“No act of kindness no matter how small is ever wasted.”- Aesop
Have you noticed how sometimes,we are nicer to other people than to our family? How often are we more accommodating to our visitors than to our spouses? Why is it that we are more courteous and patient to our bosses than we are to our parents? How come that we speak more gently to colleagues than to our children? This is sad, but it is a reality.
But this can change.
We can start in our own home, with our own family. If our children will grow in an environment where respect and kindness to family members are valued, it will penetrate their being. It will become a part of them.
Why don’t we go back to the basics? Here are some of the important ones that we often neglect or forget.
- Say the 3 magic words: “I’m Sorry”, “Thank You”, and “I love you”.
Immediately apologize when you hurt someone. Who will not forgive you when you just go ahead and say “I made a mistake, and I’m sorry” then hug them right away?
Be grateful for the service that you get even if what they’re doing are already expected of them. Thank your mom for cooking for you. Thank your dad for driving you to school. Thank your spouse for taking care of your needs. Saying thank you is letting them know they are appreciated and recognized.
Don’t ever get tired of saying I love you and hug at least once a day!… this is a cliche that will always work!
- Communicate and Talk.
When’s the last time you dated your parents or siblings? When’s the last time you had a heart to heart talk with your children? Be involve in the lives of your family members by knowing what’s going on.
- Offer to Help or Assist.
When’s the last time we offered to do a house chore that is supposed to be done by someone else?
- Be generous with Compliments, not with complaints.
Highlight the positives! According to psychology studies, if we want a positive behavior to continue, we can reinforce it with positive motivation- that’s the benefit of giving praises!
- Do not compare; but Encourage rather.
Comparing a person to another especially if he/she is on the losing end is just a mean thing to do. It crushes down his/her spirit. We should be helping in building healthy self-esteem by providing words of encouragements and affirmation.
We should show kindness in our home everyday, and then extend that kindness outside. When we do, well…just imagine what could happen. ☺
Wishing you all a happy life,