Posted in Blogging, Personal, writing

Happy First Anniversary!

Hello Everyone,

During my first month of blogging, somebody told me that he thinks I have an undiscovered talent in writing, and he believes that I have a potential to be a good writer. Because he believed in me, I believe in myself and in what I can do.

It has been a year since I began my blog. It was my intention to inspire others by writing positive, motivational, and uplifting posts; but my whole blogging experience became more than that-  it has been a great  learning experience for me and a wonderful journey. I was inspired by many of you, and I am very grateful for all the things that I have learned.

My sincerest thanks to all my readers and subscribers for liking, commenting and subscribing to my blog. Thank you for sharing your insights and friendships with me. THANK YOU for being a part of TheHappyLife101! I hope to have another great year with you.

Wishing you all a happy life,

NinaSig

Posted in Happy Story, Personal

A Happy Story #8- The Story of my Maid

Hello Everyone!

Here is another story of what a little act of kindness can do to a person. 🙂

Thank you Tanvi for sharing with us your beautiful conversation with your maid. It is truly a good reminder to be kind to people in all walks of life.


Sharer: Tanvi
Website: tanvi10mishra

POOJA AUNTY! She is our maid.

She comes twice a day, ring the bell (regardless of whether the door is closed or open), takes off her shoes and enter the house addressing my mum, “Didi hum aa gaye!” (regardless of whether my mom is listening to her or not), does her work, finishes the small glass of tea and two biscuits/rusks served to her, and then leave the house addressing my mum again,” Didi hum jaa rahe hain!” (Regardless of whether my mum is listening or not).

One day I interrupted and asked her why she is addressing my mum whenever she enters or leaves the house. Her response, “To ensure that I am entering and exiting your house with your consent- being on the safe side from any questionable finger, because it is very easy to push the needy or a deprived person into the pit of suspicion and blames.”

I tried to assure her saying that “It’s been years that you’ve been working for us and we trust you. You have seen us grow. Your fear cannot happen in our house.”  She nodded her head in agreement and shared one of her many bitter life experiences.

A week ago her small grandson was seriously ill, and was admitted to a hospital. But the doctor refused to continue with his treatment until they could fully pay the hospital fee (Rs.1000). She didn’t have enough money and so she sent her young daughter to one family that she has served for 16 years and trusted the most.

The girl knocked and waited for someone to open the door for 2 hours, however, no one is opening and she only heard the people whispering from inside. So she left hopeless and with heavy heart.

They were forced to leave the hospital with the patient as they were not able to arrange the fee. The next day, when Aunty went to the same house asking for an answer, they lied and  blamed her daughter saying that she didn’t go there and that she must have gone somewhere else.

Aunty was highly disappointed with their excuse. It was a matter of rs.1000 only. She was also asked to leave her work and get lost! Her 16 years of dedication, hard work, honesty, and prestige was all gone for Rs.1000.  Thankfully, his grandson was able to recover and she got a helping hand from someone else. But she learned a lesson for her life, she stated.

We very often become ignorant towards the people who serve as our backbone. They work to make our life easy, but we sometimes take them for granted. We just forget that they are human too, with beating heart and working brain, and also get hurt with our inhuman behavior.

We don’t bother to share their sorrow, their pain, believing they don’t have these emotions. Why? Because we are paying them? But they are paying us back with their hard work and dedication to make our life smooth and easy, despite the challenges that they face every day.

I felt happy when Aunty told me this:  “I feel good when someone calls me Aunty, or addresses me with words like “Aap”, or whenever someone bothers to ask about how my family is doing?”

Sometimes it is very easy to make someone feel happy about their life, by just simple human gestures or little acts of kindness (which often do not cost us anything). Sadly, I have noticed is very hard to practice these days.

Show concern, affection, and respect towards the people who are working day-night for you. It will fuel them to do their duty with more energy, love, and dignity which is their equal right.


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A Happy Story #7- A Baby Coming Soon!

Hello Everyone!

We received a happy news from one of our fellow blogger.

Thank you Ms. Fran for sharing with us your joy of expecting an additional member of your family. A baby is indeed a blessing! 🙂


Sharer: Ms. Fran
Website: blackgirldownme

My happiness story is more good news, than a story!

I recently found out I’m going to be a grandmother and I’m totally happy!😍

At first I was a little sad, because I felt my son was too young. With that being said, all I can think about is getting ready for our new addition!!! My heart is melting already.


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A Happy Story #2- Goldfish In A Cup

Sharer: KavaraStories

Happiness resides in the smallest things. Here’s a poem about one of my favorite childhood memories – eating Goldfish from a cup with my mom:

Goldfish In A Cup
A plastic cup in cartoon clothes
Holds goldfish to the brim
Mom picks one from the top and makes it fly
Airplane noises and spitting engines
Land the cracker on my tongue

I pick another from the cup
And make it fly, just as well
As high as my arm can reach
Mom bends down and guides my hand
So I can make fish fly for her, as she did for me

Mom picks me up and I fly
Instinctually, I spread my wings
She tells me one day I will fly on my own
So I remind her people can’t fly
You’re right, my love, people can’t fly, she sings

But you, you are not people
You are single, you are unique
You are my gold fish in a sea of green
And you will fly, my love
Just you wait and see

Thank you KavaraStories for inspiring us with your happy childhood story. 🙂

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A Happy Story #4- “Thank You”

I love Sundays. It is our family day.

I remember this one time when we’re on the road…
My hubby was driving and I was at the backseat with my daughter. When it’s only the 3 of us, I like staying at the backseat with my little girl so that I could touch her and look at her when we chat.

Like always, she talks a lot. She talks about the things that she sees around, she talks about the billboards that she sees along the way, and whatever things that cross her mind.

When she gets tired, she lays her head on my arms or lap. One time she did that, I kissed her head. And then she said, “Mommy, thank you for kissing me.”

That moment is one of the happiest moments in my life- knowing that my daughter appreciates how I show my love and care for her. I still get a little emotional sometimes whenever I remember that incident.

How many of us take the time to say “Thank You” for the love and care that we get from family, friends, or colleagues? Sometimes, it is easy to forget- especially if it is “expected” of them or when “we’re used to” being treated as such.

But you know what, it’s a wonderful feeling to be thanked and appreciated. 🙂

I hope to share your story next time. See below how.
Have a great weekend everyone! Remember to bond with people today, and not with technology!

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A Happy Story# 5- “Making Magic”

Sharer: Jennie-  A Teacher’s Reflection

Hello Everyone!

I am delighted to share with you today a happy story from one of my favorite bloggers, Jennie. I hope that you will enjoy her story as much as I did!

Thank you Jennie for sharing us a piece of your happiness thru your true to life magical story! 🙂


Each year I host a party for children and their families, and every year it creates magic– not the storybook or pretend magic, but something very real.

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Families gather with their children when school closes and have a pizza party on the playground.  That event alone is incredibly exciting for young children.  This year the weather was warm for New England, approaching 70 degrees.  It was also foggy.  Perfect for what was about to happen!

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We carved pumpkins into Jack-O-Lanterns.  That took quite a while; plenty of time for families to get to know each other, and plenty of time for each child and family to spend time together, doing something really fun.  Yet, it was far more than fun.

Darkness descended and transformed carving pumpkins into another world of wonder and splendor.  Imagine what it must be like for a child to be at school in the dark.  When we stopped to look at all the Jack-O-Lanterns, everyone felt a great shift to somethingmagical.  This is what I wrote to families:

Tonight was a magical evening.  Pizza dinner at school is pretty cool; yet carving a pumpkin with your family is a memory builder.  We so enjoyed all the activity and excitement with each family.  As the sun was setting, arranging all the jack-o-lanterns on the stone wall was filled with anticipation.  Sitting together in a circle with our jack-o-lanterns and singing songs, as it became dark, was… perfect.  Truly, it was a moment in time, the kind that leaves you with a feeling deep in your chest, yet you cannot find words to explain it.  You just know that it is special.  Often it is the little moments that are the most important and the best of all.  Thank you for being there.

We gathered all together in a big circle.  Jack-O-Lanterns were lit.  Children were snuggled with their families.  We sang the Jack-O-Lantern song, twice.  The excitement of the singing the song in the dark was magical, indeed.

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Yes, it was a moment that leaves you with a feeling deep in your chest, one that is difficult to explain, yet you know is special.  It is magic!

Jennie


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Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Personal, Random Happiness

Have Fun When You Can

You don’t stop having fun when you get old.
You get old when you stop having fun.- Anonymous

When is the last time that you did something that you really enjoyed…something that made you lose track of the time?

I believe that doing something fun is one of the easiest way to show some love for your self. Be it as simple as reading your favorite book or arduous like learning a new skill that you like.

Here are some of the things that I do for fun other than blogging. Yep! This is all me… I’m the one holding the guitar (camera shy), that’s my coloring book in the middle, and my favorite headphone! 🙂

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Here’s one of the songs that I really enjoy listening to. Enjoy! 🙂

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Have fun when you can. Your soul will thank you for it!

nina-feb

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Posted in Personal, Random Happiness

Some Things I Love…

Hello Everyone! 🙂

No serious post or discussion about love from me today. Rather, I am just sharing with you some of my favorites. Check them out and maybe you’ll like them too! 🙂

3 BEAUTIFUL SONGS OF LOVE that I think should have had more exposure:

Quiet- Jason Mraz

Enough For YouJoshua Radin

Kiss MeEd Sheeran

MUST WATCH MOVIES ABOUT LOVE:

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MY FAVORITE LOVE NOVELS with unexpected twists/endings:

Pop: The Fault in our Stars– John Green
Classic: Wuthering Heights– Emily Bronte

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MY FAVORITE LOVE POEMS:

Happy: Sonnet 29 by William Shakespeare

When, in disgrace with fortune and men’s eyes,
I all alone beweep my outcast state,
And trouble deaf heaven with my bootless cries,
And look upon myself and curse my fate,
Wishing me like to one more rich in hope,
Featured like him, like him with friends possessed,
Desiring this man’s art and that man’s scope,
With what I most enjoy contented least;
Yet in these thoughts myself almost despising,
Haply I think on thee, and then my state,
(Like to the lark at break of day arising
From sullen earth) sings hymns at heaven’s gate;
For thy sweet love remembered such wealth brings
That then I scorn to change my state with kings.

Sad: When You Are Old by William Butler Yeats

When You Are Old
When you are old and grey and full of sleep,
And nodding by the fire, take down this book,
And slowly read, and dream of the soft look
Your eyes had once, and of their shadows deep;

How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true,
But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you,
And loved the sorrows of your changing face;

And bending down beside the glowing bars,
Murmur, a little sadly, how Love fled
And paced upon the mountains overhead
And hid his face amid a crowd of stars

THE THINGS I LOVE TO DO aside from Writing:

MY FAVORITE ROMANTIC MOVIE QUOTES:

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GREATEST ADVICE ON LOVE:

Love for Enemies (Luke 6:27-36, Bible)

27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. 30 Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.

32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full.35 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. 36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

I hope you have enjoyed my lists. Let me know yours! 🙂

nina-feb

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NOTE: I do not take credit for the photos & videos used on this post. They are merely taken from the Internet.

Posted in Personal, Relationships

I believe in Happy Endings

I have been married to my husband for 8 years and just like many wives, I too wish to have a lasting marriage.

However, I will admit to you that there were times when I thought that I made a mistake in choosing the right husband for me. There were times when I hated him more than I love him. There were times when I thought about leaving him because I didn’t feel loved and appreciated… but I THANK GOD THAT I DID NOT.

So, is there really a “lived happily ever after” when two lovers get married?

I know 8 years of being married is not long enough to be such an expert person in the subject matter of relationship and love- and I must admit, I am always learning. But please let me share with you what I have learned on how to make relationships work and I hope that these would be helpful to you too.

1. Once the feeling of being-in love is gone, real love begins.

What do I mean with this? After the period of cheesy, mushy, heavenly feeling of falling and feeling in love with someone, you will start to see the things that you do not necessarily like with the other person.

The girlfriend you appreciated for looking good when you go out on a date is now the annoying wife who takes hours in the bathroom to get herself fixed.

The boyfriend you were proud of for being smart and dependable is now the irritating husband who always nags when he sees something that is out of tune.

I believe this true to every relationship. After the heightened emotion of being in-love is over, we get back to reality. And the reality is that you and your partner are not perfect. But we need to accept this fact, otherwise, we only jump from one relationship to another. And so we need to decide and commit to stay in love.

I realize that Love is not a feeling, but rather, Love is hard work. When I come to accept this, it became easier for me to deal and worked on the imperfections of our relationship.

2. You need to discover the love language of your partner to be able to show love.

This is probably the biggest relationship-changer for me. You see, I was like other people. I thought that the way I want to be loved is also how my husband want to be loved. Was I ever so wrong in my life.

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are 5 Languages of Love. These 5 languages are different ways to show love to a person, and each person has their own primary love language- the way for them to feel that they are loved.

The 5 languages of love are:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch

A person who has Words of Affirmation as love language will feel very much loved when he is always told “I love You”, “I appreciate what you do”, “You’re doing a great Job!”, “I love how you did this…”, “Thank you for doing this..”

A person who has Quality Time as language of love may appreciate these words of affirmation, but may not necessarily feel loved when his spouse is not spending time talking to him, or when they aren’t going out on a date. He feels much more loved when he is in the company of his loved one with undivided attention.

You see,  for years  I and my husband have been showing love in the wrong language. I didn’t know that his love language is “Acts of Service” and he didn’t know that mine is “Quality Time”.

Since I go to work, I leave most of the house chore to our helper so I could spend more time taking care of our daughter when I’m at home. I didn’t know that I could show my husband that I love him if I just make him his coffee, prepare his meals, or trim his nails (now please don’t judge, I have a different love language!) I did little act of service for him. I could just imagine how little love he must have felt from me.

At the same time, I didn’t feel that much appreciated and loved too since we seldom go on dates- just the two of us. We always go out as a whole family. We go out of town to visit relatives or be with friends, but not alone together as couple. He showed love thru the language he knows- he washes the dishes when the helper is not around, he fixes our bed, he pays the bills- but all these things didn’t speak love to me. Perhaps now you see the disaster! We both love each other and express it in ways that do not speak love to us!

I shared this discovery to my husband and we made adjustments almost instantly. Now we feel much more loved by each other and we are happier definitely! 🙂

3. Love is a choice.
We are humans and we make mistakes. Our partners may do or say things that hurt us. We may fall short of expectations. We may disappoint one another. And we may even hate each other sometimes. But we always have a choice. We can choose to forgive and move on or dwell in past failures and allow hurt to continue to wound us. We can choose to listen and see things in our partners’ perspectives to be able to understand, or refuse to seek understanding. We may choose to stick thru thick and thin, or leave when the going gets tough.

I choose LOVE. I choose to love my imperfect husband like he chooses to love his imperfect wife. I will choose to always forgive him. I will choose to always have hope for him. Just like Jesus loves and forgives us. Together we will do our best to make sure that our marriage will have the “Happily Ever After” ending.

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nina-feb

Posted in Happy Story, Personal

A Happy Story #6: People See You

Last Friday, our lead trainer at the office sent out a random exercise to help improve our vocabulary. The task was to describe 3 teammates using given alternative words to replace the common adjectives that we use.

I was surprised that someone chose to describe me, and I am happy and grateful to what he or she has written about me.

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I am very glad that I was able to affect someone and that they notice me in a positive way. I just do what I know is right without thinking how other people might judge me.

The truth is, we always have audience around us. And we always have opportunity to inspire and build them, or dishearten and discourage them.

In all honesty, if others are to describe you now (whether at home, or in your workplace, or with friends), do you think you will like what they’ll say about you? 🙂

I wish all of you a great week ahead!

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