“Unless you see it in your MIND and believe it in your HEART, it will not happen.”
If you’ve been visiting my blog for quite some time, you should know by now that I am a number 1 fan to Jason Mraz!
This Grammy award-winning singer-songwriter has such a great influence to me. Most of his songs are just full of positive messages. Whenever I feel down or unmotivated, I always listen to his music and somehow I’d feel better.
This one I’m sharing with you is my favorite! If I could choose my personal anthem, it will be this song.
I hope you enjoy and get uplifted with it… 🙂
Video courtesy of Youtube
Photo taken from JasonMraz.com
Listen to previous song here.
“When angry, count to four; when very angry, swear.”- Mark Twain
Anger is probably one of the most often experienced emotion. I will be the first to admit that there are times when it’s just too difficult not to give in to feeling angry, especially if the source of anger is someone or something that you care about.
Just recently, I was angry and I felt like the intensity of my anger is something I have not felt or experienced for a very long time. During one of my quiet moments, I was able to contemplate and here are the realizations that I came up with:
- A person who hates is a person who is hurting.
I was angry at someone because I felt like she was being disrespectful, taking advantage, and abusive. At first I was disappointed and annoyed, but my feelings eventually became hatred. I realized it is because I was hurting- because that person is someone that I care about. If somebody hates you, perhaps it’s because they care deeply about you and even they may just don’t realize it themselves.
- Anger is a reaction, and not a response to the problem.
I could be angry for as long as I want but it will not resolve anything until I deal with the issue. Confrontation is something that we all feel dreadful about, and we would like to avoid it as much as we could.
However, if we want to free ourselves from anger, we need to talk to the person, settle the issue and reconcile. We may agree to disagree, but at least straighten things out.
It is also good to remember that we are angry at what they did and not at them. “I am angry at what you did” is not the same as “I am angry at you.”
- Anger evoke other negative emotions.
If we allow our anger to linger longer, it will stimulate more negative emotions on us. We become more irritable, impatient, annoyed, resentful, ill-humored, pique… Its no wonder our anger feels heavier with each passing day.
- An angry person tends to be more subjective than objective.
When we’re angry, we lack focus. Our heightened emotion clouds our judgment. All we see is the wrong and the bad. We seldom empathize with the other party.
- We need others to improve and be better.
I am lucky that I have a husband who lets me know when I am not sensible anymore. He helps me realize how my pride is somehow affecting the way I am interpreting situations. He is the one who assists me in analyzing the root cause of my anger. It pains to admit but we need other people who do not patronize us. We need other people who could tell us straight when something we do is not right anymore. How can we improve or get better otherwise? It’ll be like us doing surgery to ourselves without a mirror.
It is okay to be angry. Even happy people gets angry. Just know when to let it go before it burns you and the people you care for!
“Don’t you ever get the feeling that all your life is going by and you’re not taking advantage of it? Do you realize you’ve lived nearly half the time you have to live already?” ― Ernest Hemingway, The Sun Also Rises
If I were to rate how I have lived my life for today, I give it 4/10 (with 10 being the highest). Let me tell you why.
I had the chance to stay at home for 11 or 12 hours before going to work again BUT…
– I didn’t play or had a one on one, heart to heart time with my daughter.
– I didn’t talk to my husband or even asked him how his day was.
– I didn’t get off the bed when I woke up to do much needed exercise.
– I didn’t pray.
– I didn’t enjoy all the beautiful things waiting for me outdoor… I didn’t appreciate the sunny afternoon which could have been a perfect time to do cloud-watching with Gaby, or to watch her play with the other kids in our mini-park.
– I didn’t read a book, nor watch one of the videos for a training that I enrolled myself to.
I was not productive. I was just…lazy.
In other words, I took for granted the wonderful opportunities that TODAY has just offered me.
Most of the time, we may or may not be aware, we tend to neglect the things that we have in abundance.
We don’t take time to appreciate our family because subconsiously, we know that they’ll just be around…
Because of the high-tech generation today, we’re missing the beauty of personal human interaction…
We’re so absorbed in our computers or cellphones, we don’t go out to smell the flowers, to feel the grass on our feet, to feel the warmth of the sun and enjoy nature…
Today, I was lazy to live. But tomorrow, I’ll live a day in my life to the fullest! I hope you do the same!
Here is another story of what a little act of kindness can do to a person. 🙂
Thank you Tanvi for sharing with us your beautiful conversation with your maid. It is truly a good reminder to be kind to people in all walks of life.
POOJA AUNTY! She is our maid.
She comes twice a day, ring the bell (regardless of whether the door is closed or open), takes off her shoes and enter the house addressing my mum, “Didi hum aa gaye!” (regardless of whether my mom is listening to her or not), does her work, finishes the small glass of tea and two biscuits/rusks served to her, and then leave the house addressing my mum again,” Didi hum jaa rahe hain!” (Regardless of whether my mum is listening or not).
One day I interrupted and asked her why she is addressing my mum whenever she enters or leaves the house. Her response, “To ensure that I am entering and exiting your house with your consent- being on the safe side from any questionable finger, because it is very easy to push the needy or a deprived person into the pit of suspicion and blames.”
I tried to assure her saying that “It’s been years that you’ve been working for us and we trust you. You have seen us grow. Your fear cannot happen in our house.” She nodded her head in agreement and shared one of her many bitter life experiences.
A week ago her small grandson was seriously ill, and was admitted to a hospital. But the doctor refused to continue with his treatment until they could fully pay the hospital fee (Rs.1000). She didn’t have enough money and so she sent her young daughter to one family that she has served for 16 years and trusted the most.
The girl knocked and waited for someone to open the door for 2 hours, however, no one is opening and she only heard the people whispering from inside. So she left hopeless and with heavy heart.
They were forced to leave the hospital with the patient as they were not able to arrange the fee. The next day, when Aunty went to the same house asking for an answer, they lied and blamed her daughter saying that she didn’t go there and that she must have gone somewhere else.
Aunty was highly disappointed with their excuse. It was a matter of rs.1000 only. She was also asked to leave her work and get lost! Her 16 years of dedication, hard work, honesty, and prestige was all gone for Rs.1000. Thankfully, his grandson was able to recover and she got a helping hand from someone else. But she learned a lesson for her life, she stated.
We very often become ignorant towards the people who serve as our backbone. They work to make our life easy, but we sometimes take them for granted. We just forget that they are human too, with beating heart and working brain, and also get hurt with our inhuman behavior.
We don’t bother to share their sorrow, their pain, believing they don’t have these emotions. Why? Because we are paying them? But they are paying us back with their hard work and dedication to make our life smooth and easy, despite the challenges that they face every day.
I felt happy when Aunty told me this: “I feel good when someone calls me Aunty, or addresses me with words like “Aap”, or whenever someone bothers to ask about how my family is doing?”
Sometimes it is very easy to make someone feel happy about their life, by just simple human gestures or little acts of kindness (which often do not cost us anything). Sadly, I have noticed is very hard to practice these days.
Show concern, affection, and respect towards the people who are working day-night for you. It will fuel them to do their duty with more energy, love, and dignity which is their equal right.
It’s the second song for Feel Good Music and this time, I am choosing a song from Switchfoot.
If you’ve watched “A Walk to Remember”, you’re probably one of those who think that Mandy Moore is the original singer of “Only Hope.” BUT if you are a Switchfoot fan like I am, you would know that they had this song first. 🙂
Here’s Switchfoot’s version- I hope that you’ll enjoy listening to it as much as I do.
Video courtesy of Youtube
Photo taken from Switchfoot.com
Listen to previous song here.
My faith as a Christian is not about Religion. For me, it is the relationship that I have with my God.
Let me share with you 5 things that I am very happy for being a Christian- or rather, 5 things that love about my God. 🙂
1. My God loves me and wants me to have eternal life with Him.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”- John 3:16
2. My God is a loving God who commands me to love not only Him but others too, including my enemies.
“But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because He is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.”- Luke 6:35
3. My God is my Father. (How amazing is that?!)
Jesus said to her, “Stop clinging to Me, for I have not yet ascended to the Father; but go to My brethren and say to them, ‘I ascend to My Father and your Father, and My God and your God.'”- John 20:17
4. My God provides for my need.
“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.”- Matthew 7:7
5. My God tells me not to be afraid.
“For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.”- Isaiah 41:13