Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking

How To Live “Lighter”

 

“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” – Carol Burnett

Sometimes, life likes to play difficult for us. There are times when we feel we are always struggling. There are times when we feel we’re always failing, or letting other people down. There are also times when we think we’re doing the right thing, but feel otherwise. And there are those times when we wish the world would stop for a while and just let us breathe (or if you’re like me, you wish you could just magically disappear for a certain period of time until everything is great again!)

Well, that is life- at least a part of it is. But we CAN make it better. We CAN make US feel better.

I would like to share with you seven things that I am trying to live by when I decided to live my life in a more mindful way.

  1. Know your self before you can accept and love yourself.
  2. Forgiveness is not for the person you give it to. It is a gift to yourself.
  3. Gratefulness is what makes a person happy, not the other way around.
  4. Always prioritize people over material things. Material things give instant gratification, but healthy loving relationships give lasting satisfaction and fulfillment.
  5. It is okay to get angry, but always choose to love others and yourself.
  6. Failure doesn’t mean you’re a loser. It means you are trying and learning.
  7. No matter how big your problems may seem to be, always remember that you have a bigger GOD! 🙂

Lighten up! Life can be good.

NinaSig

Posted in Life & Wellness, Relationships

What I Want to Be?

To love and be loved is the greatest happiness of existence.” – Sydney Smith

I’ve recently thought of a goal for myself that I definitely think would help make a huge difference and impact in my life.

I want to be a GREAT LOVER. (Before I go further, let me just make it clear that I didn’t mean that in the physical context.)

Yes. I want to be a great lover- not on my mind. Not on my heart. But on my ACTIONS.

I don’t know about you, but I’ll be honest. I’m one of those people who say “I love you”, but my actions sometimes fall short of the word.

I want to be a great lover to my husband.
This would mean that I should learn to listen more in times of arguments, and control my temper & not burst out “I hate you” every time we fight.
This would mean that I should be more understanding and forgiving of his shortcomings, and less of the “I told so…”
This would mean that I should show him more appreciation and, and I should be more caring to him.

I want to be a great lover to my daughter.
This would mean that I should lessen my disciplining, and be more of an encourager.
This would mean that I should be more available when she needs me and less with “can’t you see I’m doing something?” or “Mommy is busy right now…”
This would mean more play time, more story-telling, more reading together, more bonding moments.

I want to be a great lover to my parents.
Let’s face it, they’re getting older. The more that we should be intentional in spending time with them. I’m lucky I grew up close to my parents and didn’t have any unresolved conflicts with them. But if you are one who’s not in speaking terms with your folks right now, I encourage you to forgive and sort things out. Do that, and let me know if it will not make you feel better.

I want to be a great lover to my siblings.
It’s difficult when you and your siblings have their own family, living their own lives. But I want mine to know and feel that they could always reach out to me by me reaching out to them first.

I want to be a great lover to Other People.
I can do this by being more patient with them, and by always choosing to see the good in them despite the wrong-doings.
I will chose to respect them, to care, and pray for them.

These may seem pretty tough, but I don’t think they’re impossible to do. The key word is to be INTENTIONAL. And the only way to do it is to act like it every single day. So, wish me luck, okay? 🙂

P.S. You might want to do the same and let’s improve at being a great lover together !

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Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational

How Did You Live Today?

“Don’t you ever get the feeling that all your life is going by and you’re not taking advantage of it? Do you realize you’ve lived nearly half the time you have to live already?” ― Ernest Hemingway, The Sun Also Rises

If I were to rate how I have lived my life for today, I give it 4/10 (with 10 being the highest). Let me tell you why.

I had the chance to stay at home for 11 or 12 hours before going to work again BUT…

– I didn’t play or had a one on one, heart to heart time with my daughter.

– I didn’t talk to my husband or even asked him how his day was.

– I didn’t get off the bed when I woke up to do much needed exercise.

– I didn’t pray.

– I didn’t enjoy all the beautiful things waiting for me outdoor… I didn’t appreciate the sunny afternoon which could have been a perfect time to do cloud-watching with Gaby, or to watch her play with the other kids in our mini-park.

– I didn’t read a book, nor watch one of the videos for a training that I enrolled myself to.

I was not productive. I was just…lazy.
In other words, I took for granted the wonderful opportunities that TODAY has just offered me.

Most of the time, we may or may not be aware, we tend to neglect the things that we have in abundance.

We don’t take time to appreciate our family because subconsiously, we know that they’ll just be around…

Because of the high-tech generation today, we’re missing the beauty of personal human interaction…

We’re so absorbed in our computers or cellphones, we don’t go out to smell the flowers, to feel the grass on our feet, to feel the warmth of the sun and enjoy nature…

Today, I was lazy to live. But tomorrow, I’ll live a day in my life to the fullest! I hope you do the same!

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Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking, Psychology

Happiness Around the Corner

“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.”- J.R.R. Tolien

HAPPINESS. It is the one thing that almost all of us strive to have.

For some of us, it is very easy to achieve, yet to some it is very difficult- like solving advance trigonometry in 30 seconds!

I want to emphasize that happiness is found in many things. It is us being with the ones we love, it is the smiles that we see from the people we care about, it is us enjoying good times around friends, it is us eating sumptuous meal with our favorite people, it is us listening to good music,  it is us doing what we love the most…

I want to share with you a short video clip from one of the movies that I’ve watched which shows a very good example of happiness. The song that they sung (the lyrics are below) also reminds us to live life at present, and living it the best we could.

I hope that you will find inspiration from the video and the song. Stay happy! 🙂

Don’t look too far. Sometimes, Happiness is just around the corner. 🙂

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Date Written: July 12, 2016
Posted in Life & Wellness, Relationships

Get closer. Have a “WE” time.

“If conversation was the lyrics, laughter was the music, making time spent together a melody, that could be replayed over and over without getting stale.” – Nicholas Sparks

If we want to build strong foundation for relationships, we need to set an exclusive time for bonding, and be tenacious in doing it. It has to be constantly and persistently and it could be any activity that you do daily, weekly, or monthly. The key here is to spend time together on a set schedule repeatedly.

I have a graveyard work schedule, and so I sleep during the afternoon. I deliberately choose to sleep in the afternoon because I want to see and welcome my 5-year old daughter back from school. When she takes her nap, I sleep with her but we have this everyday ritual that we call “Cuddle Time”. 🙂

When we’re in bed, we talk, sometimes we sing together or read a book, then we tickle each other, we exchange kisses on the face, and hug-hug-hug a lot! And then we pray and go to sleep.

We do this every single day. WHY? Because this is how we could strengthen our bond as mother & daughter. This is our “WE” time. And this is what I want her to remember when she grows up- the fun & happy times, not those times when I get frustrated at her.

Now it is not enough to just set a time. It is important to be “present” in that exact moment. Don’t do it with your mind elsewhere, otherwise you are not going to enjoy and it loses its significance for you. It will be just like any other routine.

If you want to strengthen your relationship with your spouse, siblings, parents or friends, be intentional in spending “WE” time with them. Do not put other things before your scheduled time of “togetherness” and ALWAYS be mindful of the moment. Be there and be present physically & emotionally!

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Let’s Make Wonders!

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”- Leo Buscaglia

Hello Everyone!

Why don’t we start this week by spreading good vibes? Let’s try these simple and very easy steps on how we can share a bit of happiness to someone else’s day today.

1. Smile. 🙂
Sharing your good natured smile would tell others that you are a caring person.  It can brighten up anybody’s otherwise cloudy day. Besides, smiling is one of the best beauty remedies. Anyone who wears a smile becomes more good-looking! 🙂

2.Take time to compliment.
A genuine compliment shows that you pay attention to other people’s efforts and strength. Who would not appreciate one? Just be careful that you are not giving false flattery.

3. Listen.
It’s also nice to just listen from people. When they share great news, celebrate with them. Avoid the urge to share your own good news right away. Let them enjoy “their” moment.
If someone vents out frustrations, he or she may not necessarily be looking for advice, but just need someone to listen. So just listen. They will surely appreciate it.

4. Hug or Give a Pat on the Back.
These gestures when done appropriately is uplifting and could really boost the spirit. Sometimes, touch is even more effective than words.

5. Do a good deed.
As simple as opening a door for someone, picking up someone’s pen or book, or offering to make the coffee could already put a smile on someone else’s face.

As William Hazlitt said, “A gentle word, a kind look, a good-natured smile can work wonders and accomplish miracles.” So let’s go ahead and start making wonders! 🙂

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Date Written: July 25, 2016

Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking, Psychology

Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful

“Self-worth is so vital to your happiness. If you don’t feel good about YOU, it’s hard to feel good about anything else”- Mandy Hale

Some people are not truly happy with their lives because they are too conscious about how people might judge them. They give too much importance on how others would see them, and sometimes, they try to change who they are just to belong and be accepted. Some people think that it will make them happy if they will fit the criteria and meet the standards that other people set up for them.

But I believe otherwise. I believe that one way to live a happy life is to accept ourselves for who we are.

It is not how other people see you that is important. It is how you see yourself that is more important.
It is not whether people will like you or not that matters. It is whether you like yourself or not that matters more.

So stop pretending to be someone you’re not just to be liked and belong.
Stop being insecure and start embracing your real self

When you become comfortable with who you really are, and no longer care too much about your “image”, you will become happier and more attractive to people. So be true to yourself and be your own kind of beautiful! 🙂

(Note: I would like to say thank you to Nicky M. of TheShimmerWithinHer for the inspiration.)

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Date Written: August 11, 2016

Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Positive Thinking

It is OK to say NO!

“When you say ‘Yes’ to Others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to Yourself.”- Paulo Coelho

Usually, we look for things that would make us happy. Sometimes, we forget that another way to be happy is to eliminate the things or reject the people who makes us unhappy.

We put up with people because we consider them friends or they are part of the family. We listen to them whine about their misfortunes, cry over heartbreaks to the nth time, or vent their anger and frustrations. We become the sponge who absorb their negativity.

There are times when we can not reject a favor requested by our boss or a work colleague simply because we are just too shy to say no, or we have this “image” that we want to maintain. There are things that we no longer like to do but keep doing them because they have been considered as traditions, or they have been part of a routine that started ever since no one can even remember!

If we do not learn how to say “No” to the things and to people who stress us out and make us uncomfortable, then we will always find ourselves in an unhappy situation. 

So, the next time someone approaches you to have you do something that you don’t like to do, just take a deep breath and then say NO. Remember that you don’t have to justify your answer for the sake of maintaining a “nice image”. 🙂


Date Written: June 27, 2016

 

 

 

 

Posted in Life & Wellness, Motivational, Psychology

Take the Driver’s Seat!

“Either You Run the Day or the Day Runs You”- Jim Rohn

They say that life is a journey. If that’s the case, I say Congratulations! That makes you an automatic driver! Now, if you’re a good driver, you’re definitely going to make it to your destination. BUT if you’re a lousy driver, you might get hit and hurt, (or do that to another “driver”) and you’re on your way to total disaster.

So, lets get familiarized with some of life’s traffic lights and signs before you go hit the road!

  • STOP:

We live in a fast-paced environment where every second count and everyone is in a hurry. If you think we accomplish more by being always on the go, think again. We all need to take a break, otherwise we get burnt-out.  Also, when we’re always rushing through life, we missed out opportunities. Life is supposed to be enjoyed, not endured. It’s nice to pause once in a while and smell the roses too.

  • READY & GO:

Be ready for life by equipping your self with the right attitude. Remember that your life is how you make it. Help your self attain success by breaking down your major goals into tiny goals that you can achieve. Be aware that there will be “road blocks”, and know that you only fail if you don’t try to overcome them. Think positive and believe in what you can do!

  • PITSTOP:

When  you are not feeling good, you have to do a “Self-check”. Revisit the different aspects of your life and see how you are doing physically, mentally, emotionally, & spiritually. Normally, if we are bothered or feeling something unpleasant, it is our Self telling us that we need to change something in us.

  • U-TURN:

Reflect on previous experience. Be it good or bad, there is always something worth remembering. Even Albert Einstein said that “The only source of knowledge is Experience.”

  • DETOUR:

Sometimes, unexpected and even unpleasant things happen. It is during this occasions that we need to be brave, to go out of our comfort zones, and take risks. We should rise to the challenge and respond to the opportunity that is  given to us!

Enjoy your journey and drive safely! 🙂

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Date Written: June 30, 2016