“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”- Tony Robbins
Some people wants to be more successful perhaps in their relationships or careers; other people wants to be wealthier or healthier…but do you wonder why most of us only keep “dreaming” and not exactly live these wants? My belief is that we often fail to realize what we want in our lives because we lack the power to commit to whatever we intend our life would be.
Do you believe that where you are exactly in your life right now is brought about by the decisions that you’ve made in the past? Have you ever wondered how you’ve arrived with those decisions? Are they in sync with your values and based on what are more important to you?
I know a person who wants to strengthen her relationship with her family. She wants to have more quality time with her husband, and she wants to have more bonding time with her daughter. She also wants to improve her health by exercising and becoming more fit. She knows that it will make her happy if she could do these things.
However, this person works night shift for a multi-billion company. She needs to sleep during the day, so she won’t have a problem keeping awake at night. But it’s impossible for her to have a bonding time with her daughter if she sleeps the whole day, so she would need to sacrifice “sleeping hours” and “me time” just so she could spend a few hours of play time and study time with her. But there’s a problem, since she lacks sleep, she also lacks patience and it’s very easy for her to lose temper.
Moreover, since her husband works during the day, she and he don’t get to spend much time together during the week days. There’s even times when they don’t get to see each other. What’s more, since she often gets stressed out with work, and do not get enough sleep, she ends up not having the energy or enthusiasm and time to do much needed exercise.
To cut the story short- this person re-evaluated her life and priorities. She had to decide which are more important to her- is it family or career? is it love and relationship or work and status? is it health or money?
She made a decision based on what she values more and that’s it. Sooner than later, she rendered her resignation and that is one of the best decisions she’d ever made!
Was she afraid or this major change? Of course she is! But she knows that if you want to make a bold change and get more in your life, you need to step up and beat the fear! Do you think this person is happier now? ABSOLUTELY. Not only is she happier but also her husband and daughter! How do I know? Because this person I am talking about is ME! 🙂 Yep, I am now a proud full-time mom and wifey, and part-time with any other stuff I get myself involved with!
My point is this- if you want to improve an aspect in your life but there are things that prevent you from doing it- you have to make a decision, and commit to act on it. How you decide is up to you. As for me, I have this 3 questions that require a solid YES.
- Will I be happy?
- Will it allow growth and make me a better person?
- Will it be good for the people who matters to me?
May God bless your life!