“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”– Deborah Reber
For most people, happiness is achieved by gaining something. It could be a reward, an achievement, a recognition, a relationship, or a pleasant experience. Some of us fail to realize that becoming happy may also mean letting go of things, or to some extent, even people.
Sometimes, it is difficult for us to detach ourselves from people especially if we’ve invested in them, and treated them as friends and family. However in reality, there are people who, instead of being grateful that they are valued and cared for, take advantage of the kindness of others.
It is painful and not easy to let go especially if we care about the person, but this is one thing that we need to learn in order to be happy.
We should set the standard of how we like people to treat us. If we allow them to take advantage of us, they will continue to do so. But if we set boundaries, they will learn to respect us.
Don’t be afraid to be honest and let people know how you feel about them. Don’t be shy to say “No” when you feel that you’re being used and abused. Don’t be scared to lose people in your life if you know in your heart that they do not value you or respect you as a person. You owe it to yourself to not allow other people to drag you down.
Remember that forgiving and understanding others do not mean that we have to tolerate their behavior. If you want to be happy, distance yourself from the people who makes you feel sad. You may be surprised how liberating it will make you feel.