Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking, Psychology

Deal with Negative Emotions, Positively

“Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.”- Joel Osteen

Negative emotions are inevitable. Everyday, we encounter circumstances that would arouse one or more of these emotions in us. The truth is, no matter how positive a person we are, we still get affected and we still can’t help but feel these negative emotions even if we don’t want to.

So, how do we handle these? What can we do so that they don’t affect us as much? In my personal opinion, I think that we should allow ourselves to feel them. Let ourselves get acquainted with those feelings– welcome them and accept them. And then, we detach from them. Allowing ourselves to feel the negative emotions is us recognizing that we don’t feel good about something.

Now, it is important to remember that after we come from that realization, we have 2 options: It is either we dwell on these emotions long enough that they make our lives miserable, OR we take charge and have the power over them by analyzing their root causes and come up of possible solutions to change them.

According to Gretchen Rubin, “Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.” I agree with her completely! 🙂

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Date Written: June 23, 2016

 

Posted in Blogging, Positive Thinking, Uncategorized

A Blog Worth Sharing #12: MATTERS FOR THE HEART

Hello Everyone!

I am excited to share with you today another admirable blog that I am sure you will really love. Di’s writings are truly moving and inspirational. It makes you reflect on yourself and your life. Her positivity is just infectious and admirable.

Di, thank you for your inspirational blog. It is very soulful and thought-provoking! Simply amazing! 🙂

Matters of the Heart

BLOG NAME: MATTERS FOR THE HEART
POST TITLE: Autumn Leaves and Forgiveness

“So now the time had arrived…

Thank you anxiety, you showed me how to control my fear,
Thank you inadequacy, you showed me I AM enough,
Thank you over-sensitivity, you showed me how to feel for others,
Thank you worry, you showed me greater peace,
Thank you emotions, you showed me to release my fear of vulnerability,
Thank you solitude, you showed me how to listen to my deepest spirit callings,
Thank you pain, you slowed me down long enough for my heart to catch up,
Thank you, ‘too quiet’, you showed me how to listen,
Thank you jealousy, you showed me what’s important to me,
Thank you ‘day-dreamer’, you showed me the possibilities,
Thank you fear, you showed me how to push through my doubts,
Thank you inferiority, you showed me we are all equal, and all worthy of LOVE,
Thank you self-criticism, you showed me the way ahead can only be LOVE for myself.

May we find forgiveness in our lack of unconditional love towards ourselves.”

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Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking, Psychology

Protect Your Self-Esteem!

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”  ― Mark Twain

Some people may not pay attention very much on Self-esteem but it is important and it matters. Why? Because our Self-esteem affects the way we look at ourselves. How we perceive ourselves influences our actions, which will eventually affect the way we live our lives.

Unfortunately, there are certain factors beyond our control that could negatively impact our Self-esteem. Fortunately, we can do something to protect it and if we want to, we can re-build a more positive self-image.

Here are some helpful ways to protect our Self-esteem:

  1. Choose your company

Hang out with people who appreciate you and make you feel good; and depart yourself from people who constantly put you down. We may not always avoid negative people in our lives, but we can always keep reminding ourselves not to allow their negativity to transfer onto us. Remember that you deserve to be loved and respected. So be around people who bring out the best in you.

     2. Know the difference between constructive feedback and destructive criticism.

Constructive feedback is focused on your behavior or action, and it aims to improve you . On the other hand, destructive criticism attacks you personally and it does not have any purpose for your betterment. So take in the constructive feedbacks and do not pay attention to the destructive ones.

  3. Avoid comparing yourself with others.

Do not compare yourself with others especially if you think that they are better than you. Wishing that you are on their shoes is hurtful to your self-esteem. What you can do is analyze their behavior and take note of what they are doing good, and then copy that. If it is healthy and you can benefit from it, you can mirror that attitude or behavior until it becomes you.

     4. Learn to accept compliments

Don’t be shy to accept compliments. Believe and accept that you can really be good at something so learn to say THANK YOU!

  5. Build up positive thoughts about yourself.

Don’t dwell too much on your failures as it will only drag your self-esteem. Instead, catch yourself when you do great! Make sure to celebrate small victories by rewarding yourself to things that you enjoy.

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Date Written: August 08, 2016

Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking, Psychology

Live Happier. Here’s HOW.

I want to share with you 4 key points that I have learned in order to live a happier life. Believe me when I say that I am still trying my very best to adapt these everyday, and sometimes I fail, but what’s important is I don’t stop trying =)

1. ACCEPTANCE

“I’m okay with what I ultimately can’t do, because there is so much that I can do.”-Sam Berns

It’s our automatic response to make excuses when we are afraid to fail at something that we really want to achieve in life. We can come up with all the reasons that hinders us from doing what needs to be done. But we need to be bigger than our limitations! We should focus on the things that we can control and change.

2. GRATITUDE

“We have a choice. Either to be angry for what we don’t have, or be thankful for what we do have.”- Nick Vujicic

If we have a grateful attitude, we will never fail to find a reason to be thankful for everyday. We will always see the good in a bad circumstance or situation. We have more appreciation for life because we find joy in even the simplest things.

I’ve written more about this topic on my blog entitled To be Happy, be Grateful

3. SELF-AWARENESS

“Two biggest barriers to you fulfilling your purpose in life is Envy and People-pleasing.”- Rick Warren

We can never be truly happy if we are always wishing to be someone else or be like someone else; nor can we be happy pretending to be someone else just to belong or feel accepted. Why? because trying to be like someone we’re not prevents us from reaching our full potentials. We need to know ourselves- embrace our strengths and accept our limitations. This way, we can truly be at peace with ourselves and be happy with who we are.

4. COMPANY

“People inspire you, or they drain you. Pick them wisely.”- Hans Hansen

The people that you are with can affect how you look at yourself and the world around you. If you stay in the company of negative people- those who always whine and complain about their lives, blame other people of their misfortunes, and always see the obstacles in reaching their goals- tendency is, you become one of them. As the saying goes, birds of the same feathers flock together. So fly with the optimistic guys- be with the happy, vibrant and successful people. They are the ones who give a positive influence in your life.

I hope you’ll consider these and experience a happier life! 🙂

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Date Written: May 31, 2016