Posted in Life & Wellness, Relationships

Get closer. Have a “WE” time.

“If conversation was the lyrics, laughter was the music, making time spent together a melody, that could be replayed over and over without getting stale.” – Nicholas Sparks

If we want to build strong foundation for relationships, we need to set an exclusive time for bonding, and be tenacious in doing it. It has to be constantly and persistently and it could be any activity that you do daily, weekly, or monthly. The key here is to spend time together on a set schedule repeatedly.

I have a graveyard work schedule, and so I sleep during the afternoon. I deliberately choose to sleep in the afternoon because I want to see and welcome my 5-year old daughter back from school. When she takes her nap, I sleep with her but we have this everyday ritual that we call “Cuddle Time”. 🙂

When we’re in bed, we talk, sometimes we sing together or read a book, then we tickle each other, we exchange kisses on the face, and hug-hug-hug a lot! And then we pray and go to sleep.

We do this every single day. WHY? Because this is how we could strengthen our bond as mother & daughter. This is our “WE” time. And this is what I want her to remember when she grows up- the fun & happy times, not those times when I get frustrated at her.

Now it is not enough to just set a time. It is important to be “present” in that exact moment. Don’t do it with your mind elsewhere, otherwise you are not going to enjoy and it loses its significance for you. It will be just like any other routine.

If you want to strengthen your relationship with your spouse, siblings, parents or friends, be intentional in spending “WE” time with them. Do not put other things before your scheduled time of “togetherness” and ALWAYS be mindful of the moment. Be there and be present physically & emotionally!

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Posted in Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking, Relationships

Let’s Make Wonders!

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”- Leo Buscaglia

Hello Everyone!

Why don’t we start this week by spreading good vibes? Let’s try these simple and very easy steps on how we can share a bit of happiness to someone else’s day today.

1. Smile. 🙂
Sharing your good natured smile would tell others that you are a caring person.  It can brighten up anybody’s otherwise cloudy day. Besides, smiling is one of the best beauty remedies. Anyone who wears a smile becomes more good-looking! 🙂

2.Take time to compliment.
A genuine compliment shows that you pay attention to other people’s efforts and strength. Who would not appreciate one? Just be careful that you are not giving false flattery.

3. Listen.
It’s also nice to just listen from people. When they share great news, celebrate with them. Avoid the urge to share your own good news right away. Let them enjoy “their” moment.
If someone vents out frustrations, he or she may not necessarily be looking for advice, but just need someone to listen. So just listen. They will surely appreciate it.

4. Hug or Give a Pat on the Back.
These gestures when done appropriately is uplifting and could really boost the spirit. Sometimes, touch is even more effective than words.

5. Do a good deed.
As simple as opening a door for someone, picking up someone’s pen or book, or offering to make the coffee could already put a smile on someone else’s face.

As William Hazlitt said, “A gentle word, a kind look, a good-natured smile can work wonders and accomplish miracles.” So let’s go ahead and start making wonders! 🙂

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Date Written: July 25, 2016

Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking, Psychology

Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful

“Self-worth is so vital to your happiness. If you don’t feel good about YOU, it’s hard to feel good about anything else”- Mandy Hale

Some people are not truly happy with their lives because they are too conscious about how people might judge them. They give too much importance on how others would see them, and sometimes, they try to change who they are just to belong and be accepted. Some people think that it will make them happy if they will fit the criteria and meet the standards that other people set up for them.

But I believe otherwise. I believe that one way to live a happy life is to accept ourselves for who we are.

It is not how other people see you that is important. It is how you see yourself that is more important.
It is not whether people will like you or not that matters. It is whether you like yourself or not that matters more.

So stop pretending to be someone you’re not just to be liked and belong.
Stop being insecure and start embracing your real self

When you become comfortable with who you really are, and no longer care too much about your “image”, you will become happier and more attractive to people. So be true to yourself and be your own kind of beautiful! 🙂

(Note: I would like to say thank you to Nicky M. of TheShimmerWithinHer for the inspiration.)

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Date Written: August 11, 2016

Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking

It is OK to say NO!

“When you say ‘Yes’ to Others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to Yourself.”- Paulo Coelho

Usually, we look for things that would make us happy. Sometimes, we forget that another way to be happy is to eliminate the things or reject the people who makes us unhappy.

We put up with people because we consider them friends or they are part of the family. We listen to them whine about their misfortunes, cry over heartbreaks to the nth time, or vent their anger and frustrations. We become the sponge who absorb their negativity.

There are times when we can not reject a favor requested by our boss or a work colleague simply because we are just too shy to say no, or we have this “image” that we want to maintain. There are things that we no longer like to do but keep doing them because they have been considered as traditions, or they have been part of a routine that started ever since no one can even remember!

If we do not learn how to say “No” to the things and to people who stress us out and make us uncomfortable, then we will always find ourselves in an unhappy situation. 

So, the next time someone approaches you to have you do something that you don’t like to do, just take a deep breath and then say NO. Remember that you don’t have to justify your answer for the sake of maintaining a “nice image”. 🙂


Date Written: June 27, 2016

 

 

 

 

Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Psychology

Take the Driver’s Seat!

“Either You Run the Day or the Day Runs You”- Jim Rohn

They say that life is a journey. If that’s the case, I say Congratulations! That makes you an automatic driver! Now, if you’re a good driver, you’re definitely going to make it to your destination. BUT if you’re a lousy driver, you might get hit and hurt, (or do that to another “driver”) and you’re on your way to total disaster.

So, lets get familiarized with some of life’s traffic lights and signs before you go hit the road!

  • STOP:

We live in a fast-paced environment where every second count and everyone is in a hurry. If you think we accomplish more by being always on the go, think again. We all need to take a break, otherwise we get burnt-out.  Also, when we’re always rushing through life, we missed out opportunities. Life is supposed to be enjoyed, not endured. It’s nice to pause once in a while and smell the roses too.

  • READY & GO:

Be ready for life by equipping your self with the right attitude. Remember that your life is how you make it. Help your self attain success by breaking down your major goals into tiny goals that you can achieve. Be aware that there will be “road blocks”, and know that you only fail if you don’t try to overcome them. Think positive and believe in what you can do!

  • PITSTOP:

When  you are not feeling good, you have to do a “Self-check”. Revisit the different aspects of your life and see how you are doing physically, mentally, emotionally, & spiritually. Normally, if we are bothered or feeling something unpleasant, it is our Self telling us that we need to change something in us.

  • U-TURN:

Reflect on previous experience. Be it good or bad, there is always something worth remembering. Even Albert Einstein said that “The only source of knowledge is Experience.”

  • DETOUR:

Sometimes, unexpected and even unpleasant things happen. It is during this occasions that we need to be brave, to go out of our comfort zones, and take risks. We should rise to the challenge and respond to the opportunity that is  given to us!

Enjoy your journey and drive safely! 🙂

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Date Written: June 30, 2016

Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking

Today will be Better!

“I wake up every morning believing today is going be better than yesterday.”             -Will Smith

Have you ever experienced waking up so refreshed, full of energy and high-spirited, but so stressed and worn-out at the end of the day? I admit that I do too, sometimes- during those times when I forget that I can be in control.

You see, people wake up everyday in an auto-pilot mode. We do the same stuff that we do, and we usually treat situations almost the same as we always do. As a result, we experience more or less the same things. Unfortunately, we also experience the not-so-favorable things because we usually let others dictate and influence how we will act.

Here’s a good fact: We have the power to be in-charge and we can choose how to run this day!

Let me share with you some tips that works well with me.

1. Appreciate that you are given one more day to live. Treat it a little more special by doing something extraordinary or unusual.

2. Decide that it will be a good day, and commit your actions to support that decision. This mindset will greatly influence the way that you react to things.

3. Let go of the thoughts that does not make you strong. Don’t dwell on previous negative experience nor stress out on the things that will not happen.

4. When you make a mistake, don’t be hard on your self. Every mistake is an opportunity to grow wiser, stronger, and better. As my previous boss used to tell me before when I make an error, “It’s okay, nobody died!”

5. Before you retire, replay in your mind what happened today.
Savor the good things, and then analyze this: What could you have done differently to make this day much better? The good news is, you can always make tomorrow better than today.

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Date Written: June 28, 2016

Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking

Let’s Plant Life Seeds!- Seed #5: I AM

There are 5 things things in life that we know are important, but do not treat with much importance. You see, simply knowing is useless until what we know is applied and manifested in our behavior or actions.

Let me give you 2 simple facts:

1. OUR TIME ON EARTH IS LIMITED. The average life expectancy of a person is 78.8 years according to CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention)

2. WHAT YOU PLANT IN YOUR EARLY YEARS, YOU WILL REAP IN YOUR LATER YEARS.

Some people would see our life as a book, and we’re the authors.
For this time, I want us to picture our life as a garden and we’re the gardeners planting the seeds that we will reap later in our life.

Let’s talk about the Seed#5, the last and I believe the most important one- I AM.

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“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”- Psalm 139:14

Let me ask you a question: WHO ARE YOU?

Some people with high self-worth would be able to give fantastic answers to this question. But there are also some people who may give negative answers because of low self-worth.

Let me share with you something that I find really helpful to me. How we see ourselves is very important because it affects how we live our life.

If you are always saying negative things like I am a loser, or I am a mess, or I am a total wreck… you are pushing away all the good things that could possibly happen to you. If this is the mindset that you have, you’re saying “NO” to good things before they even happen. WHY? Because you’re affirming to yourself that you deserve to suffer and do not believe that you can be happy.

I’ll tell you a universal fact. NOBODY IS PERFECT! So instead of looking at yourself based on your failures, flaws and imperfections, focus on your good traits. You may have had your fair share of bad moments or experiences, but they do not defy who you are.

Believe me when I tell you that…

(If you’re a parent) YOU ARE A CARING DAD OR MOM
(If you have a spouse/partner)YOU ARE A LOVING SPOUSE/PARTNER
YOU’RE AN OBEDIENT AND LOVING SON OR DAUGHTER
YOU ARE A DEPENDABLE FRIEND
YOU ARE A KIND & HONEST PERSON
YOU ARE A HARD-WORKING STUDENT OR EMPLOYEE
YOU ARE PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING
YOU ARE FUN
YOU ARE FORGIVING & PEACE-LOVING PERSON
YOU’RE DIFFERENT, BUT CONFIDENT
YOU MAY NOT LOOK LIKE A MODEL, BUT YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
YOU MAY NOT BE A GENIUS, BUT YOU’RE SMART ENOUGH
YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE
YOU ARE WORTHY OF GOOD HEALTH
YOU ARE WORTHY OF FORGIVENESS
YOU ARE WORTHY OF ACCEPTANCE
YOU ARE WORTHY OF BLESSINGS!

If you say “I am lovable”…Love will come looking for you…If you say “I am abundant”, opportunities will come knocking at your door…If you say “I am blessed!”, blessings will be poured unto you.

Friends, we have more power over our bodies and our lives more than we think we have. We have to choose carefully what we say next to our “I AM”. Plant positive seeds for your Self-Worth.

Let me end this post with this lovely quote from Joel Osteen, “It doesn’t matter who likes or doesn’t like you, all that matters is that God likes you. He accepts you. He approves of you.”

nina-feb

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Let’s Plant Life Seeds!- Seed #4: WEALTH

There are 5 things things in life that we know are important, but do not treat with much importance. You see, simply knowing is useless until what we know is applied and manifested in our behavior or actions.

Let me give you 2 simple facts:

1. OUR TIME ON EARTH IS LIMITED. The average life expectancy of a person is 78.8 years according to CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention)

2. WHAT YOU PLANT IN YOUR EARLY YEARS, YOU WILL REAP IN YOUR LATER YEARS.

Some people would see our life as a book, and we’re the authors.
For this time, I want us to picture our life as a garden and we’re the gardeners planting the seeds that we will reap later in our life.

For today, let’s talk about Seed #4: WEALTH. 🙂

WEALTH Seed

“Plan carefully and you will have plenty; if you act too quickly, you will never have enough.”-Proverbs 21:5

Before we go further, let me first tell you that I am not a wealthy person and no, I am not financial guru either! In fact, like many of you, I am also just starting to learn how to properly manage my finances.

But I wanted to share with you 3 Principles that I have learned thru reading and listening from experts on money matters.

1. Smart Spending Formula.
Are you the person who uses this formula?

INCOME- TITHES (a.k.a. Eternal Investment)  and EXPENSES (a.k.a. Present needs)= SAVINGS & INVESTMENTS (a.k.a. Future Investments)

If so, then STOP doing that. This budget formula will not help you grow financially. Instead, I recommend that you to try this other formula.

INCOME- TITHES and SAVINGS & INVESTMENTS = EXPENSES .

Some people do not grow financially because they spend first and then save whatever is left after. Unfortunately in most cases, there would only be just a few amount or nothing left for the Savings!

The bottom line is we should take care of our future first before we spend for the present.

2. Live Simply- Invest on people, not on things.
Another reason why some people do not grow financially is that when their income increases, their expenses also increases!

You don’t need to buy a new clothes every time you get your paycheck. You don’t need to buy the newest gadgets or cellphone when you get your salary increase. You don’t need to get a new car or house when you get your bonus or commission.

Live simply and enjoy the more simple pleasures in life.
Have stroll along the park with loved ones. Movie nights with the kids during weekend at home. And potluck picnics with friends.

We don’t need to spend a lot to enjoy and have a good time. 🙂

When Income increases, it should be the Tithes and Savings or Investments that increase along with it. When your income grow, don’t let your expenses grow with it.

3. Be Generous. Help when needed.
Somebody wise said that generosity is the start of blessings. “Generosity is opening your palm, because when you open your palm then you are ready to receive…”

God blesses a cheerful giver. So let’s all learn to share our blessings! 🙂

Let’s nurture the seed of financial abundance so that we can enjoy more and share to others the blessings in life!

nina-feb

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Let’s Plant Life Seeds!- Seed #3: HEALTH

There are 5 things things in life that we know are important, but do not treat with much importance. You see, simply knowing is useless until what we know is applied and manifested in our behavior or actions.

Let me give you 2 simple facts:

1. OUR TIME ON EARTH IS LIMITED. The average life expectancy of a person is 78.8 years according to CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention)

2. WHAT YOU PLANT IN YOUR EARLY YEARS, YOU WILL REAP IN YOUR LATER YEARS.

Some people would see our life as a book, and we’re the authors.
For this time, I want us to picture our life as a garden and we’re the gardeners planting the seeds that we will reap later in our life.

Let us learn about Seed # 3 today, HEALTH. 🙂

Health Seed

“My purpose is to give life in all its fullness”- John 10:10

When we talk about health, automatically what comes to mind is the gym & the boring leafy greens. But health is rather more than that. It is a LIFESTYLE. And if we want to be healthy for the rest of our lives, we need to develop and practice the habit of a good lifestyle.

1. Mobility– whether we like it or not, the only way for us to burn fats is to move, move, and move. That is why exercise works! Now, if you’re like me who is not really a fan of the traditional exercise, let me introduce you to my “organic gym”.
* commute and walk a lot– according to studies, commuting is one of the factors of life longevity in Japan. When you go to the mall or to your office, park in the area farthest to the entrance door. This way, you avoid the stress of fighting for a nearest parking space and you have the wonderful opportunity to walk.
* go window shopping or stroll in the park more often.
* play with your kids and then clean the house until you sweat like never before!
* befriend the stairs! If you’re going up 2 floors only, use the stairs instead of the elevator.
* dance! Play your favorite rhythm and dance like nobody is watching!

2. Diet– what we take into our body is a big deal. Some diseases are acquired because of the food that we intake. Do we eat more junk foods that real foods? Do we dig in fast and instant foods more often than slow home-cooked meals? Do we digest more fruits, vegetables, fish & red meat? Do we drink more water or alcohol? Help your body to detoxify. Eat healthy.

3. Socialization & Family Ties– According to psychology, strong group orientation is conducive to our psychological well-being. When we socialize with others, we develop friendships and relationships. It gives us a sense of belonging and keeps us from feeling alienated. When we are close to our family, we feel more love from one another. Getting & giving more love equals happier life!

4. Set a time to Get Busy– I don’t mean get busy with work or stuffs that stresses you out! Get busy doing the things that gives you pleasure. Read books, paint, play your guitar and record your song, get creative, write your poetry or novel, plant in your garden. Do the things that sharpens your skills or mentality, do things that gives joy to your soul!

5. Meditate– Meditation is not just for physical relaxation but it also increases the brain’s gray matter which contains most of the brain’s neuronal cell bodies. According to a Harvard Study, “participating in an eight-week mindfulness meditation program appears to make measurable changes in brain regions associated with memory, sense of self, empathy, and stress”.

Do you want to live more than 60 years old- full of life and still kicking? Then plant the seeds of a healthy lifestyle. Take care of your health while you’re young, your health will take care of you when you get old.

nina-feb

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