanding even if we do not tolerate a certain behavior. Good and open communication is always a key.

I know that doing all these is not easy. It is hard and that is why most relationships don’t work out. Trust me when I say that it is better to work hard now, than suffer and regret the consequences of not having to do all these later.

Happy weekend everybody! May God bless the relationships in your lives!

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