Posted in Awards, Random Happiness

One Lovely Award

What a beautiful way to end the Love Month (or start the new month) with post such as this…

I am very thankful to Kayla of EssenCentral and Bhavana of Happening to be Happy  for another nomination on my blog. I’m flattered that they find me (ahem!)… I mean, my writings lovely. 🙂

Kayla and Bhavana are both beautiful optimistic women . Their  posts are really uplifting and inspiring. Visit their blogs and you’ll see what I mean.

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  • Thank the person that nominated you and leave a link to their blog
  • Post about the award
  • Share seven facts about yourself
  • Nominate at most 15 people
  • Let your nominees know that they’ve been nominated

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  • I am my husband’s first girlfriend (he’s so lucky he did not get to experience the heartache of breaking-up with a girlfriend!)
  • I learned to play the guitar when I was 11 or 12 years old
  • I wear sneakers more often than I wear heels
  • I don’t eat raw meat and fish, but I eat raw vegetables.
  • I love teaching as a profession (yep, I was a teacher/Guidance Counselor)
  • It’s my dream to write and publish a book someday.
  • I’m more of a giver than a receiver.

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Posted in Life & Wellness, Psychology, Relationships

Relationships Matter

According to studies, one of the things that makes a good life is having good relationship with other people. Being in a warm, loving, and protective relationship does not only make us happier, but it also makes us healthier because it helps prevent us from acquiring chronic diseases that are caused by loneliness and stress.

However, not all relationships are healthy and happy. They could be messy, complicated, or even toxic. Good relationships are not worked out overnight. They need to be tended in order to flourish.

Here are some tips to develop good quality relationships:
1. Communicate– express what you think and feel. Do not assume that other people could read what’s on your mind. Not all people are expert on body language so it’s best to communicate verbally, otherwise you risk being misinterpreted or worse, being unnoticed.

2.Acknowledge– show that you appreciate your partners, children or friends. There is no such thing as silent gratitude. You have to let people know when they did something that made you happy. It will not only reinforce good behavior, but more importantly, they will feel valued and worthy. So catch them at their best and be generous in giving well-deserved praises!

3.Do not Police– Don’t wait for other people to commit mistakes and reprimand like a police officer. If you care about the person, let them be aware of their destructive behavior before it gets worse. This will show them that you care.

4. Accept– Accept that other people are not perfect and so are you. There will always be instances when they could hurt you, or YOU HURT THEM. But always remember that you love them more! So be quick to say sorry and to forgive, and always remind yourself to forget!

5.Be Playful– Do not take things too seriously. When I was in college, I had this mantra for myself: “All problems have solutions. If it doesn’t have a solution, it’s not a problem! So I will not bother…” Learn to laugh at your mistakes and have fun in each other’s company!

People are special. We all need to feel that we are special so let’s start treating each other one! 🙂

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Written on: June 07, 2016

Posted in Motivational, Positive Thinking

Can We Love the Unlovable?

Can we love the people who hate us?
Can we show affection and compassion to the people who hurt and curse us?
Can we be kind to the person  who’d be the first to celebrate when we’re dead?
Can we really love the unlovable?

The answer is NO. If it will only be for our own effort, I don’t believe that there would be a single person who’d openly say  “Yes, I love the person who makes my life miserable!”

The truth is, it is our faith in God that will enable us to love radically.

Jesus’ greatest challenge to us is to love our enemies. To do good to those who hate us. To bless those who curse us. And to pray for those who mistreat us. (Luke 6:27)

Perhaps, our mind is now saying “Sure. Easier said than done.”

BUT Jesus did not just gave us this command. He did not just say, love and forgive those who mistreat you. He also taught us HOW.

According to the Scriptures in Luke 6:38, ” Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

The way that I understand this, it is telling us that how we treat people will eventually help change the way that they treat us. If I become nicer to the person who is mean to me, perhaps there would be a greater likelihood that he or she too will become a little nicer to me, when he or she will see that I am sincere. If I treat them with kindness without any pretensions every time we have an encounter, I think it is not impossible for them to have a change of hearts toward me.

I have learned that sometimes our physiology affects our psychology. It is like the principle of “mind over matter” except that this is pertaining to our feelings following our actions.

If we keep doing loving gestures and  acts of kindness to people who treats us otherwise, sooner or later we will develop the feeling of love for them.

Of course this is not automatic. It does not happen overnight. And if you’ve read my previous posts this month, I cannot stress enough the fact that Love is a decision, a choice, and commitment.

I dare you to challenge God. Why don’t you do what He says and let us know how it’ll turn out! 🙂

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Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Personal, Random Happiness

Have Fun When You Can

You don’t stop having fun when you get old.
You get old when you stop having fun.- Anonymous

When is the last time that you did something that you really enjoyed…something that made you lose track of the time?

I believe that doing something fun is one of the easiest way to show some love for your self. Be it as simple as reading your favorite book or arduous like learning a new skill that you like.

Here are some of the things that I do for fun other than blogging. Yep! This is all me… I’m the one holding the guitar (camera shy), that’s my coloring book in the middle, and my favorite headphone! 🙂

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Here’s one of the songs that I really enjoy listening to. Enjoy! 🙂

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Have fun when you can. Your soul will thank you for it!

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Posted in Inspirational, Positive Thinking

Know Yourself to be Happy

 

“When you know yourself you are empowered. When you accept yourself you are invincible.” ~ Tina Lifford

Do you ever wonder why sometimes, we find ourselves lonely despite our so-called achievements and success? I can think of one reason- because we don’t know who we are. We don’t know what exactly we want in life and we don’t know our purpose. This is why we feel lost and unfulfilled. No wonder even the most successful or wealthy people find themselves being depressed or suicidal.

I strongly believe that to be genuinely happy, we need to know ourselves. We have to figure out what we want so that we can focus and direct our energy and time to that purpose, and not go around wasting another minute of our lives doing the things that don’t give meaning to us.

So why don’t we try to sit down for a while and talk to ourselves as if we are talking to a friend… “What do we like to do?”,  “Can we share that with other people?”, “Would they benefit from it?”,  “Would You benefit from it?”, “Will that make a positive impact in their lives?

If your answer is YES to all these, then start figuring out what can you do NOW in order for you to do what you want to do. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a major step…baby steps are fine, for as long as you are acting on it. Believe me, even the “process” or “journey” itself is enough to change that feeling of loneliness into happiness.

I say good luck to getting to know yourselves and I hope you’ll find joy in discovering your life’s purpose.

Have a happy and meaningful life! =)

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Written: May 26, 2016

Posted in Inspirational, Positive Thinking

Be the Master of Your Emotions

Hello Everyone! 🙂

Let’s do something fun today!

I read this very inspiring quote from Og Mandino  and I thought why not make a good exercise out of it and make it our inspiration for the day!

So, I’ve deleted the end of the phrases and put my own answers. 🙂

How do I change?

If I feel depressed I will offer some time to help others.

If I feel sad I will think of happy times and smile.

If I feel ill I will put on my best clothes (and sneakers! yeah!).

If I feel fear I will pretend to be secret superhero =P

If I feel inferior I will remind myself that I know some things that others most likely do not know.

If I feel uncertain I will fake it ’til I make it.

If I feel poverty I will trust in the Lord’s providence and let go of worries.

If I feel incompetent I will remind myself of my past achievements especially for THAT one time (sorry guys, I’ll keep it my little secret for now =)

If I feel insignificant I will think of people who have appreciated me for showing them kindness at certain points in their lives.

Today I will be the master of my emotions.

I had a really fun time doing this! Now it’s your turn to fill-in the blanks. I hope you’ll enjoy as much as I did and more importantly, remind yourself to be the Master of Your Emotions today!

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Posted in Inspirational, Life & Wellness, Positive Thinking

5 Ways to Love Yourself More

“If you don’t love yourself in the right way, you can’t love your neighbor. You can’t be as good as you are supposed to be.”-Joel Osteen

  • I want you to imagine how you would like someone to love you… For sure, you’d want them to accept you whole-heartedly. You’d want them to affirm you, to be proud of your accomplishments, and to push you to continue to grow and be a better person. You’d want them to forgive you and give you another chance. You’d want them to tell you how beautiful a person you are. And definitely, you don’t want them to drag you down with their negativities. Wouldn’t it be nice if there is someone who could do that? What if I tell you there is- and has always been there. Yes, you guess it- I am referring to YOU.

I could give you 3 reasons why we must love ourselves.

  • Because God loves us as His sons and daughters, and we are beautiful in our own unique way.
  • Because we are able to love more, and share the best of our selves when we are at our best .
  • Because we only have one Self- so why not treat it the best we can, right?

Here are 5 Ways that we could love ourselves:

1. Greet yourself with happiness & affection.
When you wake up each day and look in the mirror, smile at the person who’s looking straight back at you. Tell him or her “Gosh, you’re so gorgeous today! You’re going to have a wonderful day and you’ll do great!”
When you put your mindset in a positive state at the start of your day, you’re attracting positive energies and you will most likely feel nicer and experience a good day.

2. Be compassionate with your self.
Don’t be too harsh or critical to your self. If you fail on a certain task, it’s okay (unless somebody else dies because of it, which I highly doubt!). Treat each mistake as lesson to be learned. If right now, all you can see are the negatives in you- switch your lens and review the things that you did right and the things you did that ýmade other people happy.

When I’m starting to hate myself for feeling like I am not being a good mom because I stay late in the office, I do a flashback and recall the other good things that I did or do- like teaching and guiding Gaby in her assignments, spending some time playing and just having fun with her before I put her to sleep in the afternoon, cooking her new meals, etc… This is not a way to justify a certain action but rather, it’s being mindful of our imperfect human condition and having that understanding with ourselves.

According to science research, “Self-compassionate people are better able to accept who they are regardless of the degree of praise they receive from others. In addition, people who are high in self-compassion are no more likely to be narcissistic than people low in self-compassion.”

3. Nurture your self & your need.
Nurturing ourselves means taking care of ourselves by attending to our needs, in order to be healthy in the different aspects of our well-being.
For instance, if your body is shouting for help physically- then make the effort to exercise, get 8 hours sleep & drink plenty of water. If your mind keeps bothering you because it needs upgrading- then learn new skills or improve what you already know. Enroll or have someone teach you to do things that you are passionate about. If your soul is crying for help- seek to have a deeper relationship with God, meditate, love and serve other people, show more kindness to others.

4. Set your boundaries.
Don’t let emotional vampires take advantage of you and drag you down in their spiraling hole of negativities. As much as possible, avoid surrounding yourself with people who constantly whine, people who are best in blaming others or situations, and people who cannot take accountability. Be with the ones with lighter dispositions and those who you would like yourself to be associated with. As the old saying goes, “birds of the same feathers flock together.”

Learn to say No. It is not your job to say yes to every favor asked of you. Know that not because everybody else do it does it mean that you have to. Just remember that whenever you say Yes to others, you are not saying No to yourself.

5. Invest yourself in happy relationships.
Are your relationships giving you ùpositive influence? They should be providing you a sense of self-worth, self-fulfillment, and self-assurance. Involve yourself in happy relationships that allow you to be you without being judged. Choose to be in relationships where you and the others in it are growing in love!

Make it your business to love your Self first. I agree with the person who  said that “you are so worth your time and attention“. Besides, it will be easier for you to love others and for others to love you when you do love your own Self. 🙂

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