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My One & Only Resolution

Hello everyone!

I hope that you all have a fantastic start of the new year.

I’m pretty sure that some of you have kick-started the year with your new self-resolutions. As for me, there is only one resolution that I am making for myself this year and it is TO OUTDO MYSELF.

... to be more disciplined in doing the tasks that I set myself to do, and believe that I could and will overcome my failures.
… to remember to be more helpful, kind, sensitive & patient to others than I was with them before.

My goal is to be able to answer positively these questions by the end of every week:
“HOW WAS I BETTER TO MYSELF THIS WEEK?”
“HOW WAS I BETTER IN TREATING OTHERS THIS WEEK?

and if I mess up…“WHAT CAN I DO TO BE BETTER NEXT TIME?”

I know that I will stumble along the way, but that is the very reason why I chose to have this resolution- so that I could keep trying and competing to myself until I become the better version of me.

As Simon Sinek wonderfully put it, “You are your competition…That is what ensures you find joy. Because the joy comes not from comparison but from advancement.”

I wish all of you a happy blessed new year!

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What is Christmas for me?

“The Son of God became a man to enable men to become sons of God.”- C.S. Lewis

I love Christmas…this is one of the holidays that I love because most of the time, I see smiles on people’s faces, myself included. We all love the Christmas presents, the Christmas parties, the Christmas raffles, Christmas gatherings,  Family and Friends reunion, the Christmas vacation off-work, and many more…But with all these temporary happiness and high brought about by the holiday, let us not forget the true essence of Christmas.

I would like to share with you what Christmas means to me:

1. Christmas is a reminder of God’s great Love to us.
Jesus Christ was not born in a hospital or had a fancy crib. He was born in a manger- a feed-trough for animals. It is stinky, it is rough, it is dirty, uncomfortable to be a bed, it definitely is not the place where you would want your baby to sleep. But why was the son of God born in a manger then? Because God is giving us the message that He could reach out and meet us even in our darkest place. That He wants to love us and embrace us even if we’re in the darkest point of our lives.

2. Christmas is God’s Assurance to us of our Happiness.

“But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord.”- Luke 2:10-11

This Bible verse is telling us that God wants us to experience great joy so He gave us Jesus- to be our Savior, our Messiah, our Lord.

Happiness without God is only temporary. Your relationships, money, status, success, beauty & health- these could give you happiness but not everlasting.
If you want real and lasting joy, open your heart and life to God and start experiencing His abundant blessings.

I wish you all a Merry Blessed Christmas! 🙂

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A Happy Story #3-I Hate Her No More…

Sharer: Benjamin – Project Believe in Yourself

Hello Everyone,

Our sharer today is a good buddy of mine from PBIY (Project Believe In Yourself). I actually asked him to share after watching  his YouTube video. I hope that you’ll find inspiration from his story. 🙂

Thank you Benjamin for sharing with us your story. I wish only the best for your projects! 

Hey Champs! Hope you’re doing good!

This will be a summarized story, of my experience in a relationship of 6 years (4 officially, with 2 years of friendship before getting together) with my ex-gf, who’s also my first love (I was hers too, aww ain’t that sweet? XD) and before I go on, I just want to make one thing clear:

Things may have ended badly between us but I sincerely, wholeheartedly, do not hate her for leaving me and making me go through the things I did. Not anymore.

Some of you may think I’m a dumbass for this (Hell, even I do think that I am lol!) but instead of hating her, I actually feel gratitude towards her.

Why? Simply because she taught and showed me the concept of love (Romantically) and even what’s it like to be truly in love with someone.

She taught me what love can be in the form of affection and attention which you’d only see in TV, movies and fairy tales.
She even gave me the experiences which I’ve never known anyone to have gone through before as well. Needless to say, I know I did the same for her.
We shared lots of moments when we told each other we couldn’t believe we’re actually together. Btw, it was a Long Distance Relationship. I’m from Asia and she’s from Europe. Anyway-

We both had our good and bad sides but if you take away the fights we had?
We were perfect for each other like literally, we shared so many common interests, perspectives in life, moral stands and we both even shared the same idea of only having just one partner in life and then getting together and settling down.
Just be each other’s only one. How sweet was that, right? 😉

When we were both together, in the years back then- Yes, we may have fights and all but seriously, which couple don’t fight?
Besides, I had some of the happiest days in my life and that statement stays true even today. So I just want you, or her, if she has somehow managed to find this article- to know that I don’t hate her no more. I used to but not anymore. Instead-

I love her for the time and love she’s given me during the years we were together. I loved giving her all my affection, time and efforts in making her feel like the happiest girl alive.

I wholeheartedly love all the lessons and adventures we’ve been through together.
They were fantabulous. I thank her for taking up my offer to come into my world when I told her to (I didn’t ask her to be my gf then, I told her to be and she said yes lol! Isn’t she an amazing gal? XD- P.S. I’m amazing for suggesting it too).

It was an absolutely magical carpet ride- A whole new world for us both and like in a Disney movie, truly out of the world. (Got the reference? High-5!)

Our life experiences together were one of a kind. (Which I’m sure, you and your special one is too)

Funny thing is, there’s this song by Green Day (One of my FAVORITE Rock Band) which I’ve always loved the melody to but never truly understood the lyrics nor why Billie Joe (The Vocalist) was so teared up while playing this song live (In the show I saw on video)-  Until I’ve experienced my own break up and accidentally playing it while going through my old song library on iTunes and let it play till it finished.
I’ve always enjoyed the song with a smile because of the melody while listening but this time, something else happened.

It got me tearing up like Billie Joe. The melody and lyrics hit me hard like a train, pulling all sorts of emotions out of me as I started reliving the beautiful past that I know, will never ever come back nor be reliving ever again.

You might’ve heard of this one as well. It’s called “Good Riddance (Time of Your Life)”.

Listen to the song here –> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bTdLi0YUVM

This song to me, its mainly written over the loss of a lover in your life.

Billie Joe wrote it during the period when his girlfriend at the time was leaving him but when we really look at the lyrics, somehow you see that it’s about life in general and everything that’s in it. Not just relationships.

When I heard the song after the fateful break up, that’s when I realize that this song is filled with lines of everlasting wisdom.

“Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.”

There will be times when we reach a point in our life where we’re stuck- like a fork in the road, unsure where to go nor what to do next. This might also be the moment when you just stay stuck until time drags you along somewhere. You are not alone, we all go through this one, champ. Stay strong.

“So make the best of this test and don’t ask why.”

I’m sure you can relate already. When we go through an extremely dark period of our life, we often ask ourselves and everyone around us, perhaps even God “Why did this happen? Why is this happening to me?”

But we never get the answer because “It’s not a question but a lesson learned in time.”

There are things in life which we’ll only get the answers to as we live and gain experience with time. When something like this happens, we don’t ask “Why” but just learn from it because the knowledge we gain from it will be for life and it can be used for a bigger purpose such as changing someone else’s life for the better. But ultimately, we must never forget that it can be used to change our own life for the better.

“So take the photographs and still frames in your mind, hang it on a shelf in good health and good time.”
“Tattoos of memories and dead skin on trial. For what it’s worth, it was worth all the while.”

What I’ve been saying. Memories are something we need to hold onto not only because they are precious moments of your life, but also because they can get you through a lot of things in life and make you realize that “For what it’s worth it was worth all the while.”

You’ve gained so much from them and they are forever yours to keep and reflect upon whenever you need or wish to!

In the end, life itself “It’s something unpredictable but in the end is right.”

There are times when we can control it, there times we can’t. In the end, no matter what happens, it’ll be alright. After the curtain falls, when everything is all over?

“I hope you had the time of your life.”

We all had fun, we’ve suffered through thick and thin together, conquering obstacles and life challenges that came our way and it all ends here and I want you to know now- I’ve had the time of my life doing all those things, experiencing life with you.

So again, thank you, my dear ex-sweetheart. I’m honestly writing this with a smile (Albeit, a bitter sweet feeling in my heart!). If you are reading this, I want you to know that I will never forget you. And I hope you had the time of your life with me and are still having a blast in life right now 😉

If you have recently gone through a heartbreak yourself, or are still trying to get over someone or seeking closure- Understand that you will only find peace after you’re able to see a life ahead without the person who’s leaving you or have left you, being a part of it.

Seems impossible but know that life isn’t over with this person gone. In fact, it’s just the beginning!

I know (SHE was MY LIFE so yeah, I know lol!), it’s hard to see and envision a future like that but in time, and with SUPPORT– You will be walking on the path towards your next chapter in life and it WILL be a brighter and happier chapter in your life’s story 😉

I was there. I had so much negative feelings towards her back then when the breakup happened. I hated her then.
But when I realized that the reason to why I hated her so much- Was because I loved her so much? I started asking myself if I’m being fair to her and myself? Was I being fair to our relationship?

Why did I choose to take away all the beautiful moments we shared together?

Just because she’s leaving, I’m going to convince myself to live my life as if we’ve never met and the past which we’ve spent our lives together- It never happened? And I didn’t learn nor gain anything from it?

Well I can do that- IT WAS what I was doing, which obviously isn’t very healthy for me lol.

OR-

I can instead, cherish everything that we did. Everything that we had.
Everything we gave to each other and accept the fact that even though we won’t be getting anything more from each other, we will forever be keeping whatever we’ve given to each other. She gave me all her love just as how I gave her all of mine.

She may be gone and will not be giving any more but it’s okayIt’s okay.

Just like how my friends’ and families’ love that’s being invested in me, her love and mine? It’s all in both our hearts and memories now. And really, that’s okay.

I actually thought of burning all the letters etc she’s given me (Quite a number. LDR, remember?) but in the end, I decided not to because she was a part of my life. I loved that part of my life. I loved her. So much. Okay tearing up lol but it’s all good my friend.

It’s just the moment. Who knows? Perhaps one day I might really have to burn it all because I need to make space for more letters or something in future lol!

There’s so much more into the story but I shall end it here. I sincerely hope you’ve enjoyed reading this and actually learned something from it!

Seriously, I hate you and Nina for making me go through this walk down memory lane (Lol just kidding haha!) but I think stories like this- It’s good for the soul. Both yours and mine 😉

Okay so before I get going, I just wanna say that if you’re currently going through a difficult time in your life and feel that you need someone to talk to?
You can always email me via doubleyourpresence@gmail.com and share it with me.
I’d love to listen to what you have to talk about.
As I recently started telling ppl on WP these days
“Listening, can do wonders for a damaged soul. Even heal them.”
So share if you feel the need to!

Alternatively, if you want to find similar people such as yourself (Or me lol), with a genuine and sincere heart of helping?
Feel free to check out my blog for our Project BIY and learn more about our mission in making a positive difference in life! If you wish to contribute as well, definitely check in with us!

We’re a new community that’s aiming bring the beautiful side of the human spirit to the world and we’d love to have you join us if you do share our mission and vision of a better world 😉

We got a new forum that’s currently still in it’s testing phase (During the time this article is written anyway) and we’d be excited to have you join in the test if you are keen to as well!
Head on over to meet everyone who’s helping with the test over there!
We got a chatroom installed at the bottom of the forum too 😉

Let the kind souls unite and may you keep rocking your world!

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A Happy Story #1- My Starbucks Treat!

“Be the reason someone smiles today!”- Unknown

Hello Everyone! 🙂

This is the first post for “Something Personal”– a post that is intended to share real personal happy stories with you. As this is my first post, I want it to be “light” and “relate-able”.

Alright, here we go…

I was on a 3-day vacation from work last week. Before I went on leave, I promised my 2 best buds at work that I’m going to treat them coffee at Starbucks when I return as my gesture of gratitude for covering for my work. (Too bad for me, I said it first before checking my remaining money for my weekly allowance budget!)

So, you can  probably guess what my dilemma is when I got back to work. If I will treat them, I’ll be short of my allowance for 2-days. Will I keep my promise? What would you do?

Okay, so we went to Starbucks and I bought them their favorite drinks! When I saw the smile on their faces, I was thinking- how easy it will be for me to probably just skip my lunch at work or bring my food to work instead of buying it for the next 2 days! My worried thought instantly transformed to a happy one… 🙂

When I paid and gave my Starbucks card to the barista, we found out that I still haven’t gotten my birthday cake. So we instantly had an additional super yummy chocolate cake for free!…and then, when I got my receipt, I saw that I now have 12 stars which means that I have another free coffee from Starbucks that I can get anytime! Yay!

But that’s not all…3 days after, we’re all surprised to know that our pay day came a little early this time! How’s that? I feel like I just passed a test, and my Angel is winking at me!

Now, it’s your time to share… 🙂

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Posted in Life & Wellness, Personal, Psychology, Relationships

Choose your Priority

“Treasure your relationships, not your possessions.” – Anthony J. D’Angelo

The other day, my husband was craving for a dish and wanted me to cook for him. I was busy with my emails, but I stopped what I was doing and cooked for him.

Yesterday, I was preoccupied with my blog but my daughter kept disturbing me, asking me to do this and that for her…I realized she wanted to spend time with me so I stopped, and again focused my attention to her.

This morning, my husband was getting ready for work when I told him that he owe me a date ’cause we weren’t able to do something special on our anniversary. He asked me to fix myself, he waited for me, and then we went out to have an early lunch to his favorite Japanese restaurant before he went to his office.

And right now, I wanted so much to continue reading more posts and clean up my emails after I finish with this post, but I know that I will have to stop in a few minutes because I will need to have my “study” time with my daughter.

This is me prioritizing my husband and daughter over work and other stuffs . That is my husband prioritizing me over work.

My point is simple- If we want to have a good relationship with people, we need to learn to prioritize them. Giving our attention and time to them first is already nourishing the relationship.

Would you not feel special if you always come first to others? 🙂

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Date Written: August 17, 2016

Posted in Life & Wellness, Personal, Positive Thinking, Relationships

A Day for Reflection

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” ― Robert Brault

Instead of focusing on the things that I can do to prepare for this upcoming week, this time I would like to go “backwards” and start my week by reflecting on the things that happened last week.

THINGS THAT I AM GRATEFUL FOR:

  • Having to spend the weekend with more family. My dad came to visit and so we get to spend the weekend with him, with my sister and her family, and my brother and his girlfriend. My parents live at another city and we only see each other during Holiday Vacations. I appreciate that they come here to us and visit their grandchildren whenever they can. They have not missed any birthday celebration for their grand kids. 🙂
  • Having a wonderful and sweet daughter. My brother in-law and his wife lost their first-born child 6 days after he was born. He had a hypoplastic left heart syndrome and his survival rate was very low. This experience made me more appreciative of my  4-year old daughter.  Being a toddler, Gaby could be a little too clingy, stubborn, too playful, and annoying. There are times when I lose my temper with her, but I realize that I’d rather have her that way- always active, happy, very playful and stubborn- rather than being too quiet or sad, or needing special caring. I am blessed that she is healthy, beautiful and smart!
  • Having a faithful husband. I know some people who engages in extra-marital affairs and some with failed marriages. Some of them are my friends. I am grateful that me and my husband have been together for almost 8 years without having to deal with extra-marital affair issues. I am happy that my husband is very expressive of his thoughts- he lets me know when something about me bothers him, or if there is something about him that I NEED TO KNOW. I am also grateful that our weekend is “family day.”

THINGS THAT I COULD HAVE DONE BETTER:

  • I missed jogging this week ( and the previous week) 😦 Unlike my husband who plays basketball and exercises regularly, for me, exercising is something that I really need to work on. He even bought me a rubber shoes to use for jogging this week!
  • The way I handled stress at work last week. There’s too much work, too little time, and every thing is due… I had to cover for an office mate who was out sick for 2 days and so I had to set aside my reports and some other tasks. It was very difficult to catch up, and I was a little grumpy!
  • I should not have stayed very late in the office. It was Gaby’s first week in school and I was coming home late. I didn’t have time and energy to study or with her, and I easily got annoyed with her because I was too tired from work.

SOMETHING FOR MYSELF:

It’s nice to reward ourselves for things that we like every once in a while.

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Last weekend, I bought this unusual notebook with tin cover. I like its red-yellow butterfly picture, and its different pages. I intend to use this for writing haikus, sketching and  drawing, and for writing random stuffs or ideas for my blog.

MY CHALLENGE FOR MYSELF AND FOR YOU THIS WEEK:

Do something for yourself that you will thank yourself for in the future.

Your turn now…how was your week? I would love to hear your stories. 🙂

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Date Written: July 18, 2016

Posted in Goal, Life & Wellness, Personal, Positive Thinking

JUNE: Physical Improvement

I’ll start with my project this JUNE. I will allot this month for Physical Improvement. I know that at the moment, this is the aspect of my life that I really need to work hard on in order to improve.

The mini-goals should not be difficult:

  • Jog once a day.
  • Drink at least 6 glasses of water daily.
  • Eat small amount of rice during meals

I’ve also added a couple resolutions for my daughter, Gaby and husband, Nell:

  • Study with Gaby
  • Make Nell coffee

I’ll post my June checklist by the end of the month.  Wish me luck! =)


Date Written: June 01, 2016

Posted in Inspirational, Personal, writing

Who I am and Why I’m here

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Hi. I’m Nina. I have a 4-year old daughter who drives me crazy most of the time- but she is my life and I really love her! I have a smart husband (who is actually good-looking too!). And I have a great job. So why am I here in front of my laptop typing when I should be napping, or taking a break from my”busy” life?

One time, my husband and I were watching TED talks in YouTube (a thing that is becoming a habit of ours) and there’s this one guy who really inspired me to start doing one of the things that I love to do… which is to write. He said, “If money is not an issue, what is it that you would be doing right “… “I say you do it now.

When I think about it more, I realize that perhaps he is right. A lot of us get stuck on a job that we do not like; or pretend about being okay with our work (telling ourselves…at least I get to pay the bill…) and we go on with our day to day mundane activity thinking at the back of our minds that someday, we’ll get to do what we love to do.

But in reality, there is really NO someday. If we are really passionate about something, we have to MAKE the time for it… and there is no better time than NOW. I have to stop convincing myself that “I’ll have plenty of time to write later… that for now this other thing works“…because guess what, I might end up telling myself “It’s too late for me to do this now” or “I’m too old to pursue this at this point.

I really admire those people who  pursued their passion, who simply did what they LOVE to do, not thinking about the money or the fame…yet everything else fell in their favor. I remember Jason Mraz- a two-time Grammy award winner- saying on one of his interviews that his mom would try to send him to college, and his dad would always get him good jobs but then he would quit them and try to go back into music. In my personal opinion, I do not think that it was his goal to be an award-winning artist. He only did what he love to do. And I believe he found his life-purpose in music.

I am a firm believer that God gave each of us special gifts and talents that we can utilize to achieve our purpose in life. And I choose to believe that if we utilize them to serve and honor Him thru other people, we can be genuinely happy.

I love to write and I want to connect with other people thru my writing. I want to inspire and be inspired at the same time. I believe that in this way, I’ll find purpose and meaning to my life. This is why I write NOW.:)


Written: May 25, 2016