What I Want to Be?

“To love and be loved is the greatest happiness of existence.” – Sydney Smith

I’ve recently thought of a goal for myself that I definitely think would help make a huge difference and impact in my life.

I want to be a GREAT LOVER. (Before I go further, let me just make it clear that I didn’t mean that in the physical context.)

Yes. I want to be a great lover- not on my mind. Not on my heart. But on my ACTIONS.

I don’t know about you, but I’ll be honest. I’m one of those people who say “I love you”, but my actions sometimes fall short of the word.

I want to be a great lover to my husband.
This would mean that I should learn to listen more in times of arguments, and control my temper & not burst out “I hate you” every time we fight.
This would mean that I should be more understanding and forgiving of his shortcomings, and less of the “I told so…”
This would mean that I should show him more appreciation and, and I should be more caring to him.

I want to be a great lover to my daughter.
This would mean that I should lessen my disciplining, and be more of an encourager.
This would mean that I should be more available when she needs me and less with “can’t you see I’m doing something?” or “Mommy is busy right now…”
This would mean more play time, more story-telling, more reading together, more bonding moments.

I want to be a great lover to my parents.
Let’s face it, they’re getting older. The more that we should be intentional in spending time with them. I’m lucky I grew up close to my parents and didn’t have any unresolved conflicts with them. But if you are one who’s not in speaking terms with your folks right now, I encourage you to forgive and sort things out. Do that, and let me know if it will not make you feel better.

I want to be a great lover to my siblings.
It’s difficult when you and your siblings have their own family, living their own lives. But I want mine to know and feel that they could always reach out to me by me reaching out to them first.

I want to be a great lover to Other People.
I can do this by being more patient with them, and by always choosing to see the good in them despite the wrong-doings.
I will chose to respect them, to care, and pray for them.

These may seem pretty tough, but I don’t think they’re impossible to do. The key word is to be INTENTIONAL. And the only way to do it is to act like it every single day. So, wish me luck, okay? 🙂

P.S. You might want to do the same and let’s improve at being a great lover together !

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