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A Formula for Happiness

I recently learned an effective formula for happiness.

But before I share it with you, I want to tell you first that contrary to what many people believe, the opposite of happiness is not necessarily loneliness or sadness. It could be that the opposite of happiness is FEAR.

To explain further, allow me to give you examples.

We are not happy for a lot of reasons… here’s to name a few:

We do not like our current job. We can choose to resign and follow our passion but we’re afraid we’ll only fail.

We do not like our boss. We can choose to disagree with his methods, but we choose to keep quiet and simply follow because we’re afraid that he might fire us.

We’re not getting any richer. We can choose a different career path but we’re afraid to take risks.

We stay in unhealthy relationships. We can choose to leave but we fear nobody else will accept and love us.

We cannot be our self. We choose to pretend because we’re afraid people will not like us or they will judge us if we show who we truly are.

We hurt our family or friends. We can choose to ask forgiveness and re-connect, but we fear rejection.

We can’t tell a friend that we love him or her. Well we can, but would not because we’re afraid of getting embarrassed or losing the friendship if our feelings are not reciprocated.

So how do we overcome our FEAR? The answer is LOVING ENOUGH.

If you love yourself enough– you will not allow people to disrespect and maltreat you.

If you love who you are enough– you will believe more on what you are capable of and trust what you can achieve.

If you love your family enough– you will get out of your comfort zone to seek what’s the best for them.

If you love your dreams enough– you will not be afraid to take risks. And even if you fail multiple times, you will not give up.

If you love others enough– you will be kinder and more forgiving to them.

If you love God enough– you will not be afraid to surrender your life and trust His will and plans for you.

If our love to ourselves and to others become greater than our fears, that is the time that we can be happy.

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23 thoughts on “A Formula for Happiness

  1. You really make it seem so easy with your presentation but I find this matter to
    be really something that I think I would never understand.

    It seems too complicated and very broad for me.
    I’m looking forward for your next post, I’ll try to get the hang of
    it!

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    1. Thank you Tonya for your honest remarks. To put it in a simpler manner, my idea is that unhappiness is brought about by not being able to do things that you know would make you happy, because you fear the possible negative outcomes. For example, writing is your passion- that is what you love to do. But you can’t make it a profession because you’re afraid you might not succeed as a writer, or you might not earn enough to satisfy your financial needs. So you settle with the job that you have which pays off the bill anyways, even if you know that you’ll be happier being a writer. But IF you love your dreams enough to move you to follow it, then you can overcome your fears and pursue it, trusting yourself to succeed despite the possibility of failure. I hope that I was able to give you a better picture. 🙂

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