For the first day of September, I want to make my post a little different. 🙂
Here’s my S.E.P.T.E.M.B.E.R. tips for growing happy relationships:
S-Smile. No matter what mood you are in, force yourself to smile. It always make people feel better when they see someone smiling at them.
E-Embrace. Hugging someone speaks louder than words. It means “I love you”, “I care for you”, “You’re special”, “I’m happy for you”, “I’m here for you”. “You’re amazing”, “You make me proud”, “You’ll get through this”… and so much more!
P-Pat. Giving someone a pat on the back (or for some on the head) is a huge act of encouragement. Sometimes, you don’t even need to say anything
T-Talk. Take the time to talk to the people that matters to you. Go beyond the usual “hi & hello”. Ask how they are doing, what they’re up to, what they have done previously, and BE INTERESTED. Focus on them and not on yourself.
E-Empathize. I was just reminded on a particular post that we need to give people a break more often. When they are behaving in a “not-so-desirable” manner, we have to refrain from reacting negatively and consider that they may be going through a rough time. One day, we may need the same favor.
M-Make Memories. In order to do this, go to the next…
B-Be There. Be present not just physically but more so emotionally. Connect with people mindfully. The only way that we could appreciate and enjoy a moment with someone is when we put all our energy and focus to that particular moment.
E-Excite. Make yourself exciting for people by giving unusual surprises. Excite your spouses with a surprise date. Excite your children by joining them on their playtime or if you have older children, surprise them by letting them to do something they really like WITH you. Give your friends surprise treats. Give your parents or in-laws surprise visits. Give your co-workers surprise compliments. Just do something that will excite and make someone feel good! 🙂
R- Remember that relationships matter. If you want to have wonderful relationships with people, you need to set a time for them too. You need to make them feel that you ARE and WILL ALWAYS BE available for them.