“To love and be loved is the greatest happiness of existence.” – Sydney Smith
I’ve recently thought of a goal for myself that I definitely think would help make a huge difference and impact in my life.
I want to be a GREAT LOVER. (Before I go further, let me just make it clear that I didn’t mean that in the physical context.)
Yes. I want to be a great lover- not on my mind. Not on my heart. But on my ACTIONS.
I don’t know about you, but I’ll be honest. I’m one of those people who say “I love you”, but my actions sometimes fall short of the word.
I want to be a great lover to my husband.
This would mean that I should learn to listen more in times of arguments, and control my temper & not burst out “I hate you” every time we fight.
This would mean that I should be more understanding and forgiving of his shortcomings, and less of the “I told so…”
This would mean that I should show him more appreciation and, and I should be more caring to him.
I want to be a great lover to my daughter.
This would mean that I should lessen my disciplining, and be more of an encourager.
This would mean that I should be more available when she needs me and less with “can’t you see I’m doing something?” or “Mommy is busy right now…”
This would mean more play time, more story-telling, more reading together, more bonding moments.
I want to be a great lover to my parents.
Let’s face it, they’re getting older. The more that we should be intentional in spending time with them. I’m lucky I grew up close to my parents and didn’t have any unresolved conflicts with them. But if you are one who’s not in speaking terms with your folks right now, I encourage you to forgive and sort things out. Do that, and let me know if it will not make you feel better.
I want to be a great lover to my siblings.
It’s difficult when you and your siblings have their own family, living their own lives. But I want mine to know and feel that they could always reach out to me by me reaching out to them first.
I want to be a great lover to Other People.
I can do this by being more patient with them, and by always choosing to see the good in them despite the wrong-doings.
I will chose to respect them, to care, and pray for them.
These may seem pretty tough, but I don’t think they’re impossible to do. The key word is to be INTENTIONAL. And the only way to do it is to act like it every single day. So, wish me luck, okay? 🙂
P.S. You might want to do the same and let’s improve at being a great lover together !
Awesome .. Love it
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Thank you! 😊
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Great goal, indeed! Not an easy task, but as my Mom would say… “P’tit train va loin…” literally “little train goes a long way”. Hard work always pays 🙂 I won’t say “good luck”, because it isn’t about luck. But hang on, one day at a time, and I am sure you’ll succeed 🙂 *hugs*
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Thanks Cyri! 😊 I like your mom’s saying and I sound funny saying it in French (I’m guessing that was French!) ☺
I love your advise. I will definitely hang on every day. ☺💛
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Yes, it is French indeed, Nina 😉
Keep your beautiful positive ways!! Very inspiring 🙂 xx
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Thank you Cyri! And keep your wonderful wittu humor…it makes us all happy! 😊💕
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Wonderful post Nina and great reminders of how we can make a difference to those around us. 💕
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Thank you Miriam! I’ve been a little off lately and I need to remind myself to be more loving to my family especially to hubby and Gaby. ☺ No one’s gonna say these to me so I’m reminding my self! 😊💗
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Good for you Nina. We can all use those reminders can’t we? Hugs to you 🙂
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It’s the ideal, but is it possible? We can try.
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Yes, it is. But we can try indeed. 😊
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Definitely a great goal! I’m sure most, if not all, of us to could improve in this area. Read 1 John 4:7-21. It’s all about love!😃 I really like verse 12! 😀
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Thank you! I will read that and check your favorite verse! 😊 Sorry for the reply. I was out of town celebrating birthdays with family. 😊
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Oh, ok. Sound’s like fun!
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Wish you good luck Nina ☺ Sure thing you already are at 50% of accomplishing this goal even right before you start 😉
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Oh I really hope I am Andrei…I still have a long way to go, but we’re getting closer. 😊
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Lovely post and I loved the way you expressed that you want to be a great lover to all the relations that make a difference in your life!!
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Thank you! 😊 That’s my goal…I always fall short but I’m striving! 😊
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That’s the feeling of a lovely writer
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Your kind words are putting smile on my face! 😊
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I am happy 😊 thank you
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