“Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.”– Parker Palmer
Some people think it’s selfish to love yourself and to take care of yourself before others.
I’ll tell you why it’s not, and it’s pretty simple: WE CAN ONLY GIVE THE BEST OF OURSELVES WHEN WE ARE IN OUR BEST.
If we always give love, without taking some, we’ll eventually ran out of love to give.
If we keep being kind, without experiencing some, we’ll eventually tire of being kind.
If we always look out for others, and forget to lookout for ourselves, sooner or later we will be the one in danger.
Imagine that you have a “goodness vessel” in you, and you get all the love and care that you give out to others from this vessel. If this vessel is not being refilled, it will eventually ran out.
So does this mean that we do nice things to others so that they do the same to us then? Do we give love so people will love us back? Do we need to be kind so people will be kind to us? Then our vessel will be refilled?
The answer is NO. Not necessarily. Because we ourselves can love and be kind to our own selves.
After a day’s work, before you retreat for the evening, or during the first hour of the day, you can actually switch to your “Me Time” mode. Do things that gives you happiness because it invigorates your soul. You can meditate, read a book, visit your garden and smell the flowers, jog, paint, scribble on your journal, cuddle up with your love ones, or drink your favorite coffee or eat ice cream!
Gisele Bundchen said that, “If you are happy, you can give happiness. If you don’t love yourself and if you are unhappy with yourself, you can’t give anything else but that.” I definitely agree with her.
If you love your self, you become happier. And if you are happy, it is easier for people around you to be happy too! As the old song says, “…learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” 🙂
I wish everyone a great week ahead!