“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace & joy.”- Dalai Lama
I have a work colleague who is often late in sending her reports. She hasn’t been meeting the required metrics, and she always has an alibi. It’s either she has a lot on her plate, or she needed to take care of something else that is urgent, or the workload isn’t fair, etc…Never did she once admitted that she messed up and that it is her fault for coming up short. But when there’s commendation for the account that she handles, it is all because of her.
In reality, there are really people who only want to take credit for what they do right and for the good that they experience. Everything that is pleasant about their life is because of their own doing. However, they don’t take accountability when something bad or wrong happens. They point the finger to other people or to circumstances.
If we want to grow as successful & mature individuals, we have to learn to accept accountability. We can take all the credits for all the amazing things that could happen to us for as long as we also take responsibility for the bad things that happen to us.
If we admit our mistakes, we find out our weaknesses. And If we discover our weaknesses, we know what we need to improve to better ourselves.
That is the only way for us to take full ownership of our lives.
Whether we like it or not, the fact is that we are responsible for our own experiences and what we become. It is okay to accept that sometimes, we are the problem. The real question is- what are we going to do about it? 🙂