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How To Live “Lighter”

 

“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” – Carol Burnett

Sometimes, life likes to play difficult for us. There are times when we feel we are always struggling. There are times when we feel we’re always failing, or letting other people down. There are also times when we think we’re doing the right thing, but feel otherwise. And there are those times when we wish the world would stop for a while and just let us breathe (or if you’re like me, you wish you could just magically disappear for a certain period of time until everything is great again!)

Well, that is life- at least a part of it is. But we CAN make it better. We CAN make US feel better.

I would like to share with you seven things that I am trying to live by when I decided to live my life in a more mindful way.

  1. Know your self before you can accept and love yourself.
  2. Forgiveness is not for the person you give it to. It is a gift to yourself.
  3. Gratefulness is what makes a person happy, not the other way around.
  4. Always prioritize people over material things. Material things give instant gratification, but healthy loving relationships give lasting satisfaction and fulfillment.
  5. It is okay to get angry, but always choose to love others and yourself.
  6. Failure doesn’t mean you’re a loser. It means you are trying and learning.
  7. No matter how big your problems may seem to be, always remember that you have a bigger GOD! 🙂

Lighten up! Life can be good.

NinaSig

Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking

Work with what You’ve Got!

“Have you ever felt trapped in circumstances, then discovered that the only trap was your own lack of vision, lack of courage, or failure to see that you had better options?” ― Nick Vujicic, Life Without Limits

Some people wait for things to happen. Others complain why things happen, while there are also a number who wonder why things happen. My favorite are the people who make things happen.

I believe that most of us want to succeed in life. Be it in our career, health, or relationships. Never have I met a person who admitted to me that he or she wants to fail. We all want the good stuffs. We all want to be happy and satisfied. Unfortunately, not all who wants will have it.

We all know that the key ingredients to success are (1) to ask and to believe that it will happen and (2) to work for it. The first is easy, BUT number 2 is where we often fail.

You see, some people would easily give up when they think that they do not have the needed resources such as enough money, skills, knowledge or education, the right people, the right time, etc… The problem is that most of us forget that we could work with what we have, because we are often focused on what we do not have.

If you want to be fit- don’t wait ’til you’ve got the money to enroll on a gym or to buy that expensive equipment. You’ve got your feet, so you should go start walking or jogging.

If you want a great relationship- you don’t need to be grand or to have lots of money to satisfy your love ones. You’ve got time, so give them your time! Have inexpensive dates and give your undivided attention to your spouses/partners, family, or friends.

Don’t make your goals complicated by setting difficult “means” to achieve them. Simplify your life, and you’ll be amaze of the difference it will make. Be grateful for what you have- they could be more than what you perceive them to be!

 

 

 

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How Did You Live Today?

“Don’t you ever get the feeling that all your life is going by and you’re not taking advantage of it? Do you realize you’ve lived nearly half the time you have to live already?” ― Ernest Hemingway, The Sun Also Rises

If I were to rate how I have lived my life for today, I give it 4/10 (with 10 being the highest). Let me tell you why.

I had the chance to stay at home for 11 or 12 hours before going to work again BUT…

– I didn’t play or had a one on one, heart to heart time with my daughter.

– I didn’t talk to my husband or even asked him how his day was.

– I didn’t get off the bed when I woke up to do much needed exercise.

– I didn’t pray.

– I didn’t enjoy all the beautiful things waiting for me outdoor… I didn’t appreciate the sunny afternoon which could have been a perfect time to do cloud-watching with Gaby, or to watch her play with the other kids in our mini-park.

– I didn’t read a book, nor watch one of the videos for a training that I enrolled myself to.

I was not productive. I was just…lazy.
In other words, I took for granted the wonderful opportunities that TODAY has just offered me.

Most of the time, we may or may not be aware, we tend to neglect the things that we have in abundance.

We don’t take time to appreciate our family because subconsiously, we know that they’ll just be around…

Because of the high-tech generation today, we’re missing the beauty of personal human interaction…

We’re so absorbed in our computers or cellphones, we don’t go out to smell the flowers, to feel the grass on our feet, to feel the warmth of the sun and enjoy nature…

Today, I was lazy to live. But tomorrow, I’ll live a day in my life to the fullest! I hope you do the same!

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To be Happy, Let Go!

“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”– Deborah Reber

For most people, happiness is achieved by gaining something. It could be a reward, an achievement, a recognition, a relationship, or a pleasant experience. Some of us fail to realize that becoming happy may also mean letting go of things, or to some extent, even people.

Sometimes, it is difficult for us to detach ourselves from people especially if we’ve invested in them, and treated them as friends and family. However in reality, there are people who, instead of being grateful that they are valued and cared for, take advantage of the kindness of others.

It is painful and not easy to let go especially if we care about the person, but this is one thing that we need to learn in order to be happy.

We should set the standard of how we like people to treat us. If we allow them to take advantage of us, they will continue to do so. But if we set boundaries, they will learn to respect us.

Don’t be afraid to be honest and let people know how you feel about them. Don’t be shy to say “No” when you feel that you’re being used and abused. Don’t be scared to lose people in your life if you know in your heart that they do not value you or respect you as a person. You owe it to yourself to not allow other people to drag you down.

Remember that forgiving and understanding others do not mean that we have to tolerate their behavior. If you want to be happy, distance yourself from the people who makes you feel sad. You may be surprised how liberating it will make you feel.

NinaSig

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How to be Successful in Achieving Goals

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.” — Andrew Carnegie

We set goals for ourselves. We get excited and enthusiastically do the things to achieve that goal for the first few months (or weeks); then we missed and forget every once in a while; until the occasional forgetting becomes permanently not doing anything to achieve that goal anymore. This is what happens usually, and the reason for most of us not achieving our goals.

So what can we do to avoid falling into this trap? I say we should MARRY OUR GOALS.

  • BE COMMITTED. Make our goals a part of who we are by incorporating it to our habits.
  • BE FAITHFUL. Our goals should not be something that we can just give up. We should stick to them whether in times of difficulties (or failures) and triumphs.
  • BE PASSIONATE ABOUT IT. We should not settle for mediocrity.  We should always strive for improvement in our performance.
  • LEARN TO COMPROMISE. We should know how to prioritize. Let go of other stuffs that prevents us from progressing towards the achievement of our goals.
  • INVEST TIME AND ENERGY. We reap what we sow. If we do not invest, we can expect nothing in return.

So, when do you want to get married? 🙂

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Date Written: July 29, 2016

Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking, Psychology

Surviving Tough Times!

“You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.”- Joel Osteen 

When you will find yourself in a problem situation, remember to remind yourself of these:

  1. You’ve been through worse.
    Think of the greatest adversity you have ever encountered in your life and how you were able to get through it. You may be amazed to discover that you have had survived tougher and rougher situations.
  2. This is just a bad day, not a bad life.
    Just because things are going wrong this time doesn’t mean that life is no longer good. You can cry over your problems, but do not forget the other good things that are going well in your life too. This is the best time to count your blessings.
  3. Change your Paradigm.
    Instead of whining about the bad situation, focus on how this experience would make you a better person. What is it trying to teach you? How will you respond?
  4. Keep Calm.
    Anxiety and stress would only magnify the problem in your own perception. It makes the problem bigger than it really is. So do not stress out and calm yourself. Remember that a problem ALWAYS has a solution. Otherwise, it is not a problem.
  5. You are in control.
    You cannot choose how to feel; BUT you can always choose how to respond.Do not let the situation control you. Be in control of the situation.

Smile even when in trouble, happiness will find you! 🙂

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Date Written: July 15, 2016

Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking, Psychology

Protect Your Self-Esteem!

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”  ― Mark Twain

Some people may not pay attention very much on Self-esteem but it is important and it matters. Why? Because our Self-esteem affects the way we look at ourselves. How we perceive ourselves influences our actions, which will eventually affect the way we live our lives.

Unfortunately, there are certain factors beyond our control that could negatively impact our Self-esteem. Fortunately, we can do something to protect it and if we want to, we can re-build a more positive self-image.

Here are some helpful ways to protect our Self-esteem:

  1. Choose your company

Hang out with people who appreciate you and make you feel good; and depart yourself from people who constantly put you down. We may not always avoid negative people in our lives, but we can always keep reminding ourselves not to allow their negativity to transfer onto us. Remember that you deserve to be loved and respected. So be around people who bring out the best in you.

     2. Know the difference between constructive feedback and destructive criticism.

Constructive feedback is focused on your behavior or action, and it aims to improve you . On the other hand, destructive criticism attacks you personally and it does not have any purpose for your betterment. So take in the constructive feedbacks and do not pay attention to the destructive ones.

  3. Avoid comparing yourself with others.

Do not compare yourself with others especially if you think that they are better than you. Wishing that you are on their shoes is hurtful to your self-esteem. What you can do is analyze their behavior and take note of what they are doing good, and then copy that. If it is healthy and you can benefit from it, you can mirror that attitude or behavior until it becomes you.

     4. Learn to accept compliments

Don’t be shy to accept compliments. Believe and accept that you can really be good at something so learn to say THANK YOU!

  5. Build up positive thoughts about yourself.

Don’t dwell too much on your failures as it will only drag your self-esteem. Instead, catch yourself when you do great! Make sure to celebrate small victories by rewarding yourself to things that you enjoy.

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Date Written: August 08, 2016

Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking

It is OK to say NO!

“When you say ‘Yes’ to Others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to Yourself.”- Paulo Coelho

Usually, we look for things that would make us happy. Sometimes, we forget that another way to be happy is to eliminate the things or reject the people who makes us unhappy.

We put up with people because we consider them friends or they are part of the family. We listen to them whine about their misfortunes, cry over heartbreaks to the nth time, or vent their anger and frustrations. We become the sponge who absorb their negativity.

There are times when we can not reject a favor requested by our boss or a work colleague simply because we are just too shy to say no, or we have this “image” that we want to maintain. There are things that we no longer like to do but keep doing them because they have been considered as traditions, or they have been part of a routine that started ever since no one can even remember!

If we do not learn how to say “No” to the things and to people who stress us out and make us uncomfortable, then we will always find ourselves in an unhappy situation. 

So, the next time someone approaches you to have you do something that you don’t like to do, just take a deep breath and then say NO. Remember that you don’t have to justify your answer for the sake of maintaining a “nice image”. 🙂


Date Written: June 27, 2016

 

 

 

 

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Free Yourself from Fear!

 

Forget Everything And Run, or Face Everything And Rise. It’s YOUR Choice!”- Anonymous

There are times in my life when I am scared to try a new thing just because I can’t imagine myself failing, even if I know deep inside me that I am going to be good at that certain thing. There are moments when I second-guess myself and doubt my own capabilities, fearing that I may badly hurt my self-esteem and may not recover from the blow.

However, I realized that whenever I do that— whenever I allow my fears to dictate my decisions and actions, I would only be wasting opportunities.  I would be throwing away my chances to succeed and thrive.

Fear is an illusion that our minds create to protect us from danger; but we should not allow it to disable us. Fear is NOT real.

So let us make the choice to overcome our fears and start believing that we can! If we fail, it is okay. WE CAN ALWAYS TRY AGAIN. Enjoy life everyone! =)

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Written on: June 07, 2016

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Who Are You?

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” – Albert Schweitzer

There are 5 types of people in the world:

  1. Those who do not know what they want in life, and do nothing about it.
  2. Those who know what they want in life, but don’t know what to do to achieve it.
  3. Those who know what they want in life, know what to do but do nothing.
  4. Those who know what they want in life, know what to do, and do something about it – but inconsistently (by the way, they are also the ones who easily gives up!)
  5. Those who know what they want in life, and do everything they can in their power to achieve it.

My friends, to be happy, it is not enough that one must know what he or she wants in life. It is important to DO something about it.

God has given us resources. All we need to do is use them! 🙂

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Date Written: August 16, 2016